Affirmations:
I listen to myself and learn to always return to Love.
I hear my heart and mind wanting only peace.
I honor the calling to join everyone with compassion.
I trust myself to find a creative solution where everyone wins.
When No One Listens…
When
no one listens, listen to yourself.
When no one
cares, care for yourself.
When no one is
present, be present for yourself.
When no one is
happy, be happy with yourself.
On
the inner, everyone is listening.
The heart of
everyone cares.
The Universe is
present.
Everyone wants
what you want.
Begin
with you.
Be the one who
listen and cares.
Be fully
present for others.
Be happy and
good to yourself and others.
When
people don’t listen, they often don’t want to hear what is being said.
When people
don’t listen, they may not feel the speaker cares.
When people
don’t listen, they may be distracted or absent to themselves.
When people
don’t listen, they be unhappy, upset, angry or resentful.
In
order to communicate, one person must be present listening and caring.
One person must
be fully clear, attentive and at peace within.
When one person
is listening with attention and care, they can respond to the immediate needs
of the others.
Be still and
know what is needed and wanted to demonstrate safety and a desire for harmony.
How
do we communicate with those who don’t like our personality or voice or
feelings?
How do we talk
with those who walk away, shut down, resist and resent?
How do we reach
harmony, mutual respect and trust one another?
Create peace
and harmony, respect and trust within and for ourselves.
Come
to peace within.
Ask yourself: “What
Can I Do?”
Write down what
you hear.
Clear the ego
and personality talk.
Hear the
guidance of Spirit, love and Inspiration.
There
is always inner guidance to forgive ourselves for being hurt, offended,
resentful or upset.
There is always
conscience telling us to be kind and respectful, forgiving and compassionate.
There is always
a desire to find a solution where everyone wins and no one loses.
There is always
a way to let go and return to Love.
Learning
everyday with every relationship and every situation.
Loving as I
learn,
Betty Lue
Keys to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared
goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention
without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know
in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best
for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and
willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or
blame. Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.
Successful Relationships
To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers,
teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty,
Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.
Joining: All
parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared
vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their
vision for the future and what they share in common.
Honesty:
Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or
withholds.
Honest
is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and
appreciation.
Equality: When
both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.
Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is
the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.
To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.
Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the
success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.
Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned. One
must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.
Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create
success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully
responsible. Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is
inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.
To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.
To
take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the
success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give.,
total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for
the quality of the relationship.
If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to
observe what you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend upon the other changing in
order to increase the quality of your relating.