Affirmations:
When
afraid, I ask for reassurance and comfort.
When
angry, I ask for forgiveness and peace.
When
hurting, I ask for help and easing the pain.
When
upset for any reason, I forgive my hurtful thoughts and feelings.
Listen
to Feelings!
Crying,
anger, jealousy, fear, all emotions are forms of communication.
Every emotional
expression is communicating
Even without words,
emotions are communicating.
Are we listening to
ourselves and to one another?
When
an infant, child or adult cries, they are communicating their needs.
Is
anyone listening?
When I see children
cry, they need to be heard.
When I watch parents
ignore their children’s feelings, I recognize they are not listening.
The
primary reason for not listening and responding is guilt and fear.
People feel guilty
and afraid to listen, because we unconsciously know we have caused the pain.
When we recognize we
have not been loving, accepting, understanding and helpful, we feel guilty.
When we feel guilt,
we usually either withhold our love and withdraw or judge and blame the other.
When
someone is acting afraid, they need to be heard and reassured.
When someone is
feeling guilty and sad, they need to be heard and forgiven.
When someone is
responding with jealousy and resentment, they need to be heard and loved.
When someone is
hurting and feeling sorry for themselves, they need to be heard, loved and
comforted.
When someone is
behaving and speaking with anger, they need to be heard, respected and
responded to.
When I
don’t know what is being communicated under the feelings, I gently ask.
When I listen to
words that don’t make sense, I ask what is really upsetting.
When I hear and see
someone behaving insanely, I listen for the real reason.
When anyone is
upset, hurting, angry, jealous or afraid, they are not feeling safe and off
purpose.
Feelings
deserve to be heard.
Feelings deserve to
be listened to with respect.
Feelings deserve to
be interpreted to source the underlying need.
Feelings deserve to
be responded to with love, trust and acceptance.
Emotional
expression may be exaggerated to get attention.
Emotional behavior
may be extreme because of prior buildup of negativity.
Emotional words can
be inflammatory to get reactive behavior and distraction.
Emotional
interaction can totally detour potential positive healing communication.
Take
the time to listen deeply.
Have the kindness to
calm the situation.
Pause before
reacting with intolerance.
Give your best
response with the intention to be helpful.
With
emotional needs, the person simply needs our kind, respectful and loving
attention.
Let us always give
our very best to ourselves and to one another.
We are here to truly
helpful to everyone, of all ages and expressions.
Love works, so let
it prevail in all situations.
Betty Lue