Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Hurt Feelings?

When words hurt, I turn them into blessings.
I am responsible for what I think and feel.
I learn what to forgive and what to remember.
I am responsible for what I experience.

Hurt Feelings?

What hurts your feelings?
What offends you?
Do others words condemn?
Do others’ judgments validate what you already are thinking?

All criticisms are really about the critic.
All attacks and judgments are telling more about them than about us.
People can only project on another what they have within themselves.
So what other people think of us is really none of our business.

What would it take to let go of all criticism with forgiveness?
Listen to others and respond with ‘thanks”.
Relinquish the need to attack back and flush the toxic material.
Be aware that only you can choose to not ingest what is unhealthy for you.

Ingest the best and forgive and forget the rest.
You can take in what works and is good for you.
You can step aside from what is hurtful and unhealthy for you.
You can choose to be good to you.

Our job is to take good care of ourselves.
If what we eat and think and hear and see is not good, do not take it in.
You are the gatekeeper of your mind.
If what you believe to be unkind, do not keep it in mind.

Relinquish that which is not yours.
Let go and let goodness fill your mind and heart.
Remember what you take in or on is yours to choose.
And when it is not healthy, erase and delete, so you can be healthy and whole.

There are truths that we may tell one another that can be used for good.
There are words that are said that may cause us to hurt, but we can use them to learn.
There are people and places who give advice that wake us up to change our minds.
There are moments when we give and receive good help and advice.

We are translators of what we hear.
We are healers of what we see.
We are students to better ourselves.
We are teachers to remind ourselves and others.

Learn to see things without hurt.
Learn to use everything for the Good of all.
Learn to remember we can learn from everyone.
Learn there are intrinsic blessings of Good when we forgive.

Loving us as we all remember to stop hurting ourselves,
Betty Lue

Handling Criticism

Every upset is always a wakeup call.
All wakeup calls are invitation to get on purpose.
Our purpose is to live in integrity with our mission and principles.
When we are fully being  true to our authentic self ,no one can upset or hurt us.

Every criticism is always about the critic.
We can listen and be grateful for them telling their truth, their belief, their projection.
When we take it personally, we are acknowledging that we have some guilt.
When we are offended, we are confessing that we are not wholly on purpose and at peace.

When my buttons are pushed ( when I have a reaction) to what has been said, it is mine to heal.
When I am hurt or offended, I need to stop and listen to how I can respond to myself with love.
When I am defensive, attacking, upset, I need to take stock of what is the truth for me.
Always I can be aware that the critic is talking about their own need and I can forgive them.

When we hear a criticism or what we judge to be an attack, we can best forgive it all.
When we feel attacked or criticized personally, we can simply apology for the upset.
When we listen within for how best to respond, we can hear what is really needed.
The critic is always describing themselves and expressing their own need to heal.

What we give to another is given to ourselves.
When we offer forgiveness and healing to a brother, we are offering healing to ourselves.
There is no harm in doing no harm.
There is continuing upset when we try to be right.

Where we have guilt, we will be vulnerable.
When we are not true to ourselves, we can be hurt.
When we have blamed another, we will fear being blamed.
When we are afraid of someone or something, we have not yet forgiven.

All upsetting experiences are lessons, reminders or wakeup calls.
All difficulties are challenges which we can learn from.
All seeming offenses are opportunities to realign our principles and purpose.
In our defenselessness, our safety lies.

When we have nothing to hide with no secrets and no fears of being judged, criticism is a call for help.
When we are free from judging, blaming and making anyone wrong, we respond always with kindness.
When we are willing to give what we want to receive, we respond with respectful listening and love.
When we are open to giving what will bring peace and harmony to all, we forgive and love again.

And so it is, we learn and expand our capacity for Loving Kindness,
Betty Lue