Friday, September 30, 2016

Smooth or Bumpy?

I choose to live the highest values and ethics I know.
I live by the golden rule of treating others as I would like.
I listen to inner guidance for choices and direction.
I love, trust and respect myself in all I say and do.

What Do You Want?

Where are you going?
If you don’t have a clear goal, how can you achieve?
If you don’t have energy to move anywhere, how can you go?
If you don’t have  a vision, mission or purpose, life will take you wherever it goes?

Life is under your direction.
Life is yours to decide where, when , how and with whom you choose.
Life is the opportunity to achieve, create, survive or thrive.
Life is an ever present opportunity to clarify, choose, change, correct and commit.

You choose the outcome you desire.
You choose where and set your course.
You choose to steer you thoughts, words and actions.
You choose to support yourself every step of the way.

We are in the ocean of life.
If you use your time and mind well, you will know how to reach your destination.
If you expect others to get you where and how you get there, you may take many detours.
If you are adrift in the ocean of life, you may feel lost, afraid , disappointed.

Involving others in your life journey, you will experience their Karma plus yours.
Creating teamwork or partnership without a joined vision, you may find conflict.
Without mutual respect and open communication, you may be confused in direction.
When no one is ready, willing or able to be responsible, there will be major confusion.

Family planning, business plans, and life goals help gather people together to succeed.
Without adequate preparation for the life journey of marriage it is difficult to cooperate.
With problems, failing, arguments and drama, there will be many bumps and rough sailing.
It is essential that people in families, businesses, politics and life begin to create common vision.

Be clear in your communication about your values, ethics and ideals.
Listen accept and determine if you are going in the same direction.
If you are a solo traveler, respectfully accept that others will go their own way.
When you honor your own life path, you will navigate easily and smoothly.

Choose the way of loving kindness, respectful communication and conscious choice.
Live by your inner guidance to find the path of the heart.
Give always the very best you have and step away to renew yourself as needed.
Honor the life adventure you choose by correcting your path as needed.

This is your life.
You are the designer, captain, navigator and passenger on your journey.
Be aware that there is an inner guidance system within you to show the way.
Appreciate how much you learn through all the course corrections.
Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Ten Keys to a Good Life:

Be Responsible for the entirety of your life.

Be Open to learn from everything and everyone.

Be Forgiving of all mistakes, yours and others.

Be Truly helpful by thinking, speaking and giving your best.

Be Impeccable in caring for your body, relationships, home, work, finances.

Be Willing to live with moderation in all things.

Be Aware of the Gift of Love and the Call for Love.

Be Exact with your thoughts and words; they create your life.

Be Hard-working with wisdom, gratitude and joy.

Be Good.  See Good. Think Good. Speak Good. Give Good.

Thursday, September 29, 2016

Respectful Listening

I listen to differences with respect and learn more.
I listen without a need to blame or make others wrong.
I trust everyone has their own perception and opinion.
The more I respect and accept differences, the more I am respected.

Listen with Respect!

Listen without interrupting.
Listen with out arguing.
Listen with consideration.
Listen without defensiveness.

When we learn to listen to one another with an open mind, we will learn to be kind.
When we learn to see what others see we will broaden our reality.
When we open to find a way to agree, we begin to feel our unity.
When we stop to consider everyone see differently, we find our respect for humanity.

It is essential to begin a different way to communicate.
The word “communicate” is finding the unity within our way to listen and speak.
We are able to seek the agreement within our different perceptions.
We can understand and respect our differences, without doing blaming or shaming.

Communication in families and friendships is often unconsciously based on what we have learned.
Without changing our negative habits, we are doomed to repeat them.
When we do to others what we want them to do for us, we learn a better way.
When we become conscious in choosing respectful communication, we change fear to love.

All of us have unconscious and limiting habits, excuses and justifications, beliefs and rules.
We have adopted what we say and do from what we learned and used from past encounters.
Parents, authorizes, teachers, etc override children and those with lesser education or experience.
The seemingly powerful often fail to listen and learn from those who seem quiet or inexperienced.

It is essential to harmonize, to heal and grow, to create a better world with harmonious relationships.
We can stop fighting and harmful communication with the simple pattern interrupt of “time out”.
Take time to take care of ourselves, step away and find the calm center within.
Ask yourself to really care enough to listen to what is needed to bring peace.

There is no need to win at another’s expense.
It is not helpful to override the other.
It will not be beneficial to either to build resentment and fear.
It is problematic to continue behaviors which are disrespectful to both.

What is the helpful encouraging way to begin .
Listen first to understand.
Stop making up your mind “to be right:.
Let go of the need to win and to fight.

Choose the goal of coming together with kindness and respect.
Seek to bring peace and consideration.
Give to the other the time and space to be heard.
Learn to love one another and give them your respect.

This is the way to bring peace to all relationships.
Communicate with respect.
I trust you to respect yourself and others.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Successful Communication Keys:
Calm tone of voice and be on the same level.
Ask permission to speak
Tune in to where they are with desire to understand.
Give what will create the greatest safety and respect.
Talk with kindness and in private.
Step away until both parties are calm.  Use time-outs as needed.
Defuse the stress, urgency and upset, before attempting to talk.
Be clear when you don’t have time or patience to listen.
Write communication to avoid confrontations and arguments.
Allow all parties time to think about their needs and possible equitable solutions.
Encourage using “I feel….., I want…… and I am willing………
Seek cooperative agreement, rather than punishment, threat or demand.
Open your heart to understand (“Walk in their shoes”)
Choose an outcome where everyone wins.

Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Listen and Learn

I choose to believe what is inspiring and encourages the best in us.
I listen with an open-mind and believe what is trustworthy.
I learn who and what to trust by listening within.
I watch, listen and learn to what brings more love and joy and peace.

Listen and Learn!

I have the privilege of hearing many people, young and old, believe what others say.
I notice that many believe what they read, see and hear without checking the facts.
Our youth are often misguided by what is shown on u tube, in movies and from books.
We all must begin to check ourselves for what we choose to believe.

Believing is seeing!
We have often said “seeing is believing”.
Yet now we actually sell, teach, and proselytize what to believe.
While we have many resources to check facts, we often bypass in favor of just being convinced.

When we believe someone or something, we have a tendency to prove ourselves right.
The mind convinces us to seek supporting evidence without regard to rational research.
Perhaps we are ignorant, gullible and lazy about looking further for the actual evidence.
Consider encouraging yourself and your children to questions what they believe and buy.

Scientists are continually looking further and finding more than they knew existed.
Children believe in fairy tales, Santa Claus and unlimited amounts of money from parents.
Young adults sometimes believe visioning and willing for what they believe is enough.
Our culture seems to believe using credit and then bankruptcy will be OK for them.

Where is the rational and practical teaching and behavior of times before media?
How can we encourage asking questions before we believe someone or something.
Are we able to discern a lie, a half truth, a made up fact or a something made to scare us?
Recently a smart fifth grader tried to convince me with “facts” that “zombies” are real.

What does it take for you to buy a commercial?
How do you judge who to believe?
Who do you know what you can trust?
When everyone is preaching their own beliefs, what will you believe?

Facts are facts.
Beliefs are beliefs.
Truth is in the mind of the beholder.
Everyone will tend to convince themselves of what they want to believe.

How do you find or create what you believe?
What is the purpose for the beliefs you hold?
When do you question and what do you seek?
How can you feel safe and confident when the facts change?

My choice is to listen with an open mind.
My recommendation is to learn from everything.
My work is to forgive what is not helpful or inspiring for me.
Your work is to decide how you want to use what you think, hear and believe you see.

These are interesting times to learn to trust yourself with your own inner Guidance.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Healing Our Projections => Seeing Only Wholeness

1.  We perceive what we believe.
2.  We believe what we think we are.
3.   If I believe I am my past, then I believe you are your past.
4.   Believing in my past is to see and live it over again in all I see and do and am.
5.   Believing in your past is to remember it and continue to blame you for it.
6.  The more I feel guilty about my past, the more I place blame on you.
7.  All anger is my guilt projected onto others.
8.  To forgive my past is to release it.
9.  To release is to see it no more.
10.As I release my past, I release others from my projected guilt and self-judgment.
11. As I see myself whole, I see wholeness in others.
12 .As I heal my guilt about past mistakes, I heal my fear of the future.
13. To be in the present is to heal (erase) the past.
14. As I live in the present and love myself as I am now, I like you in the present and see you as you are now.
15. In this present moment, there is only Love for ourselves, each other and all that is.

Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Take Nothing Personally

I listen with respect and gratitude to others.
I respond with kindness and love.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I always give my best to others.

Take Nothing Personally.

What if you believe everything is personal.
What if you think your world is a reflection of you.
What if you see what you want to believe.
Is everything or nothing personal?

Could you be attracting to you those unconscious thoughts, beliefs and fears you have?
Are you selectively remembering what is a lesson for you to learn?
Is it possible that your are creating the experiences you want to have?
Are you open and willing to learn from everything and everyone?

When we review our life path and process, we begin to see repeating experiences.
When we are open to see what the meaning is for the experiences we have, we notice past similars.
When we review what is ours to see and learn from, we trust that everything can be useful.
We begin to notice everything works together for our own best interest.

With an open mind we notice that we are not victims of our past.
We are learning from every experience that we can reveal and heal our past misperceptions.
We are willing to see without fear and judgment and let go with our blessings.
What we carry around for years, becomes toxic and distorts our perceptions.

Ask if what is said and done is a gift of learning for you.
Ask if what is said and done is merely a need to release for the other.
Ask it what others do and say is them telling what they need to heal.
Ask if you are to simply delete and move on or actively respond with healing love.

There are so many opportunities for you to respond to yourself and others.
You can react with fear and judgment, avoidance and resentment.
These experiences will stick to you and stay around as toxic memories.
You can respond with forgiveness and delete them,  or simply extend love and understanding.

What you do, will always come back to you.
What you give, you will receive again in your life.
Dare to do and give what you want to receive.
Give forgiveness and love and your will receive forgiveness and Love.

Our work here is to learn how to heal ourselves.
When we project our woundedness onto others, we hurt.
When we offer true forgiveness and love, we feel healed.
Learning to let go of taking on others pain is key to our healing.

Learn to flush all that is toxic and resentful.
Learn to translate what is projected as an opportunity to heal.
Learn to change what you judge to what you want to remember.
Learn to love yourself fully no matter what and your love for others will increase.

Life is for giving. 
You are the gift.
It is in giving your Love that you realize the Love You Are.

I am loving you with gratitude and peace.
Betty Lue

Healing Relationships

You are responsible for your own happiness and inner peace.

Where we are upset (angry, hurt, afraid, judgmental), our past wounds (unhealed stuff) has been triggered.   
This shows us where we have work to do.

The usual relationship habit is to try to “fix” the other person, to get them to change or stop saying or doing what has upset us.
This makes the other feel “wrong” and guilty and hurt and angry and inadequate. This only exaggerates the problem.  
It is ineffective over the long term.

The real work is to heal our own woundedness, to clear our own buttons and heal our history and forgive allowing anything or anyone to hurt us.
 When we have done our work, we can be truly effective, helpful and teach by example.

This is a big job.  
It cannot be done overnight, but takes constant practice.
We must first take good care of ourselves mentally, physically, and spiritually.  
Being conscious and taking impeccable care of ourselves is essential to quality relationships.

Begin now with learning to love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself.
The more you love, trust, respect and appreciate yourself,
the more others will love, trust, respect and appreciate you.
The more you love, respect, trust and appreciate yourself,
the more others will do the same for themselves and  for others.

You are the living example, the teacher, with everything you think, say and do.

Monday, September 26, 2016

Choose Wisely

I seek to understand, before being understood.
I choose with inner guidance, rather than opinion.
I let go of fear and listen with Love.
I trust in what works for the Good of All.

Choose With Wisdom

How do you choose what is best?
When you trust yourself, you know what is best.
When you trust yourself, you know who to listen to.
When you trust yourself, you feel confident and at peace.

When you live in fear, you will be questioning.
When you have doubt, you will not know.
When you have no guidepost, you will wander.
When you do not listen within, you will be uncertain.

When you know what is right, you need not argue.
When you know what is true, you will trust in you.
When you are true to your principles. you feel unafraid.
When you are living in integrity, you feel safe and at peace.

The world is always in conflict, because there are always two sides.
Families at unsure because they are serving many master.
Businesses are trying to serve customers or employees.
Politics are like wars because both sides want to win.

Have you ever considered more than one way?
Have you tried to find what works for both?
Have you sought to solve problems  with win-win solutions?
Have you learned how to choose what is highest and best?

I listen and learn from what works for all parties.
There is always war of words and actions when one side seeks to win.
We can begin at home with no argument or fights.
I drop my position and listen for the highest and best.

While duality seems to be the Name of the Game. Look for Unity!
Each person or group makes their way “right” in the win-lose game.
Listen for an answer where both parties find respect and listen well.
Seek a way in which peace is the outcome.

Where all work together, we can find strength and true respect.
Where everyone seeks for the Greater Good, we look for what benefits all.
When we listen to one another, we genuinely find higher ground.
When we want mutual respect and equanimity, we choose with wisdom and love.

How can you and I be the way showers?
Can we take time to hear one another?
Are we willing to drop our opinions and listen deeply?
Let us listen for the heart of wisdom within all I encounter.

Listen without prejudice.
Listen for what is true.
Listen to the Good within us.
Listen and seek peace.

Loving You,
Betty Lue

Healing Our Projections => Seeing Only Wholeness

1.  We perceive what we believe.
2.  We believe what we think we are.
3.   If I believe I am my past, then I believe you are your past.
4.   Believing in my past is to see and live it over again in all I see and do and am.
5.   Believing in your past is to remember it and continue to blame you for it.
6.  The more I feel guilty about my past, the more I place blame on you.
7.  All anger is my guilt projected onto others.
8.  To forgive my past is to release it.
9.  To release is to see it no more.
10.As I release my past, I release others from my projected guilt and self-judgment.
11. As I see myself whole, I see wholeness in others.
12 .As I heal my guilt about past mistakes, I heal my fear of the future.
13. To be in the present is to heal (erase) the past.
14. As I live in the present and love myself as I am now, I like you in the present and see you as you are now.
15. In this present moment, there is only Love for ourselves, each other and all that is.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Do Unto Others

I give and receive the best I have.
I trust what is given and received is Love.
I pay attention to what is valued by those I give to.
I know everyone is doing the best they can.

Do Unto Others

Do you do what is good for you?
Do you do for others what is good for You?
Sometimes people are giving to others what is not good for others
Is it time to stop doing what is right for you and give what is right and good for others?

How do you know what is best for yourself?
Can you tell what is right and good for you?
Do you change your mind sometimes?
Do you always make the best choice for you?

It is always best to give kindness and caring.
It is sometimes best to ask what they prefer.
It is OK to observe whether they appreciate what you do.
It is natural to try your best but not always be right on.

Remember not to meddle or interfere.
Be respectful of what others really want.
Don't’ gossip or talk about others with your concern.
Give up the need to change or fix others.

Offering advice is best only when asked.
Giving too often is to make up for something.
Consider what you really would want .
Remember everyone is different.

Stop feeling sorry and give encouragement.
Pay attention to what feels empowering.
Give your faith in the highest and best out come.
Share the best you have to demonstrate your Love.

Treat others as you want to be treated.
Give to others as you want to be given to.
Love others as you want to be loved.
And if you know better, do better.

When we are good to ourselves, we will be Good to others.
When we trust ourselves, we will be trusting of others.
When we give our best to ourselves, we can give out best to others.
What we give, we will receive.

Learn what you really want to receive and to give.
Pay attention to what feels inappropriate to you.
Honor what each individual wants to receive.
Be in integrity with yourself and what you value.

Always giving the best I know to you.
Betty Lue

Every Loving Reminder is a prayer of Love for all Humanity.
Thank for joining with me as you read and reflect on them.
Every affirmation you acknowledge is a prayer.
Thank you for seeing the power of Positive thought.
Every time you trust with affirming thoughts, you are sending your prayer.
Thank you for believing!