Affirmations:
When
words hurt, I turn them into blessings.
I
am responsible for what I think and feel.
I
learn what to forgive and what to remember.
I
am responsible for what I experience.
Hurt
Feelings?
What
hurts your feelings?
What offends you?
Do others words
condemn?
Do others’
judgments validate what you already are thinking?
All
criticisms are really about the critic.
All attacks and
judgments are telling more about them than about us.
People can only
project on another what they have within themselves.
So what other people
think of us is really none of our business.
What
would it take to let go of all criticism with forgiveness?
Listen to others and
respond with ‘thanks”.
Relinquish the need
to attack back and flush the toxic material.
Be aware that only
you can choose to not ingest what is unhealthy for you.
Ingest
the best and forgive and forget the rest.
You can take in what
works and is good for you.
You can step aside
from what is hurtful and unhealthy for you.
You can choose to be
good to you.
Our
job is to take good care of ourselves.
If what we eat and
think and hear and see is not good, do not take it in.
You are the
gatekeeper of your mind.
If what you believe
to be unkind, do not keep it in mind.
Relinquish
that which is not yours.
Let go and let
goodness fill your mind and heart.
Remember what you
take in or on is yours to choose.
And when it is not
healthy, erase and delete, so you can be healthy and whole.
There
are truths that we may tell one another that can be used for good.
There are words that
are said that may cause us to hurt, but we can use them to learn.
There are people and
places who give advice that wake us up to change our minds.
There are moments
when we give and receive good help and advice.
We are
translators of what we hear.
We are healers of
what we see.
We are students to
better ourselves.
We are teachers to
remind ourselves and others.
Learn
to see things without hurt.
Learn to use
everything for the Good of all.
Learn to remember we
can learn from everyone.
Learn there are
intrinsic blessings of Good when we forgive.
Loving
us as we all remember to stop hurting ourselves,
Betty Lue
Handling Criticism
Every upset is
always a wakeup call.
All wakeup calls are
invitation to get on purpose.
Our purpose is to
live in integrity with our mission and principles.
When we are fully being true to our authentic self ,no one can upset
or hurt us.
Every criticism
is always about the critic.
We can listen and be
grateful for them telling their truth, their belief, their projection.
When we take it
personally, we are acknowledging that we have some guilt.
When we are offended, we are confessing that we are not wholly on purpose
and at peace.
When my buttons
are pushed ( when I have a reaction) to what has been said, it is mine to heal.
When I am hurt or
offended, I need to stop and listen to how I can respond to myself with love.
When I am defensive,
attacking, upset, I need to take stock of what is the truth for me.
Always I can be aware that the critic is talking about their own need and I
can forgive them.
When we hear a
criticism or what we judge to be an attack, we can best forgive it all.
When we feel
attacked or criticized personally, we can simply apology for the upset.
When we listen
within for how best to respond, we can hear what is really needed.
The critic is always describing themselves and expressing their own need to
heal.
What we give to
another is given to ourselves.
When we offer
forgiveness and healing to a brother, we are offering healing to ourselves.
There is no harm in
doing no harm.
There is continuing upset when we try to be right.
Where we have
guilt, we will be vulnerable.
When we are not true
to ourselves, we can be hurt.
When we have blamed
another, we will fear being blamed.
When we are afraid of someone or something, we have not yet forgiven.
All upsetting
experiences are lessons, reminders or wakeup calls.
All difficulties are
challenges which we can learn from.
All seeming offenses
are opportunities to realign our principles and purpose.
In our defenselessness, our safety lies.
When we have
nothing to hide with no secrets and no fears of being judged, criticism is a
call for help.
When we are free
from judging, blaming and making anyone wrong, we respond always with kindness.
When we are willing
to give what we want to receive, we respond with respectful listening and love.
When we are open to giving what will bring peace and harmony to all, we
forgive and love again.
And so it is, we
learn and expand our capacity for Loving Kindness,
Betty Lue