All Relationships Are For Healing YourSelf

Affirmations:

I am totally responsible for my thoughts and feelings, words and deeds.

I forgive myself for my negative and fearful, unkind and unloving reactions.

I choose peace instead of this.

I do the inner work I need to do to find the helpful responses to all people and situations.

  

Every relationship reveals what we need to heal.

Relationships are an obvious projection of what in us we are lacking.

Families, partnerships, friendships, coworkers and even humanity is an out-picturing of what is within.

Everything unhealed is a call for Love.

Where do you begin?

What is yours to do?

Do you respond or react?

Why is it always up to you?

Begin where you are.

Love the one you are with.

Begin with loving you.

Forgive and allow, trust and free you to uncover All Of YOU.

Whatever you see is yours to love.

Wherever you look, you will see what you can offer each person and situation.

When it is in front of you or below your feet or on TV or in your mind, you can offer compassion.

We have an expansive world to heal, and yours belongs to you to heal within your self.

You can respond with love or react with fear.

You can step forward in faith or step away in disgust.

You can react and attack or respond and offer help.

You can choose to clear reactive emotions and respond with compassion, kindness and respect.

With children, we are often respond or react as we experienced and learned.

With partners, we often respond or react as we observed our parents or others relate.

With men and women we learn from our history and habits, beliefs and experience.

When we react to anyone or anything with fear, we are feeling unsafe and unaware of our choices.

To learn what is helpful rather than harmful, we must step away from the fear and see clearly.

To stop reacting in a habitual or negative way, we must take a time out and calm our mind and emotions.

To find a better way, we must be see what isn’t working and seek other more healing choices.

To erase emotional reactivity, we must forgive ourselves, erase and delete our past hurtful habits.

To erase what is hurtful, take total responsibility for what you think and feel and say and do.

To stop what is harmful, clear your fears and take control of your own thoughts and feelings.

To begin to heal what is not working, seek better ways to respond with respect and understanding.

Find your own place of inner peace and you will understand how to be truly helpful to others.

Respecting and Appreciating You for being Willing,

Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships

With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.

(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.

Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.

Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.

Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

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As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.

Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.

Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.

Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.

With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.

With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.

With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Forgive the past.

Learn from any mistakes.

Heal your disappointments and hurts.

Grow with your goals.

Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.

No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

Take nothing personally.

Make no assumptions.

Keep your agreements.

Always give your best.

Everything Works! (When You Do Your Work!)

Affirmations:

I do what is mine to do.

If I see something that needs to be done, it is mine to do.

I forgive myself for reacting with anger, hurt, blame and just do the work.

I respond to the work that is needed with respect and gratitude.

If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

When you don’t quit, you eventually succeed.

Patience and persistence lead to success.

Life is a grand “do-over”.

You will be presented with the same lesson over and over until you learn it.

You will find the same issues keep coming up until you recognize what you can change.

You will eventually learn that your life is your responsibility to make right with you.

You must understand that no one can change or fix what you insist doesn’t belong to you.

Relationship after relationship the same issues arise.

Time after time the same fears return.

Over and over similar problems occur.

The common denominator must be you.

Why doesn’t Higher Power or partner or parents or government intervene?

Why do you have to do it all?

Why doesn’t anything work to calm the fear and confusion or heal the pain?

Why do you have to do it all over again and again?

Complaining and nagging doesn’t work.

Demanding and threatening doesn’t work.

Begging and pleading doesn’t work.

Drinking, Drugging and medicating doesn’t work.

When we look for quick fixes, we make get temporary results.

When we change partners, doctors, clothes or jobs, we may get temporary changes.

When we learn avoid, distract, deny or disengage, we may find immediate relief.

But we still have our own forgiveness and healing, growth and inner work to do claim.

Buried under years of habits and addictions, accumulated pain and problems, there is the Real You.

Uncovering and releasing all that has be feared and revered, deceived and achieved, you find your Truth.

Naming and claiming the Essence of You is our invitation to come home and finish the job.

Stop telling the hysterical stories and see Who and Where You Are right

Do the work that is right there right now.

Listen to and Love the One You Are inside.

Treat yourself and others with respect and appreciation.

Learn what works with everyone and everything.

Love is the answer whatever the question.

Trust will settle every problem now.

Forgiveness offers everything we want.

There is nothing to do, but find the Real You.

Trusting you to do what works to be the REAL YOU!

Betty Lue

There Is No Medicine

There is not a medicine, herb, ointment or potion that can compare to the power of love and forgiveness for healing the body, emotions, mind and soul. 

Love and forgiveness must be present before true healing can occur.  By consciously choosing love and forgiveness, we can free ourselves of the blockages commonly known as pain and dis-ease. 

Forgiveness opens the door for love to enter.  When you choose to forgive yourself, you naturally let go of guilt.  You are then free to love yourself and life more fully.  When you find it in your heart to forgive another person, you will naturally let go of resentment and anger.  You are then free to love that person more fully, and will experience greater harmony in all of your relationships. 

This is the basic formula necessary for healing ourselves on an individual level and for healing our world on a global level.                   

                                                          Neil S. Cohen 

Honor Your Own Differences

Affirmations:

I trust my inner knowing and guidance.

I do what works for me.

I live by the laws of forgiveness and love.

I honor my differences and yours.

Do what is right and true for you.

Honor your own wisdom and truth.

Relinquish the need to convince others.

Stop complaining and explaining.

There is no need to convince anyone of what you know is true for you.

There is no need to try to get others to believe what you see and feel and know.

There is no need to get agreement or understanding when you trust yourself.

There is no need to be ‘Right” when believe in what is right for you.

Everyone perceives through their own emotional and historical (sometimes hysterical) filters.

Everyone has their own unique healing and learning journey in life.

Everyone is doing the best they know with where they are.

Everyone has their own challenges, mistakes, regrets and inner wisdom.

Opinions are just opinions based on what each one sees and believes to be right.

Facts are just our perception of what we see to be facts, but seen differently by others.

Advice is always given through our own lens of archived knowledge, experience and beliefs.

What is true and right for one is often not true and right for another.

How do we know and own our differences?

When easily influenced by parents, teachers, books and media, we may not have our own “truth”.

When comparing, exploring and seeking for answers, we may choose to try out different ways.

When we do not know what is right and true, what we do is seek the one who seems to know.

Dare, do, listen and be silent.

No need to convince anyone of your choices.

If what you choose works, do it for yourself.

If what you do is right for you, you will know it by how you feel inside.

Abide by your own right way.

Live true to your inner voice.

Honor what feels good and whole.

Be true to the Real and authentic you.

No one to please.

No one to answer to.

Nothing to prove.

So observe what works best for you.

Trusting you to listen to your own conscience and inner guide.

Those who are true to what is right for themselves will succeed.

Blessings to the wisdom that comes from what works.

Betty Lue

Living in Integrity

Affirmations:

I live and breathe what is inspiring and loving for me and all.

I trust my inner compass to know what is healthy, good and beneficial.

I easily let go of all mistakes, habits and misunderstanding.

I choose to live the Highest Truth I know.

  

Dare yourself to honestly examine the questions below!

Trust honest and integrity will offer you Great Success.

Where we cheat or lie to ourselves, we fail.

We can heal whatever we reveal!

Integrity is identifying, owning and honoring ones’ own truth.

Ethics change with family, culture, time, values, religion and more.

Authentic living is listening within to what is True for You.

When we are in integrity with ourselves, we have consistent inner peace and happiness.

Your life becomes an obvious canvas on which you can see what is working and what is not.

Consider developing the habit of forgiving, undoing and releasing all that is not RIGHT for you.

Choose consciously to do and live what is right and true for you in all things.

Here are some questions which may open you up to what is right and true for you.

Self Care and Respect

Education and learning: Are you learning something everyday?

Health and hygiene: Do you eat, sleep, move and relax the right amount for you.

Addiction, Drugs, Alcohol, Rx drugs: Do you overuse or abuse anything?

Inspiration: Do you ingest inspiring thoughts, words, practices or people daily?

Self Discipline: Do you choose your thoughts, emotions and activities?

Communication and Respect

Do you talk with others in your thoughts and with respectful and honest  words?

Do you naturally use affirming words for yourself and others?

To you actively express gratitude and apology as called for?

Do you easily say “No” to what may be hurtful to yourself and others?

Do you keep confidences and not talk about others without them being present?

Money Exchange and Fairness

Do you spend your money consciously and effectively?

Do you save money monthly for future needs or creations? No debt to anyone.

Do you contribute regularly to what benefits your body, mind and spirit?

Do you give money to people and situations use the money wisely?

Do you maintain a balanced budget and healthy control of your finances

Response-Ability

Do you take impeccable care of your authentic Self?

Are you prepared and willing to be helpful when called upon?

Do you lead a good life and model for others well-being?

Are you respectful in how you treat yourself and others?

Do you offer encouragement, wisdom and support when asked?

Integrity and Ethics

Are you conscious and conscientious about your choices?

Do you make decisions based on what is best for all concerned?

Are you openly acknowledge mistakes and areas of needed learning?

Do you live in the present, healing and forgiving the past?

Do you abide by the rules and regulations and keep your agreements with others?

Relationships

Can you respectfully  step away from disagreements without arguing to be right?

Do you allow for differences in beliefs, perceptions, choices and priorities?

Can you let go of our position and see another’s point of view with acceptance?

Are you willing to easily apologize, ask for forgiveness, and return to love and gratitude?

Do you trust and free yourself to choose what is best for you in all relationship?

Encouraging you to let go of what is no longer valuable for your best Self.

Life will reward you mightily.

Betty Lue

Lettting Go Can Be Fun, Safe and Easy!!

30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!

This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.

This daily practice will heal and transform your life

With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.

Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.

Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.

Daily Practice:

Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.

Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.

Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.

(No need to understand or feel anything.)

I forgive you for being mean.

I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.

I forgive my body’s limitation.

I forgive myself for being late.

I forgive everything.

Make the sound “AAAH” for 1minutes.

Imagine that you are opening your mind.

Now write and say 30 Choices.

I choose to be happy.

I choose to be free.  

I choose to do what I love.

I choose to forgive….

In the Evening (before bed)

Write and say 30 Gratitudes

I appreciate the energy I have.

I love being happy.

I am grateful I have you in my life.

I thank God.

Make the  sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1 minute.

PS Even a few of each is better than none.  

Do what you can and trust it is working.

Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.

The key is your willingness to DO THE WORK!

Loving You always, 

Betty Lue