Wednesday, July 26, 2023

Parenting Responsibilities





I talk with children and youth as I want them to talk with me.

I ask children for help  and respect.

I learn from what I see children trying to say to us.

I am open and willing to be truly helpful and respectful.

How Do You Teach Children Well?

Do you observe yourself with children?

Your children and all children deserve to be carefully taught.

Children watch adults and copy them.

Children practice the words and behaviors of adults.

Children learn the language of adults.

Children watch the manners of adults.

Children pay attention to the lifestyle of adults.

Children are imprinted by adult behavior.

Children watch TV, UTube + and social media.

They pay attention to their teachers and elders.

Children watch and listen to the parents of their friends.

Children try to do what seems to be the most accepted behavior.

Do adults learn from their children?

Do parents blame, punish, criticize and curse their kids?

Do parents see themselves in how they relate and communicate?

Instead most parents try to stop unacceptable behavior in their children.

Adults often tell their children what to do.

Adults often drink too much, swear too much and behave inappropriately.

Adults may say “Do as I say and not as I do.”

Adults may nag and shame and threaten without results.

Then children learn to tell others what to do.

They learn bullying behaviors with swearing, shaming and threatening.

Children often defy authority if they see it in adults.

Children may rebel, get even and purposely fail to upset their parents and teachers.

What is a better way?

Let the adults clean up their behavior, words and relationships.

Let the adults listen sincerely when they ask the kids, “What would work better?”

Let the adults be the examples and role models before they judge children and teens.


Ask yourself,

Do we like to be told what to do?

Are we motivated by being threatened and punished?

Do we respond well to angry tones or respectful requests?

Are you able to understand the need for routine schedules and regular meals?

Would we want to learn from a smiling teacher or resentful critic?

Would we enjoy our life more in a family where parents were responsible.

Would we feel more secure and appreciative with healthy meals prepared by a loving parent?

Would we like to learn how to fix a meal, do the laundry and clean up after ourselves if our parents did?

Listen to your children and all children to see what they want and need.

Observe what makes children feel safe and happy and inspired to do well.

Give everyone the best you have everyday, including yourself.

You can be a better parent and a better example.

Love every child by giving them your very best with listening, loving, learning and letting go.

Betty Lue

“Life is for learning.

Education leads out of ignorance.

The more we learn, the more we know.

The more we know, the better our resources.

The more  resources, the more choice we have.”

The more choices, the more enjoyable life can be.”