Affirmations:
I am totally responsible for my thoughts and feelings, words and deeds.
I forgive myself for my negative and fearful, unkind and unloving
reactions.
I choose peace instead of this.
I do the inner work I need to do to find the helpful responses to all
people and situations.
Every
relationship reveals what we need to heal.
Relationships are an
obvious projection of what in us we are lacking.
Families,
partnerships, friendships, coworkers and even humanity is an out-picturing of
what is within.
Everything unhealed
is a call for Love.
Where do you
begin?
What is yours to
do?
Do you respond or
react?
Why is it always
up to you?
Begin where you
are.
Love the one you are
with.
Begin with loving
you.
Forgive and allow,
trust and free you to uncover All Of YOU.
Whatever you see
is yours to love.
Wherever you look,
you will see what you can offer each person and situation.
When it is in front
of you or below your feet or on TV or in your mind, you can offer compassion.
We have an expansive
world to heal, and yours belongs to you to heal within your self.
You can respond
with love or react with fear.
You can step forward
in faith or step away in disgust.
You can react and
attack or respond and offer help.
You can choose to
clear reactive emotions and respond with compassion, kindness and respect.
With children, we
are often respond or react as we experienced and learned.
With partners, we
often respond or react as we observed our parents or others relate.
With men and women
we learn from our history and habits, beliefs and experience.
When we react to
anyone or anything with fear, we are feeling unsafe and unaware of our choices.
To learn what is
helpful rather than harmful, we must step away from the fear and see clearly.
To stop reacting in
a habitual or negative way, we must take a time out and calm our mind and
emotions.
To find a better
way, we must be see what isn’t working and seek other more healing choices.
To
erase emotional reactivity, we must forgive ourselves, erase and delete our
past hurtful habits.
To erase what is
hurtful, take total responsibility for what you think and feel and say and do.
To stop what is
harmful, clear your fears and take control of your own thoughts and feelings.
To begin to heal
what is not working, seek better ways to respond with respect and
understanding.
Find your own place
of inner peace and you will understand how to be truly helpful to others.
Respecting and
Appreciating You for being Willing,
Betty Lue
Recommendations for All
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
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As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationship.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.
Forgive the past.
Learn
from any mistakes.
Heal
your disappointments and hurts.
Grow
with your goals.
Live
with gratitude.
You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.
Four Agreements by don Miguel
Ruiz
Take
nothing personally.
Make
no assumptions.
Keep
your agreements.
Always
give your best.