Affirmations:
I am responsible for everything I experience.
I take impeccable care of myself so I can always respond with Love.
I forgive everything that interferes with being whole, happy and
free.
Love is my natural state, so my thoughts, words and deeds teach
only Love.
Responsibilities: You might
want to take a look at your Responsibility Assessment!
Being
responsible means the ability to respond.
When you are
willing to be fully able to respond, you respond in a respectful ways.
When you are
open to being able to respond, you respond with loving kindness.
When you are
grateful to be able to respond, you respond with wisdom and consciousness.
Do you
respond to others with kindness?
Are you
responsive to the requests of your family?
Do you
easily respond with respect to your children?
Are you
able to respond rather than react without feeling resentment?
Did you
know your real work is to be able to respond with love and respect?
Did you know
that your real purpose is to be responsible for your own happiness?
Did you know
that you have the job of responding first to your self?
Do you
understand that your primary responsibility is to be happy?
When you
are happy, you are able to respond consciously to others.
When you are
on purpose, you are willing to be responsive.
When you are
responsible, you easily contribute your best.
When you are
doing your real work, everyone is blessed.
To be
responsible for your words and behavior is essential to teach others.
To be aware of
how your thoughts impact others is necessary to be responsible.
To choose
wisely how to benefit yourself and others is being responsible.
To give
attention and intention to your thoughts, words and deeds is being responsible.
When you
interact with those who are irresponsible, make responsible choices.
When you want
to teach responsibility to your children, be responsible.
Demonstrate
being responsible by not complaining or criticizing.
Be willing to
change your thoughts, words and interactions to show you are response-able.
When
you are teaching responsibility, be responsible for everything.
BE
responsible for your thoughts and how you express them.
BE
responsible for your feelings and how you share them.
BE
responsible for your behavior and how you interact.
BE
responsible for your relationships and you respect others.
BE
responsible for your home and how you keep it clean and orderly.
BE
responsible for your finances and how you spend your money.
BE
responsible for your health and how you care for your whole self.
BE
responsible for your work and how you use it for the good of all.
BE
responsible for your inspiration and how you contribute to what inspires.
Your world
learns from you to be responsible or irresponsible.
Others copy
your behavior to learn to be responsive with love or reactive with fear.
You impact
your self and others by making love-based or fear-based choices.
Your respect
and responsibility teaches your thoughts, words and deeds.
Thank
you fro being respectful and responsible for your life.
Betty
Lue
Responsibilities
for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive
everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be
courteous and helpful.
Give
your best, no matter what others do.
Make
no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep
your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take
turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be
fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate
all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.
Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop
judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop
negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive
and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.
Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use
“please” and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk
in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop
demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t
pretend you know, when you don’t know.
Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate
addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean
up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow
through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean
your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat
the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop
excessive spending and Save your money.
Be
respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No
drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No
swearing or name-calling.
Never
abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop
expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior
in clean home.
Behave
as if God was listening.
Behave
as if a judge was watching.
Behave
as if your most beloved partner was with you.
Suggestions for Responsibilities for Kids
Warning: If you are not as responsible as
an 8-10 year old, begin with yourself~
You Can Expect Your Child to Begin at Specific Ages
We have failed to teach responsibility in our homes.
Children expect others to do for them -- including homework.
Many "Baby Boomers" were never trained to be
responsible and hence they have failed to teach this important characteristic
to their children. As a result children grow up without this godly
characteristic and so they lack this essential characteristic for success. Both
the physical world and the spiritual world require responsibility to succeed.
If we teach out children responsibility in the home, it
will have the following beneficial effects:
1. Our
children will become responsible. They will be more of a joy to live with at
home.
2. Because
responsible children are such a unique commodity in today's society, our
children will be sought after for babysitting, lawn mowing, and other
employment opportunities outside the home.
3. Parents
will find themselves with more energy, because they are doing less tasks that
now are being done by their children.
4. Because
the home runs more smoothly with less stress, parents will be able to consider
the option of having a larger family.
5. Responsibility
should be taught at an early age. There are tasks which teach responsibility
that even an infant can accomplish. What follows is a list responsibilities --
tasks which teach our children to be responsible, productive, and helpful.
6. Take look
at the list.
7. Are your
children learning responsibility in your home?
8. (The
following list is cumulative, that is, each age level should include the
responsibilities prior to it.)
9 - 24 months
* Putting dirty clothes in hamper.
* ”Helping" with grocery shopping (putting items in
basket and on check-out counter, handing things to mom to be put away at home.)
* Cleaning with mom (give child a dust rag, child size
broom, empty spray can/windex bottle for "pretend" cleaning).
* Watering plants (with pre-measured amounts!).
* Beginning to help make beds - (begins with handing the
pillows to mom until later).
* Yard work (helping collect trash and toys, etc.).
* Simple errands ("bring the diaper to mommy,
please," etc.).
2 - 3 years
* As language develops, requiring politeness on a regular
basis ("Yes ma'am", "No sir", "May I please be
excused", greeting, etc.).
* Generally including child in every-day activities on a
regular basis (cleaning, shopping, etc.).
* More complicated errands ("Take this towel and put
it in the hamper", etc.).
* Laundry (beginning to help with sorting by mom handing
him things to put in appropriate piles, transferring clothes from dryer to
basket, etc.).
* Learning more specific neatness qualities (putting toys
in proper spots).
* Taking his dishes to the sink and helping to clear
table.
* Carrying groceries in from car (give child one light
item or a small bag).
* General errands (carrying diaper bag into meeting, carrying
mom's purse to the car, etc.).
* Simple decision-making ("Would you like juice or
milk to drink?").
* Put books and magazines in a rack.
* Place napkins, plates, and silverware on the table.
* Clean up what they drop after eating.
* Toilet training.
3 - 4 years
* Making bed (begins with watching mom -- mom helping
child -- mom watching child) standards must be clear and reminders frequent.
* Keeping room neat and taking daily responsibility for
it.
* Regular morning routine becoming established (getting
dressed, cleaning room before breakfast).
* More complex decision-making ("Would you like to
wear the blue or green pants?").
* Becoming "other-oriented" (drawing pictures
for someone, making encouragement notes to dictate to mom, thank you notes for
birthday gifts).
* Learning to use the telephone properly.
* Established and regular responsibilities (bedroom,
getting the mail, emptying bathroom trash cans, etc.).
* Helping wash the car.
* Simple hygiene - brush teeth, wash and dry hands and
face, and brush hair.
* Undress self - dress with some help.
* Carry boxed or canned goods from the grocery sacks to
the proper shelf.
4 - 5 years
* Taking his laundry to designated place on laundry day.
* Sorting laundry with supervision.
* Begin learning to fold laundry and put it away.
* Hang socks, handkerchiefs, and washcloths on a low line.
* Vacuuming/sweeping.
* Cleaning table after meals.
* Helping with meal preparations (learning to measure,
stir and use small appliances).
* Spread butter on sandwiches.
* Prepare cold cereal.
* Help mother prepare plates of food for the family
dinner.
* Make a simple dessert (add topping to cupcakes, pour the
toppings on ice cream).
* Hold the hand mixer to whip potatoes or mix up a cake.
* Setting the table.
* Taking out the trash.
* Helping make decisions about meal choices, outings, time
with friends, etc.
* Carrying groceries in from the car and putting them
away.
* Help with grocery shopping and compiling a grocery list.
* Polish shoes and clean up afterwards.
* Follow a schedule for feeding pets.
* Help do the dishes or fill the dishwasher.
* Dust the furniture.
* Share toys with friends (practice courtesy).
* Tell parent his whereabouts before going out to play.
* Play without constant adult supervision and attention.
* Polish silver.
* Polish car.
* Sharpen pencils.
5 - 6 years
* Unsupervised responsibilities (making bed, washing out
trash cans, etc.).
* More complicated meal preparations (making frozen juice,
toast, scrambling eggs, cutting with blunt knife, baking).
* Make own sandwich or simple breakfast, then clean up.
* Pour own drink.
* Prepare the dinner table.
vTear up lettuce for the salad.
* Helping with younger siblings (changing diapers, helping
with bath, bottle feeding, entertaining while mom is out of the room,
feeding/dressing toddler siblings).
* Laundry (sorting, learning to use the washer/dryer,
measuring detergent,fold clean clothes and put them away.) .
* Cleaning (using cleaning supplies properly, cleaning
unsupervised areas like bathtub or polishing furniture, clean mirrors and
windows).
* Sons -- carrying "heavy" things for mom and
helping with yardwork.
* By this time child will begin to carry out
responsibilities unasked and begin to offer help in areas parents don't require
help in.
* Make bed and clean room.
* Dress on own and choose outfit for the day.
* Learn to tie shoes.
* Answer the telephone and begin to dial the phone.
* Yardwork.
* Pay for small purchases.
* Help clean out the car.
* Take out the garbage.
* Decide how he wants to spend his share of the family
entertainment fund.
* Feed his pets and clean the living area.
6 - 7 years
* Simple meals prepared (making sandwiches for lunch,
preparing drinks, fixing breakfast for mom and dad, preparing salad for dinner,
peel vegetables).
* Regular quiet time becoming a part of daily routine.
* Totally unsupervised laundry responsibilities when
needed.
* Increased responsibilities for younger siblings
(dressing infants/toddlers, entertaining them for longer periods by reading to
them/playing records, etc., helping school them).
* Learning the purpose and beginning usage of tools (lawn
mower, hand tools, etc.) and helping with home maintenance.
* Shake rugs.
* Water plants and flowers.
* Prepare own school lunch.
* Help hang clothes on the clothesline.
* Hang up own clothes in the closet.
* Gather wood for the fireplace.
* Rake leaves and weed.
* Tie own shoes.
* Care for his own minor injuries.
* Keep the garbage container clean.
* Clean out inside of car.
* Straighten or clean out silverware drawer.
* Oil and care for bike.
* Take phone messages.
* Run errands for parents.
* Sweep and wash patio area.
* Water the lawn.
* Wash dog or cat.
* Train pets.
* Take pet for walk.
* Carry in the grocery sacks.
* Get self up in the morning and go to bed at night on
own.
* Learn to be polite, courteous, and to share; respect
others.
* Carry own lunch money and notes back to school.
* Leave the bathroom in order.
* Do simple ironing.
8 - 10 years
* Complete responsibility for their rooms on a daily basis
(bed making, dresser drawers, closet, vacuuming, etc.).
* Unsupervised yard work (i.e., lawn mowing, edging,
clean-up, gardening).
* More complex meal preparations (pour and make tea, coffee,
and instant drinks, using sharp instruments, baking, using appliances,
beginning meal planning).
* More difficult cleaning projects (scrubbing kitchen
floor, windows, cleaning appliances).
* Summer jobs (lawn mowing, dog sitting, babysitting, odd
jobs for vacationers).
* Financial planning (computing percentages for saving,
tithing, offerings, gift-giving and assuming responsibility with parental
oversight).
* Beginning car maintenance (helping dad with minor
repairs, learning tool usage, washing/waxing).
* Help rearrange furniture. Help plan the layout.
* Run own bathwater.
* Help others with their work when asked.
* Shop for and select own clothing and shoes with parent.
* Change school clothes without being told.
* Fold blankets.
* Sew buttons and sew rips in seams.
* Clean storage room.
* Clean up animal "messes" in the yard and
house.
* Cut flowers and make a centerpiece.
* Pick fruit off trees.
* Build a campfire, get items ready to cook out (charcoal,
hamburgers).
* Paint fence or shelves.
* Help write simple letters.
* Write thank-you notes.
* Help with defrosting and cleaning the refrigerator.
* Feed the baby.
* Polish silverware, copper, or brass items.
* Clean patio furniture.
* Wax living room furniture.
* Change sheets and put dirty sheets in hamper.
* Buy groceries using a list and comparative shopping.
* Cross streets unassisted.
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Keep own appointments.
* Receive and answer own mail.
* Wait on guests.
* Plan own birthday.
* Simple first aid.
* Do neighborhood chores.
* Sew, knit, or weave (even using a sewing machine).
* Do chores without a reminder.
* Learn banking and to be thrifty and trustworthy.
* Handle sums of money up to $5.00.
* Be alone at home for short periods.
* Take the city bus to selected destinations.
* Proper conduct when staying overnight with a friend.
Pack own suitcase.
* Responsible for personal hobby.
* Handle self properly when in public places alone or with
peers.
11 - 12 years
* Join outside organizations, do assignments, and attend.
Able to take responsibility as a leader.
* Put siblings to bed and dress them.
* Clean pool and pool area.
* Respect others' property.
* Run own errands.
* Mow lawn with supervision.
* Help Father build things and do family errands.
* Schedule himself time for studies.
* Buy own sweets or treats.
* Responsible for a paper route.
* Check and add oil to car under supervision.
13 - 15 years
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Determine how late he should stay up during the week.
Also determine how late he should be out for evening gatherings (through mutual
parent-child discussion and agreement).
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Responsibility for preparing family meals.
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Social awareness: good health, exercise, necessary rest,
correct weight, nutritious food, physical examinations.
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Anticipate the needs of others and initiate the
appropriate action.
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Acceptance of capabilities and limitations.
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Self-respect or individual worth.
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Responsibility for one's decision.
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Mutual respect, loyalty, and honesty in the family.