Affirmations:
I choose to never quit on love.
I learn from every relationship.
I let go of what I judge that distracts me from compassion and peace.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness and allowing what is to be.
Understanding
Relationships
We
are all here to learn from our relationships.
There are as many
beliefs about relationships as there are relationships.
Our learning is
really always about what works for us and those we relate to.
Learning the
language, attitudes and attachments is key to discerning what works.
We
all have purpose and intention to our relationships, even if seemingly
unconscious.
We each want
something different to be experienced.
Most learn
accidentally by what hurts and what feels good.
We usually develop
our beliefs about right and wrong from the experiences we have.
Most
relationship interactions are habitual or based on past learning.
When we experiences
what is extraordinary or unusual, it is because it is unfamiliar.
If we all knew what
feels good is right, we would agree on a universal paradigm.
If we all believed
our relationship goal is to feel good and make others feel good, we would be
content.
When
we do not come from similar functional or dysfunction family systems, we
disagree.
With disagreement
about what is right, there is arguing and trying to change one another.
Often people base
lifetime relationships on making each wrong and trying to fix the other.
The arguing and
criticism is to build a case for our own position.
All
criticism is about the critic.
What people say when
they accuse and blame is really about themselves as much as the other.
Within all blame are
the beliefs, thoughts and feelings the critic has about themselves.
Take a deeper look
and you will see the projection of your own feelings onto the other.
We
can only see what comes from our own experience.
We learn from all
relationships by what we react to and what upsets us.
Our touchy spots and
upsets come from our own life experience and what we “make up” is right.
We can identify our
attachments, fears and judgments by what hurts or upsets us.
In
most cases, we are upset by leftover wounds from our early childhood.
We all learned from
our experience what would work and was “right” and what was “wrong”.
In some cases we are
upset by the values we learned being neglected or opposed.
At other times we
are hurt because we feel dismissed, ignored, lied to or betrayed.
When
we are hurt or upset by anyone, it means we have some self-healing to do.
With all
relationships we are meant to learn, help and heal ourselves.
Our responsibility
is to become aware of how to find happiness and inner peace.
We are here to take
impeccable care of our selves and what we value.
Relationships
show us what we need to learn.
Relationships show
us where we need to become more aware.
Relationships
demonstrate what we need to heal within ourselves.
Relationships are a
barometer of our willingness to forgive and respect others.
I
honor all relationships for they show me how to Love.
Loving You,
Betty Lue
The
Paradoxical Commandments—original version by Kent M. Keith
1.
People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
2.
If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
3.
If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
4.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
5.
Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
6.
The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men
with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
7.
People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
8.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
9.
People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
10.
Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have anyway.