Sunday, August 31, 2014

All Relationships Are For Healing YourSelf

I am totally responsible for my thoughts and feelings, words and deeds.
I forgive myself for my negative and fearful, unkind and unloving reactions.
I choose peace instead of this.
I do the inner work I need to do to find the helpful responses to all people and situations.
Every relationship reveals what we need to heal.
Relationships are an obvious projection of what in us we are lacking.
Families, partnerships, friendships, coworkers and even humanity is an out-picturing of what is within.
Everything unhealed is a call for Love.

Where do you begin?
What is yours to do?
Do you respond or react?
Why is it always up to you?

Begin where you are.
Love the one you are with.
Begin with loving you.
Forgive and allow, trust and free you to uncover All Of YOU.

Whatever you see is yours to love.
Wherever you look, you will see what you can offer each person and situation.
When it is in front of you or below your feet or on TV or in your mind, you can offer compassion.
We have an expansive world to heal, and yours belongs to you to heal within your self.

You can respond with love or react with fear.
You can step forward in faith or step away in disgust.
You can react and attack or respond and offer help.
You can choose to clear reactive emotions and respond with compassion, kindness and respect.

With children, we are often respond or react as we experienced and learned.
With partners, we often respond or react as we observed our parents or others relate.
With men and women we learn from our history and habits, beliefs and experience.
When we react to anyone or anything with fear, we are feeling unsafe and unaware of our choices.

To learn what is helpful rather than harmful, we must step away from the fear and see clearly.
To stop reacting in a habitual or negative way, we must take a time out and calm our mind and emotions.
To find a better way, we must be see what isn’t working and seek other more healing choices.
To erase emotional reactivity, we must forgive ourselves, erase and delete our past hurtful habits.

To erase what is hurtful, take total responsibility for what you think and feel and say and do.
To stop what is harmful, clear your fears and take control of your own thoughts and feelings.
To begin to heal what is not working, seek better ways to respond with respect and understanding.
Find your own place of inner peace and you will understand how to be truly helpful to others.

Respecting and Appreciating You for being Willing,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
Take nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.

Always give your best.