Wednesday, June 24, 2015


I listen to myself and learn to always return to Love.
I hear my heart and mind wanting only peace.
I honor the calling to join everyone with compassion.
I trust myself to find a creative solution where everyone wins.

When No One Listens

When no one listens, listen to yourself.
When no one cares, care for yourself.
When no one is present, be present for yourself.
When no one is happy, be happy with yourself.

On the inner, everyone is listening.
The heart of everyone cares.
The Universe is present.
Everyone wants what you want.

Begin with you.
Be the one who listen and cares.
Be fully present for others.
Be happy and good to yourself and others.

When people don’t listen, they often don’t want to hear what is being said.
When people don’t listen, they may not feel the speaker cares.
When people don’t listen, they may be distracted or absent to themselves.
When people don’t listen, they be unhappy, upset, angry or resentful.

In order to communicate, one person must be present listening and caring.
One person must be fully clear, attentive and at peace within.
When one person is listening with attention and care, they can respond to the immediate needs of the others.
Be still and know what is needed and wanted to demonstrate safety and a desire for harmony.

How do we communicate with those who don’t like our personality or voice or feelings?
How do we talk with those who walk away, shut down, resist and resent?
How do we reach harmony, mutual respect and trust one another?
Create peace and harmony, respect and trust within and for ourselves.

Come to peace within.
Ask yourself: “What Can I Do?”
Write down what you hear.
Clear the ego and personality talk.
Hear the guidance of Spirit, love and Inspiration.

There is always inner guidance to forgive ourselves for being hurt, offended, resentful or upset.
There is always conscience telling us to be kind and respectful, forgiving and compassionate.
There is always a desire to find a solution where everyone wins and no one loses.
There is always a way to let go and return to Love.

Learning everyday with every relationship and every situation.
Loving as I learn, 
Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships
Joining-Create a common vision or shared goal.
Honesty- Communicate your true intention without secrets or withholds.
Equality-Each is giving the best they know in each moment.
Commitment- Agree to what is highest and best for both parties.
Responsibility- Be able and willing to respond consciously to all relationship needs without guilt or blame. Be respectful and forgiving of mistakes made.

Successful Relationships

To have successful relationships with partners, spouse, coworkers, teammates, children there are five essential factors: Joining, Honesty, Equality, Commitment, Responsibility.

Joining: All parties must share a common goal or vision for their relationship. This shared vision comes from communication regarding the needs of each individual, their vision for the future and what they share in common.

Honesty: Honest communication is sharing what really matters with no blame, guilt or withholds.
Honest is a byproduct of integrity, living one’s life on purpose with openness and appreciation.

Equality: When both parties are giving their best in each moment, there is equality.  Equality is not measured by comparison: it is experienced when there is the willingness to give one’s best even when it is less than the other.  To quit or hold back on one’s giving creates inequality.

Commitment: To commit to the fulfillment of the desired vision or goal and to the success of the relationship requires always choosing what is best for both.  Decisions are based on what is a win/win for all concerned.  One must be committed to what is highest and best for each party.

Responsibility: Being fully able and willing to respond to whatever is needed to create success through joining, honesty, equality and commitment is being fully responsible.  Where there is guilt or blame being communicated, there is inequality and victimization as well as lack of responsibility.

To be successful requires staying conscious.
To be successful requires a willingness to communicate with respect.
To be successful requires an acceptance of differences.
To be successful requires open-minded and appreciation of all parties.

To take on unconscious patterns of dysfunctional family systems will limit the success of one’s joining, honest communication, true willingness to give., total commitment to what is best for all and assuming full responsibility for the quality of the relationship.

If you want success and fulfillment in your relationships, begin today to observe what you can do to improve them in every way. You need not depend upon the other changing in order to increase the quality of your relating.