Affirmations:
Love naturally flows from me to others.
The more I love and respect myself, the more I love and respect others.
Love works for me, because it reminds me I Am Love.
I quickly and easily release all blocks to Love.
Succcessful
Relationships and Partnerships
Relationships,
all of them, are for healing ourselves.
Whatever comes up in
life is an opportunity to heal something similar in the past.
Most if not all
upsets are unconscious past patterns showing up so we can heal them.
When they are
revealed with an upset , it is essential that we not blame or criticize.
Whatever
creates guilt about hurting another or fear of having them leave us will not
help.
To help us heal, we
must look at our own attachment, fears, victimization and blame.
We must review how
we want our relationships to be and begin our own journey within.
When we create what
we want with our thoughts, words and behavior, we are healing.
Often
in “falling in love” you “fall in love” with how you feel in the presence of
the other.
There is a
“happiness bubble” which can last a few days or many years.
This stage is when
each person shows their best trying to please and be what the other wants.
It is temporary
because it is only showing what we want to be seen.
When
the bubble bursts, whether in business partnership or personal relationship ,
there is upset.
People often fall in
love with the frame on the picture, the outside glitter and glamor.
When the
relationship loses its shine or people no longer “please” one another, it often
ends.
Relationships
are ideally created to support and inspiring each other to be your best.
When the other is
not ready, able or willing to be supportive, there may be disappointment and
hurt.
When we depend on
another giving us what we want, we tend to become spoiled or dependent.
When
our needs are not met, often people are disheartened and quit on the other.
Relationships
lose mystery and “magnetic attraction” often when you get to really know the
other.
People who feel
chemistry or magic often are attracted by what they don’t know.
When attracted to
the unknown or mystery, you may go from one partner to another.
Looking for a
sensation or feeling is often seen at “love”.
To
choose what you want in relationship, make a list of your ideal qualities of
relating.
Honesty, humor,
forgiveness, safety, openness, commitment, etc.
Then assess whether
you yourself are living your ideals.
The first step to
healthy relationship is consistently giving what you want to receive.
People
give what they have.
People teach others
to have by giving.
In relationship we
can give to others or “get” from others.
When they have to
give, they often get resentful.
When they have
nothing to give, they often get rejected.
How
we can create success is by being loving and respectful to ourselves.
When you have love
to give, share it without expectation.
When you don’t have
love to share, take care of yourself.
We need to learn to
find and fulfill the love inside, so we are not needy and dependent.
Successful
relationships require work.
I am willing to
continue to heal, learn and grow to always do the work to heal within and help
without.
Love in us needs to
be set free to be, first to love ourselves and then to give love to others.
I am loving myself
and you with everything I think and say and do.
Life
is fulfilled with sharing the Love,
Betty Lue
Keys
to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared
goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention
without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know
in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best
for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond
consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and
forgiving of mistakes made.
Successful
Relationships
To
have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates,
children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality,
Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All parties must share a common
goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from
communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the
future and what they share in common.
Honesty: Honest communication is sharing
what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest
is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and
appreciation.
Equality:
When both
parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality. Equality
is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness
to give one’s best even when it is less than the other. To quit or hold
back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment:
To commit to the
fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the
relationship requires always choosing what is best for both. Decisions
are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One must be committed
to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility:
Being fully able
and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining,
honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible. Where there
is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as
well as lack of responsibility.
To
be successful requires staying conscious.
To
be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To
be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To
be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To
take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the
success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give.,
total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for
the quality of the relationship.
If you
want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what
you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the
quality of your relating.
Blessings
for choosing a better way,
Betty
Lue