Make A Difference

YOUR WHOLE LIFE MATTERS.

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT.

Affirmations:  

My words make a difference.

My thoughts and words influence others.

My Essence connects with the Essence in others.

We are learning and healing from and with one another.

Your Life Matters!

Do you listen to yourself?

Do you want to be here?

Do you judge where you are?

Do you value being who you are?

We are here on purpose.

We choose to learn and grow.

We choose to help and heal.

We choose to hear and know.

Do you pay attention?

Do you learn from everyone?

Do you help others?

Do you listen to you own inner voice?

Our presence is valuable.

We can choose each day.

We can be victims or victorious.

We can drown or swim.

Are you conscious about what you do and say?

Do you observe how your words affect others?

Are you aware of how you are creating your experience?

Do you see what your thoughts do to your feelings and behavior?

We came to Learn.

We are in this school to learn how life works.

We came to learn about ourselves.

We can pay attention, listen and observe, learn and know.

Are you helping others?

Are you aware of how your thoughts can heal?

Do you see what you say and do makes a difference?

Do you know what you do for another, you are doing for all humanity?

We are here to learn and heal ourselves.

When we help another, we are helping ourselves.

What we teach, we are learning and reminding us.

What we give, we receive.

Are you responsible?

Are you a victim of your circumstances?

Are you strong to speak up?

Do you dare to change or rearrange what is wrong?

We are able to respond with love to all things.

We can make the change we want to be.

We can say and do what is true for us.

We can change ourselves and our circumstances.

Trusting in your willingness to correct your misperceptions and judgments.

Always open and willing to respond with my best.

Betty Lue

Is Helpful Always Helpful?

GIVE WHAT IS VALUED.

HELP OTHERS WITH RESPECT.

Affirmations;

I am inspired to be truly helpful.

To serve another is to serve ourselves.

Love is the answer, whatever the request.

Life is for Giving and I Am the Gift.

Be Truly Helpful

 

When we give what we genuinely want to receive, we may be helpful.

When we give what we think they need, we may be judging.

When we give what we hope will fix or change them, we may be interfering.

When we give what we are inspired to share without expectation, we will be caring.

The fine points of helpfulness are intertwined with beliefs, opinions, past history and experience. 

Parent and child helpfulness can be meddling.

Husband and wife helpfulness can be nagging.

Co-worker or neighbor helpfulness can be showing off.

Every form of helping can be construed in different ways by every recipient.

Some people feel loved and valued when someone helps.

Some people feel irritated and interfered with help.

Some people ignore and resist being helped.

Whether adult or child, needing help or not, everyone reacts or responds differently.

We all have experiences where help is not helpful.

We each have times when others try to fix or change us.

We may have experienced that helpfulness comes from a need to control.

Whether helper or recipient, we need to respect whether help is truly helpful.

We need to communicate what is wanted and what is not helpful.

We need to appreciate the positive thoughts in being helpful.

We need to enjoy the connection of compassion and kindness.

Before being helpful, consider if you would want the same.

“In this situation, would I appreciate someone helping me?”

Before proceeding with trying to be helpful, ask for permission.

“ May I help you?”

Before judging that the help you want to give is truly helpful, ask.

“I would like to …..   Would that be helpful to you?”

Before offering, ask if the helpfulness is coming from a judgmental perspective.

“ Are you helping in a way that empowers or disempowers the other?”

Too often, parents, partners and well-meaning friends interfere without asking permission.

Often people ignore the need,and step away from caring because they don’t know what to do.

Sometimes, people overdo, sacrifice and martyr themselves in doing for others and create guilt.

There are those who need to help, care, and do for their own self esteem and peace of mind.

Are your caring and helpfulness coming from Love, Trust and Freedom or from Fear?

Do you believe and trust the other or distrust them and want to control the outcome?

Pay attention to your intention in helping, advising, fixing or making decisions for others.

Be willing to listen to what others really want and may be afraid to request.

Suggestions for Helpfulness:

1) Wait until clearly asked or invited to help. 

2) Provide privacy and confidentiality and clarify any limitations.

3) Listen for exactly what is wanted: Listening, advice, information, compassion or spiritual support?

4) Set a specific time frame for the sharing and helping.

5) Request feedback in gratitude, compensation, actually valuing your help.

Remember to give time and energy to those who receive with respect and gratitude.

All I give is given to myself.

Loving to help, serve, guide, inspire and encourage,

Betty Lue

Appreciate and Learn

EVERYONE IS HERE TO LEARN.

WE ALL ARE IMPORTANT.

Affirmations:

I forgive myself for interfering with anyone’s right to choose.

Love sets us all free to choose with freedom and trust.

I learn from everyone and teach the highest and best I know.

I listen within and honor Unconditional Love, Heartfelt Service and Remembering the Good in All.

Let’s Appreciate Differences!

Stop criticizing.

Criticism interferes.

Complaining is draining.

Judging blocks the flow of creativity.

Appreciation opens and expands.

Gratitude fulfills.

Love heals and reveals.

Valuing makes all things better.

Politics is meant to give everyone a voice.

Voting is always about your personal choice.

Choosing what is right and good for you is good for all.

Coming together united for the highest Good dissolves the need to fight.

We all have a right to be heard.

When we listen to one another, there is no need to fight.

When child and parent disagree, it is respectful to listen fully.

When partners are not on the same page, it is essential to read the other’s page.

I listen and I am clear.

I listen for what rings true for me.

I listen for integrity in you and in me.

I relinquish the need to be critical, belligerent or demanding.

I trust in the end what is for the highest Good will be the outcome.

Everyone will learn and awaken to what benefits all.

We are here to be helpful to one another.

We can join to learn and teach, listen and respond for the greater Good.

I listen for the call for help, education. inspiration and for love.

I listen for what represents the inner principles of each person.

I listen for where there is sincerity and simple inner truth.

I listen so I can always respond for each individual’s highest calling.

Not only in politics is it necessary to voice your choice.

It is essential in employment, with customers, therapists, doctors, teachers,  parents and partners.

Together we make a difference, because we learn from one another.

Everyone can benefit by knowing more, by being open and willing to learn.

Let us commit to walking in the others’ shoes and listening for their fears, tears and joy.

Let us agree to disagree, when what we see is different.

Let us join with respect, enabling us to respond freely and cooperate for a higher Good.

We are called to be united in our choice to honor our differences and live in peace and unity.

I love, trust, respect and appreciate our differences.

Betty Lue

Life is forgiving .

You are the gift.

It is in freeing and being the gift you are, that you recognize the gift.

Set yourself free with forgiveness.

Loving you, 

Betty Lue