Affirmations:
I trust myself to listen with an open-mind.
I take nothing personally and allow myself to learn.
I freely express the truths I know only when invited.
I know I see only a small piece of every picture through my own filters.
Can You Handle the Truth?
When
we get defensive, a button of truth was pushed.
When we react with
anger, a piece of truth was exposed.
When we are hurt by
another’s words, a past wound was touched.
When we are offended
by someone, we forgot to respond with love.
The
truth sometimes hurts, but then it sets us free.
When we don’t want
to hear what others see of feel, perhaps we believe there is something real.
Always look inside
to see if you can learn anything about them or about you.
When we are hiding
or deceiving ourselves, we do not like to be exposed.
When
we have no secrets, we are not afraid.
When we are at peace
with ourselves, others judgments are not upsetting.
When we are in love,
we respond to others with Love and understanding.
When we are happy
with ourselves, we easily say ‘Thank You for sharing.”
When
we have opposing opinions, we can ask ourselves if it helps to object.
When we believe our
own truths, we can easily agree to disagree.
When we know what is
right for us, we can allow others to be right.
When we trust
differences are healthy, we can let go of a need for conflict.
Truth
is in the eye and mind and heart of the beholder.
Everyone sees what
they want to see.
Each person
perceives through their own filters.
What others think of
us is really none of our business.
If
we are real with ourselves, we invite others to be real as well.
If we are honest
with ourselves, we welcome others to be honest with themselves.
The truths we hear
always from the beliefs, perceptions, opinions and misperceptions of the
speaker.
When we hear their
ideas without judgments, we help with the healing and self revelation process.
Resisting
others’ truths simply creates more resistance.
Resenting others
truths, hurts the one who is resentful.
Fearing other truths
shows there is hiding and secrecy.
Judging others
judgments simply create judging in us.
It
is safe, fun and easy to listen without fear, guilt, anger or blame.
Listening with
awareness and peace, is healing to all parties.
Listening with
gratitude for the full expression of others is a sign of their trust.
Listening with love
and kindness gives us a greater capacity for compassion and caring.
It
is truly helpful for us take nothing personally.
It is truly helpful
to allow others to speak their minds.
It is truly helpful
to express kindness for others hurtful thoughts.
It is truly helpful
to hear the diverse and divergent truths with no judgment at all.
Loving
us all for learning to be open, willing to listen and appreciative.
Betty
Lue
You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.
Four Agreements by don Miguel
Ruiz
Take
nothing personally.
Make
no assumptions.
Keep
your agreements.
Always
give your best.
Recommendations for All
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.