Relationships

Affirmations:

I learn from everyone and everything. 

I value my relationships with you all and with myself.

I forgive the past with healing and blessing and gratitude.

I choose to be a happy, healthy genuine influence in every relationship.

Relationships Matter

Every relationship is for the purpose of discovering and healing ourselves.

Our real work is to learn from all relationships with others and with ourselves.

When we observe and listen to what works and doesn’t work, we learn.

We can change everything by changing our thoughts, words and behavior.

The essential learning is discovering what we have created .

We can undo everything with forgiveness of ourselves and begin again.

We are capable of making every relationship our teacher.

We must be willing to wake up and take full responsibility.

Our response with Love or reaction with fear determines the outcome.

When we respond to all things with thoughtfulness and kindness, we experience peace.

When we react to people and problems with anxiety, defensiveness and attack, we experience pain.

Life offers direct immediate feedback and reflections of what beliefs and judgments we have.

Set aside your assumptions and open to understanding.

Step away from your judgments and allow yourself to accept.

Undo false accusations and see things another way.

Delete misperceptions and recognize the call for love and learning.

Everything and everyone is our teacher.

We can resist and attract more of the same.

We can pay attention and learn to let go.

We experiment with what works and doesn’t work.

We can lay aside our grievances with forgiveness.

We can erase the past and choose a new future.

We can realize what did not work for us.

We can choose a different way of relating.

The work is not to get mean, sad, or afraid.

The opportunity is to wake up and be at choice.

The healing is to heal our own misperceptions.

The empowerment is to be willing to choose.

We can use our relationships to learn, to heal, to help, to love, to appreciate.

We can depend on them to “fix” us, but until we correct ourselves, we do not know our own power.

We can seek relationships to make us comfortable, and then lose our true identity in another.

We can forget and neglect to trust and free ourselves to fully discover, express and be whole.

I remind myself daily in my relationship with you.

Thank you.

Betty Lue

Forgive the past.

Learn from any mistakes.

Heal your disappointments and hurts.

Grow with your goals.

Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.

No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

Take nothing personally.

Make no assumptions.

Keep your agreements.

Always give your best.

Recommendations for All Relationships

With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.

(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.

Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.

Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.

Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.

Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.

Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.

Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.

With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.

With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.

With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.