What About Relationships?

What works and what doesn’t work, now and in the past?

Who is responsible for the problems?

How do we make our relationships work?

How can I find someone who will love me the way I want to be loved?

Why can’t I “fix” him or her?

How can I “get” what I want?

What is missing”, when we fall “out” of love?

Why is it never enough?

The dilemma of today’s relationships is that they are based on faulty assumptions.

There is no “perfect” or ideal partner or fantasy relationship.

Healthy relationships do not happen through chemistry, attraction or falling in love.

Love is not enough to conquer all.

You cannot keep a healthy relationship, when you dump toxic words and actions on the other.

Successful relationships have common goals, honesty, equality, commitment and responsibility. 

Both people must fully commit to giving always and only their best to their partner.

Both must accept full responsibility for their thoughts, words and actions and clean up their errors.

Both parties must be a safe place where openness and honesty is easy and responded to with love.

Successful partnership, marriage and relationship require common vision, goals, values and direction.

Where there is not compatibility and companionship, there will be conflict or complacency.

Couples must clarity their commonality of preferred lifestyles, money and work values.

Where there are differences, there will be disagreement and trying to convince the other.

When we believe we know what is “right” for another, we will make them “wrong”.

When we find true acceptance, love and respect for differences, there will be tolerance and trust.

When we need to be right or blame another for their errors, we will relate as Parent/child.

When we trust everyone is learning and living their own unique way, we free others to be.

Trust and freedom demonstrates our love, trust, respect and acceptance without condition.

When we learn to give what we want to have….love, trust, respect and acceptance, we will have it!

When we deny others the right to live their own way, we are denying ourselves the same right.

When we recognize that we each and all are learning in our own time and way, we let it be..

To love someone, we do not have to marry, live with, agree with or join them in their choices.

Consider freeing our relationships, where we choose to be together, because it is healthy for both.

Consider trusting those we love to do exactly what they want to and choose to do.

Consider allowing others to give what and how they genuinely want to give, without fear.

Consider giving yourself permission to think and say and do what is true for you with appreciation.

The key to all relationships is to be with those who encourage and support you to be true to you.

The key to loving another is encouraging and supporting them in being true to themselves.

In this you will find freedom and trust.

In this you will know great peace and happiness.

Love is an inside job.

Loving is a choice, not a feeling.

If you base your loving relationships on how you feel, they will never be stable.

Feelings are transitory and Real Love is consistent and does not change.

Healthy relationships are best for both people.

Successful relationship support and encourage each person to be true to themselves and do what is best for themselves.

Healthy relationship give their best and let go of the attachment when it is not healthy and positive for either person.

Truly loving relationships do not try to get the other person to stay or give what they are now willing or capable of giving.

Stop trying to keep  or make what is not good for you or for the other person.

Let go with gratitude and respect and Love.  

Love is freeing and trusting yourself and the one you love.

Loving you with the best I know.

Betty Lue 

Healing Relationships

You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.   This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us. This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.  

It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.  When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.  

It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.

We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.  

Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.

The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself, 

the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.

The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself, 

the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.

Abundance Mentality: Giving is the Key to Abundance!

Abundance comes from trusting there is always enough.

Prosperity comes from sharing what you have.

Feeling rich comes from never worrying about lack.

Change your mind to appreciate what you have.

I grew up having little things and little money, but I never noticed.

My parents were happy and in love so our family experience was rich.

We never knew lack, because my mother could live simply.

She knew how to make new clothes from second hand clothes.

We ate and appreciated variations of velveta cheese and pasta and goulash.

We made our own fun at home, playing games and talking.  (no TV until I was 10),

There was always plenty of encouragement to help and give to others.

My whole family volunteered with kids, elders, neighbors and at church.

We all understood how to be grateful and happy with what we had.

I was never taught or encouraged to want or ask for more.

I was always shown and invited to give to others with my time, energy, resources and love.

Life always felt rich with loving, learning, laughing, letting go and experiencing more fun.

It comes naturally to me to share everything I have.

I want those around me to feel happy with their lives.

My world is always better when I am with those who are happy too!

To share is to dare to care, and give what I can to those who want.

I also have learned to teach in order to reach out helping people find their own abundance.

When we are needy we can be greedy.

When we are giving, we experience abundant living.

When we withhold, we never have enough.

If you want more love, give more love to everyone all the time, in every way.

If you want more money, share your money through conscious investment, contribution, spending.

If you want more appreciation, be thankful for everything you have and give and those around you.

If you want more respect and kindness, give more respect and kindness everyday.

What we give, we receive.

When we complain, we hear and feel and have more complaints.

When we share good news, we hear and feel and have more good news.

Life is simply a reflection of what we are giving and creating with our thoughts, words and deeds.

When we understand the SECRET to abundant Love and Goodness, we will always give what we want.

Notice and observe your thoughts, choices, and words and you will see the truth in Abundant Living!

Encouraging us all to live with appreciation for the Abundant Goodness that is ours.

Betty Lue

And God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance, so that you may always have enough of everything and may provide in abundance for every good work. II Corinthians 9:8

Reminders for Abundant Living

The cost of giving is receiving.

What you “own”, owns a piece of you.

Only have as much as you can care for responsibly.

Let go of what is distraction, burden or duty.

Fear-based ownership yields more anxiety.

Love-based possession yields more joy.

No worry.  No criticism.  No arguing.

No waste.  Use it all or don’t buy it.

Establish a step by step plan and follow it.

Set policies of fairness and effectiveness and live by them. 

Borrow nothing and use no credit cards (unless you can pay it off easily and quickly).

Save for what matters most and give to what inspires and motivates you—FIRST.

Live on what is left.

Spend only on what you need. (Wants are for special rewards and when there is plenty.)

Wait at least 24 hours before indulging in what you “want”.  (Ask if still want to pay the price.)

When debts are paid, give yourself and family members a small allowance for pleasure. (less than 1%) 

Forgive quickly, when mistakes are made.

Appreciate every penny earned or received.

Be conscious of every penny spent or given or saved.  

Heal earning and spending habits.

Make changes with conscious attention and appreciation.

Money is a symbol for security, freedom, power, achievement, prestige, respect, acquisition, control or philanthropy.  

Be creative in finding a better way to create the same experience without depending on $$.

Homework Exercise:

How much have you earned in your lifetime?

How much have you spent and saved?

How much do you really “Need” to live simply?

Knowing what you know now what would you do differently?

Can you make the decision to learn from your experience and make changes now?

Write out your contract to yourself now, sign and date it.

A Good Life

What is a good life for you?

Better than before?

Have more money and things?

Experience happiness more?

Able to help others?

Free time to do what you want?

More travel?

Being healthy and energetic?

Feeling more connected spiritually?

Everything clean and organized?

Satisfied people around you?

Time to create goodness and beauty?

I suggest that you write a description of “A Good Life” for you.

Without defining what it is, you may let life happen to you.

When you describe and picture what you want, you will more likely move in that direction.

Most people seem to take what you can get or make it work or complain endlessly.

We each are creating our own experience.

We can have what we want.

We may not know until we have it.

We may not feel capable of creating it.

We can choose.

We can persist until we clear the way to have what we really want.

Inner peace and happiness are ours, when we know we have our own Good Life.

We can make way by giving up guilt and blame, letting go of complaint and worry, releasing the past.

Here are some choices for your “Good  Life”.

Simple or complex?

Passive or active?

Flowing or busy?

Slow or fast?

Diverse or the same?

Scheduled or spontaneous?

Private or social?

Self serving or in service?

Extra money and stuff or just enough?

Rural, suburban or city?

Entertainment and travel or at home fun and adventure?

Spiritual or worldly?

Ordinary or extraordinary?

Assertive or cautious?

Isolated or community involved?

Lots more choices for you to make.  

Keep on redefining and designing your life until it is YOURS!

Know there is always room for change whenever you choose.

Loving you in creating your very own Good Life.

Betty Lue

My life is very simple, active, flowing, fast, diverse, scheduled and spontaneous, private, in service, just enough to be helpful to others, rural and suburbs, home fun, spiritual and inspired, extraordinary and miraculous, monastic, assertive and involved. 

 We have an amazingly good life and are truly happy and at peace. 

 This is the way we have chosen and created so we can be of the highest service to those we encounter and serve.

We are super grateful, delighted, laughing and loving most of the time.  

We make our life fun, safe and easy by forgiving any upset immediately and choosing again for the highest Good for all concerned.  

We leave no relationship, communication, or circumstance a mess, but quickly clean up our world both inner and outer.  

We make our life, our environment, both homes and centers beautiful, organized and orderly.

We use our thoughts, words and deeds wisely and with Love.

We share all the Good we have with everyone.

And so it is....We have a very good life.. And so do the people around us!!  

Why not?

Affirmation:

I now give and receive All Good and Only Good.

Why not use all the resources available?

Why not receive gifts being offered without cost?

Why not seek a better way?

Why not trust there is inspiration and new ideas for you?

Why not stop complaining and start taking action?

Why not give up all your stories and make a better life?

Why not let go of your mistakes and choose again?

Why not release guilt, blame and resentment and simply trust?

It is much easier to learn a new way if you first let go of the old.

It is much more safe to release all judgments with forgiveness.

It is much more fun to experience how easily new ways can heal and transform.

It is much more loving to respond to ever offer of support and help with YES and Thank You!

For 35+ years I have been open and willing to support those who are willing to do the work.

I love working with folks who explore and experiment with an open mind.

I so delight when any one makes a shift, because all of us are blessed.

The work may not be fun, safe and easy, but the result always is.

We offer help and healing, counsel and coaching, inspiration and education for willing learners.

We turn no one away due to financial limitation.

However, we do want to work with willing learners.

We do want to be respected and appreciated.

Sometimes the givers experience being depended on, so they foster independence.

Sometimes those serving are used and taken for granted.

Sometimes those in service of spirit are used and not respected.

It is time for all those who serve to take impeccable care of ourselves first.

I invite you to know we are here for you, those who are sincere.

I say YES to all requests unless there is harm to giver or receiver.

I have a retreat home for worldly rest and spiritual renewal.

We offer classes, workshops, online programs, counsel, coaching, holistic healing and books.

Our life work and purpose is to share all we have been given for the Good of All.

We are grateful to share, to inspire and motivate, to help and heal, to educate and emancipate.

There are people and place to feed, house, clothe all simply and basically.

When all of us are happily willing to share what we have, there will be plenty for everyone.

This is my vision and purpose, my prayer and reminder to Remember Love and return to wholeness.

And so it is, we remember.

Let me know how I can best serve you and your family.

You deserve to know and remember to always Love you.

I am loving you, as you awaken to remember to love you,

Always and only with the best I know, 

Betty Lue

Do you know in Middletown/Hidden Valley Lake, there are free meals everyday of the week?

Did you know that #211 in Contra Costa County is a referral and resource line for every need?

Did you know you can grow a garden for food in barrels and pots anywhere you get sunshine?

Did you know Lake County has the cleanest air in California?

Did you know that there is freecycle.org where you can acquire great stuff?

Also free clothes and more on the internet for those who ask?

Did you know your local library is free to use computers, books, DVD’s and more?

Did you know you can receive great inspirational food by attending many churches and their programs?

Did you know the AA programs are free and open to help you and your family with addiction?

Are you open to give and receive help, support, information, prayer and inspiration/education?

Most of our classes and programs and church talk are online and available to all.  See below!

We have a policy to never turn anyone away due to limited finances. 

 We are here to be Love in our world.

Betty Lue

Please take advantage of the many other offerings, offered with respect and gratitude for our continued healing and awakening.

Helpful for all clients and students:

Daily Loving Reminders (Free)

***You are invited and encouraged to receive my daily or weekly Loving Reminders (written and emailed daily)  

Ask to be added to my lists.

Classes Retreats and Workshops (Contribution basis)

***You are invited and encouraged to participate in all my classes, workshops or retreats. 

My intention is always to make it easier for your to choose the best life for you!

Counseling and Coaching (Fees Negotiated fairly)

***See me at three Centers (Brentwood, Pleasant Hill, Hidden Valley Lake) or email, phone and skype.

Online Reminders (Free)

*** Selected classes are available online  or CD, 

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*** Prayer Circle for those who want to participate.

*** Selected forwarded inspirational material on request

My intention is to love freely, serve joyfully, and  remember always the Good.

Everyone is our teacher.

Life is the school of learning.

We are the willing students.

You are important.

Service is my life work and play.

Betty Lue

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Let me know if you have need of an appointment.

Please don’t let lack of money the excuse. 

 I am here to serve. 

You can contribute what you can when you can.

It works to be truly helpful whenever there is a need.

Betty Lue

You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness

Affirmations:

I am willing to be totally responsible for my own happiness.

I love myself and choose to be happy.

You are not responsible for others’ happiness.

If you feel guilty about making others unhappy, forgive yourself.

If you feel responsible for making others feel guilty about your unhappiness, forgive yourself.

If you have learned how to manipulate and control others into making you happy, forgive yourself.

We each are responsible for our own happiness.

We cannot learn how to be responsible, when we give the responsibility to someone else.

Others cannot learn how to be responsible, when we take their responsibilities onto ourselves.

We cannot understand how to be happy, when we allow ourselves to be dependent on others.

Attachment is the source of all suffering.

Attachment to a person, relationship or ideal is dependency on having the outcome you want.

The letting go process is painful when we hang on.

Like a kid crying for a treat in the grocery store, you may have learned to cry until you get your way.

When we have a person, partner or parent who needs to make us happy, we become dependent.

When we believe someone somewhere is going to meet our neediness, we get attached.

When we lean on and wait for the longed for experience, we become lazy.

When we use others or excuse ourselves with neediness, we never grow up.

Adulthood is being fully responsible for our thoughts, emotions, and behavior.

Maturity is being able and willing to take care of ourselves.

When we are no longer dependent on romantic fantasy or fairytale, we experience life as a reflection.

When we think we are lacking or lonely, we are.

As we think, so we believe and teach others to believe about us.

As we speak, so we create what we think and say.

As we behave, so we are demonstrating what we think and believe, say and do.  

When we get agreement from others about what is missing, we ensure it is missing.

Only we can deny ourselves anything.

When we don’t believe we can have or are afraid to have or don’t really want to have, we don’t have.

Thought Creates.  

When two or more are in agreement, the experience appears to be.

When we want to be responsible, we learn to respond to everything with Love.

When we choose to be responsible, we forgive and erase every mistake immediately with no blame.

When we enjoy being response able, we stay away in our choices and choose only and always Good.

When we are responsible and dependable in making choices, we celebrate and learn from everything.

Choose to be happy, content and peaceful by changing your thinking.

Choose to declare to yourself, “Everything works together for Good.”

Choose to commit to making choices which benefit everyone.

Choose to erase and release all negative thinking, speaking and behavior.

Free yourself and trust yourself to make only positive, constructive and beneficial choices.

You deserve to be happy and only You can make it True for you.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue

Balance

Financial Freedom and Integrity Workshops  “Managing Time and Money Well”

Saturday, 2:30-5PM in Hidden Valley Lake at Positive Living Center

Sunday, 11:30-1PM in Brentwood at Unity Center for Inspired Living

Full Moon today 12:57PM PDT

Balance

Do you have equal amounts of work and play and rest?

Do you take time to smell the flowers and enjoy life?

Do you know how to use your time and energy wisely?

Are you aware of what you need to be your best?

Usually we accommodate to the circumstances.

Usually we go along with the current trends.

Often we let others lead our choices.

And usually we compensate with the stress.

Being out of integrity is not living your truth.

Being at the effect of others leads to feeling victimized.

Going along with others who are off purpose is hard.

Choosing to find our own highest and best way requires paying attention.

Pay attention to how much sleep you need without medication.

Notice if you are at peace with no anxiety or tension in your body.

Watch to see how much you need to be alone or have companionship.

See what it does to have no silence with TV and noise all the time.

Most of us need to live very differently than our world offers.

We need to stop and pay attention to every pain and upset.

Each one is telling us we are going in the wrong direction for us.

When we are on path and living our purpose, we are in balance and at ease.

The cues to a life that is working is “safe, fun and easy.”

The clues to a life that is off purpose is confusion, upset, conflict and pain.

When we notice what is not right, our primary job is to correct the error.

Usually we have learned to bypass, dismiss, blame and self-medicate.

Quick fixes are commonly used to be able to continue going in the wrong direction.

Asking an expert or friend to tell us what to do is often a way of not being responsible.

Over-riding with doing more of the same may be our habit to push through anything.

Taking a few moments to stop, breathe, forgive ourselves and choose a better way is healthy.

Your life is important to you and others.

Life is not what you do.

Life is how you do your life.

Take time to clarify how you want to do your life.

Gently or harshly?

Easily or urgently?

Joyfully or fearfully?

Harmoniously or with conflict and hurt?

Safely or harmfully?

Respectfully or cruelly?

Only you can choose the way you do your life.

Take time to pause, reflect and write down your primary principles for your life.

How do I really want to live my life?

Only you can choose what is right and true for you!

Loving each one of us for finding our best way to live!

Betty Lue

Ten Keys to Health & Vitality

NUTRITION

Ingest the best and forget the rest.  Take into your body, mind and spirit only that which supports, sustains and inspires the BEST in you.

MOVEMENT

Life is flow. To move with the flow is healthy. To resist is stressful. Move with the natural inner movement physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc.

BREATH

To breathe in (inhale) fully life energy, Spirit, Prana, inspiration, is to expand our awareness to open to an enlightened mind.  To exhale fully is to truly release what is no longer needed.

TOUCH

Reaching out with Love and respect for each other opens our bodies and beings to trust in the gentleness we all deserve to experience.

THOUGHT

Choose for those thoughts which heal and free you to be unlimited in health and wholeness. Forgive (erase) the beliefs which are limiting or false.

ATTITUDE

Carry with you an attitude of gratitude and love for yourself and others.  Allow yourself to see all things work together for good.

BALANCE

Moderation in all things will bring your life into harmony.  As we give ourselves what is really best for us, the extremes are gently released.

HEALTH

What you perceive in others and the world you strengthen in your Self.  Focus on illness, disease and weakness and you actually weaken yourself.  See only health and wholeness and you move yourself in the direction you are looking.

PURITY

To clear out toxins and purify the system requires a willingness to eliminate toxic thoughts, activities, relationships as well as foods from your system.  Flushing the system clean is aided with water, fresh air, gentle movement and forgiveness.

REST

To rest and relax your mind and body are invaluable to being refreshed and revitalized. Each person has unique methods of relaxation - meditation, music, being in nature, focused simple activity.

Who Are You?

Most people are living someone else’s ideals, beliefs, expectations and projections.

Often children live out their parents want and expect.

Adults often see themselves attempting to “get what was missing in their childhood.”

We learn to live from the projections we received from others from birth on.

You may find that you spend time figuring out how to please others and get approval.

Or you might notice that you try hard not to be what your parents expected and pushed for.

Likewise, people often grow up trying to make up for what was missing.

There is a better, wiser and more accurate way to live your own life your way.

Our children usually act out the parents’ unexpressed and unhealed stuff.

In my experience it is often the unconscious unfinished business of their parents often exaggerated.

Almost like kids expose their parents to what they need to see and complete for themselves.

Consider that we as adults can finish our own unfulfilled dreams and heal our woundedness.

Most are waddling around with layers of learned beliefs, expectations, demands hiding their Essence.

What people say and think about us becomes what we believe we are.

What we feel how we are treated from conception on determines our beliefs about ourselves.

When we realize the thoughts we hold determine how we live, we can forgive, erase and choose again.

When we grow up feeling love only when we are what people expect us to be, we become disillusioned. 

When we try to get approval through living what our family believes, we lose a sense of our own Truth.

When we comply with the demands of our society and what is expected, we forget our own ideal.

And for many when we reach adulthood, we have no idea about what we really want to be and do.

Our identity comes through inner knowing.

Our ideal Self is found through Self Reflection.

Our way through life is exploring what brings Happiness and Inner Peace.

When we listen to others and follow their instruction, we may no longer realize our own.

True and lasting happiness comes through Self Knowledge and Integrity.

“To thine own Self be true.”

We cannot be true to the One we do not know.

The process of discovery is removing all the covers and myths and layers of projections.

When we use life experiences to discover the Authentic Self, we are reveal our Essence.

We allow ourselves to release our need to belong, get approval, and make others happy.

We trust ourselves and free ourselves to BE who we really are.

This is returning to Love ourselves and live our own Truth.

Self Love is the foundation for success in life.

Loving our True Self is the key to loving all others.

Living our own life our way teaches us to free others to live their way.

When we Love, trust and respect ourselves, to offer the same to others.

Loving you in discovering and realizing Your Authentic Self, 

Betty Lue

Back in the 70’s the basic stuff I taught and learned from was all about letting go of the false Self and discovering the Real Self.

When I taught Positive Parenting at the local  Jr. College, I learned and taught when parents were happy and fulfilled, kids would be too.

When adults are whole and happy and free, then their kids grow us to be whole and happy and free.

So my focus this year will be on Learning to Love Our Authentic Self.

Discovering our own Truth.  Being who we really want to be.

Robert and I are offering this workshop Series The Real You: “Self Discovery and Life Purpose”, in Pleasant Hill and Hidden Valley Lake.

Mondays nights twice monthly in Pleasant Hill at the Reunion Center and Wednesday nights ongoing at Positive Living Center.

Our next Reunion Retreats May  25-26 and July 5-6 will be on Self Remembering and Self Trust and Freedom. 

We cannot be happy and free others to be happy until we are living our own true way everyday.

Life Is Not About Being Perfect!

Affirmation: I Am always in the right place, doing the right thing, for the right reasons.

Life is about gratefully using what you experience for Goodness Sake!

Sometimes we are so invested in being perfect, we pretend to be what we are not.

Sometimes we are stuck on making others believe something, so we deceive them.

Sometimes we are so attached to looking good, that we do not disclose the Real Goods.

The idea of being Perfect is imperfect.

Perfection is a stuck and static place to be with no room for growth or sensitivity.

Being righteously “right” gets us judging what is wrong and singing the same old song.

Trying to be perfect is a thankless job and yields never-ending judgment of ourselves and others.

I see how you may think I am perfect and my life is perfect. ( A client told me yesterday.)

Perfection is a myth.

Healing and growth can be fun, safe and easy and quick!  (as though nothing hard ever happens)

It all depends on what you want….to linger and suffer endlessly complaining and asking “Why?”

We each choose our own goals, values, beliefs, direction, speed and ease with which we live.

We each seek out experts, information and truths that fit or resonate with us.

I like the most loving and happy way to heal and grow, because for me the other ways “suck”.

I totally respect each person’s choices and honor with my highest regards for what you choose.

My life, as idyllic as it seems, has had its share of death, pain, betrayal, infidelity, bankruptcy and more.

I believe I have been given the opportunity to personally have most of human experiences, so I can know.

If I don’t “know” you and what you are going through, how can I walk with you and talk with you?

My way to deal with what happens in a human experience is to heal the pain and transform it into gain.

I have spent much of my life learning how most people deal with their lives in a painful way.

I know how to use my life experiences to deal with  what happens in a healing and growthful way.

I prefer to be happy and healthy so I can be truly helpful in serving the awakening of all.

Therefore I first keep my own house in order, including all my relationships, home, finances and self.

I notice the slightest “Off purpose” and I immediately clarify and correct any error in my thinking.

I seek inner counsel and guidance from my most trusted source and ReSource, the Voice within.

I ask only “What is the Truth I need to know?” and “How can I be truly helpful and Loving here?”

My work, as I teach and speak to you and all, is to clear the fear and listen for the Loving answer.

With practice, this work can be done in minutes, not hours, days or years.

Forgiveness, replacing fear with Love, is done immediately.

When we are willing to be new and make new and see all things new, life is a miracle of healing.

Love begets Love.  

Love heals fear. 

Love undoes what was and leaves only Love.

I prefer not to seek perfection, but to recognize the perfection in what is.

There is perfection, Goodness and Blessing in all things as they are.

When I remember, I see only our wholeness and Holiness.

I trust everything works together for Good.

Loving you, Betty Lue

Loving us all as the whole, Good and Beautiful beings of Love We Are,

Betty Lue

Life in a Body on this Planet Earth

Affirmation for you: “My Whole Life Matters.”

It seems we each have our own experience here on Earth.

Some seem to have it easy and some seem to be suffering.

Some seem to flow easily as they let go of heartache and trauma.

Some seem to struggle with their losses and stay hurting and afraid.

It would appear that when we are open and willing, we see the light beyond the storm.

It seems that when we trust in a Higher Good, we keep looking for the blessings and learning.

Some stay in faith with a Higher Power and a greater Good.

Some feel confident that our life and meaning and is never in vain.

I also appear that when we are closed, judging and stuck, we see only the darkness in our minds.

It seems that when we cannot trust in the essential Good in ourselves, we believe in evil or nothing.

Some stay in loss and lack and limitation and cannot find their way to the Light.

Some lose faith in anything or anyone and live needing only to survive with temporary pleasure.

When we appreciate, we increase what we value.

When we deny or denigrate or judge, we get stuck with whatever holds our attention.

Where we place our energy, we feed with our focused attention, both positive and negative.

We feed and strengthen what we perceive, what we judge, what we value.

Some practice the art of changing their mind and their focus.

Some use massive forgiveness, cleansing their minds of everything harmful and unloving.

Some refuse to take responsibility for the happening in their lives.

Some simply use their creative potential with every thought (visualization), words (affirmation) and deeds (act of service), to create always and only good for themselves, and all others.

What would it be like to practice and observe how your life really works for you?

What would you do differently if you knew you can master the art of learning, letting go and loving?

How could you change your mind to always seek and find the most loving way?

What do you need to let go, erase and forgive to live your life with meaning and purpose?

Consider changing your thinking.

Experiment with changing your thoughts and your words.

Observe how everything seems to look, feel and respond differently.

Notice how you have the power to choose, to change, to communicate in whatever way works for you.

Your words matter to me and to everyone you encounter, 

Your thoughts matter to you and your life experience.

Your behavior matters to all who know you and to future generations.

Your whole life really matters!

Loving you,  

Betty Lue

The 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing

1.       The essence of our being is love.

2.       Health is inner peace, healing is letting go of fear.

3.       Giving and receiving are the same.

4.       We can let go of the past and of the future.

5.       Now is the only time there is, and each instant is for giving.

6.       We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.

7.       We can become love finders rather than fault finders.

8.       We can choose and direct ourselves to be peaceful inside, regardless of what is happening outside.

9.       We are students and teachers to each other.

10.    We can focus on the whole of life, rather than the fragments.

11.    Since love is eternal, change need not be viewed as fearful.

12.    We can always perceive others as either extending love or giving a call for help.

Attitudinal Healing affirms that we are responsible for our thoughts and whatever feelings we experience.

Attitudinal Healing encourages us to re-examine our relationships, bringing them into the present by releasing past judgments and grievances.

Attitudinal Healing reminds us that perception is a mirror of what is in our mind.

How Do We Love the Earth?

How do we acknowledge our gratitude?

How do we care for what nurtures us?

How do we appreciate what nourishes us?

How do we demonstrate our respect for our physical home?

I love the sky and the sea. 

I enjoy the sounds of the wind in the trees.

I like the smell of the rain on the earth.

I delight with the change of the seasons. 

I appreciate the magic and mystery.

I value the way everything cycles over time.

I am curious about how things work together for good. 

I learn from the birds and the bees.

We choose not to kill or destroy.

We compost and recycle all waste.

We bless what we eat.

We buy what we need and share what we have.

We breathe with gratitude for the clean air.

We savor the pure water we drink.

We plant vegetables and flower and trees in our gardens.

We delight in their growth and their beauty.

As I sit here in Hawaii, looking out my window at the sun on the water, I am inspired.

As I walk in the gardens and practice T’ai Chi Chih, I give thanks for the beauty and blessings.

When I write these reminders, I am sending my love to you and around the world to our family.

When I drive down the highway to meet with you in my office, I appreciate all the Goodness.

Spiritual and Metaphysical truths.

What I think and say and do is reaching and teaching everyone everywhere.

What I appreciate and bless is increase and grows stronger with my love and my gratitude.

Everything I do in honor of the bounty and blessings I receive, I share freely with all.

Every step I take with gratitude and grace is a blessing of Goodness to the Earth.

I am inviting you today and every day to give thanks.

I am encouraging you to take nothing and no one for granted.

I am reminding you to treat everyone and everything with respect.

I am teaching us all that everything we value must be appreciated and blessed to continue to bless us.

I give thanks for our temporary Earth Home.

I give thanks for the food and shelter and clothing that comes from the Earth.

I give thanks for the sun and the rain, the sky and the sea, the hills and the valleys and the beauty I see.

This life is a great blessing when I remember to bless this life!

Loving us all as we respect, care for and appreciate our Home Planet Earth.

For The Beauty of The Earth

by Folliott S. Pierpoint, 1864

For the beauty of the earth,

For the glory of the skies;

For the love which from our birth,

Over and around us lies;

Lord of all, to Thee we raise

This, our hymn of grateful praise.

For the wonder of each hour,

Of the day and of the night;

Hill and vale and tree and flow'r,

Sun and moon, and stars of light;

Lord of all, to Thee we raise

This, our hymn of grateful praise.

For the joy of ear and eye,

For the heart and mind's delight;

For the mystic harmony,

Linking sense to sound and sight;

Lord of all, to Thee we raise

This, our hymn of grateful praise.

For the joy of human love,

Brother, sister, parent, child;

Friends on Earth and friends above,

For all gentle thoughts and mild;

Lord of all, to Thee we raise

This, our hymn of grateful praise.