Affirmations:
I listen to differences with respect and learn more.
I listen without a need to blame or make others wrong.
I trust everyone has their own perception and opinion.
The more I respect and accept differences, the more I am respected.
Listen
with Respect!
Listen
without interrupting.
Listen with out
arguing.
Listen with
consideration.
Listen without
defensiveness.
When
we learn to listen to one another with an open mind, we will learn to be kind.
When we learn to see
what others see we will broaden our reality.
When we open to find
a way to agree, we begin to feel our unity.
When we stop to
consider everyone see differently, we find our respect for humanity.
It
is essential to begin a different way to communicate.
The word
“communicate” is finding the unity within our way to listen and speak.
We are able to seek
the agreement within our different perceptions.
We can understand
and respect our differences, without doing blaming or shaming.
Communication
in families and friendships is often unconsciously based on what we have
learned.
Without changing our
negative habits, we are doomed to repeat them.
When we do to others
what we want them to do for us, we learn a better way.
When we become
conscious in choosing respectful communication, we change fear to love.
All
of us have unconscious and limiting habits, excuses and justifications, beliefs
and rules.
We have adopted what
we say and do from what we learned and used from past encounters.
Parents, authorizes,
teachers, etc override children and those with lesser education or experience.
The seemingly
powerful often fail to listen and learn from those who seem quiet or
inexperienced.
It
is essential to harmonize, to heal and grow, to create a better world with
harmonious relationships.
We can stop fighting
and harmful communication with the simple pattern interrupt of “time out”.
Take time to take
care of ourselves, step away and find the calm center within.
Ask yourself to
really care enough to listen to what is needed to bring peace.
There
is no need to win at another’s expense.
It is not helpful to
override the other.
It will not be
beneficial to either to build resentment and fear.
It is problematic to
continue behaviors which are disrespectful to both.
What
is the helpful encouraging way to begin .
Listen first to
understand.
Stop making up your
mind “to be right:.
Let go of the need
to win and to fight.
Choose
the goal of coming together with kindness and respect.
Seek to bring peace
and consideration.
Give to the other
the time and space to be heard.
Learn to love one
another and give them your respect.
This
is the way to bring peace to all relationships.
Communicate with
respect.
I trust you to
respect yourself and others.
Loving you,
Betty Lue
Successful Communication Keys:
Calm
tone of voice
and be on the same level.
Ask permission to speak
Tune
in to where they
are with desire to understand.
Give
what will create
the greatest safety and respect.
Talk
with kindness
and in private.
Step
away until both
parties are calm. Use time-outs as needed.
Defuse the stress, urgency and upset,
before attempting to talk.
Be
clear when you
don’t have time or patience to listen.
Write
communication to
avoid confrontations and arguments.
Allow
all parties time
to think about their needs and possible equitable solutions.
Encourage
using “I
feel….., I want…… and I am willing………
Seek cooperative agreement, rather
than punishment, threat or demand.
Open your heart to understand (“Walk
in their shoes”)
Choose an outcome where everyone wins.