Affirmations:
I learn from everyone and everything.
I value my relationships with you all and with myself.
I forgive the past with healing and blessing and gratitude.
I choose to be a happy, healthy genuine influence in every relationship.
Relationships
Matter
Every
relationship is for the purpose of discovering and healing ourselves.
Our real work is to
learn from all relationships with others and with ourselves.
When we observe and
listen to what works and doesn’t work, we learn.
We can change
everything by changing our thoughts, words and behavior.
The
essential learning is discovering what we have created .
We can undo
everything with forgiveness of ourselves and begin again.
We are capable of
making every relationship our teacher.
We must be willing
to wake up and take full responsibility.
Our
response with Love or reaction with fear determines the outcome.
When we respond to
all things with thoughtfulness and kindness, we experience peace.
When we react to
people and problems with anxiety, defensiveness and attack, we experience pain.
Life offers direct
immediate feedback and reflections of what beliefs and judgments we have.
Set
aside your assumptions and open to understanding.
Step away from your
judgments and allow yourself to accept.
Undo false
accusations and see things another way.
Delete
misperceptions and recognize the call for love and learning.
Everything
and everyone is our teacher.
We can resist and
attract more of the same.
We can pay attention
and learn to let go.
We experiment with
what works and doesn’t work.
We
can lay aside our grievances with forgiveness.
We can erase the
past and choose a new future.
We can realize what
did not work for us.
We can choose a
different way of relating.
The work is not
to get mean, sad, or afraid.
The opportunity is
to wake up and be at choice.
The healing is to
heal our own misperceptions.
The empowerment is
to be willing to choose.
We
can use our relationships to learn, to heal, to help, to love, to appreciate.
We can depend on
them to “fix” us, but until we correct ourselves, we do not know our own power.
We can seek
relationships to make us comfortable, and then lose our true identity in
another.
We can forget and
neglect to trust and free ourselves to fully discover, express and be whole.
I
remind myself daily in my relationship with you.
Thank you.
Betty Lue
Forgive
the past.
Learn
from any mistakes.
Heal
your disappointments and hurts.
Grow
with your goals.
Live
with gratitude.
You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.
Four Agreements by don Miguel
Ruiz
Take
nothing personally.
Make
no assumptions.
Keep
your agreements.
Always
give your best.
Recommendations for All
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationship.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.