Monday, October 27, 2014

How to Forgive

Affirmations:
I forgive everyone and everything, for all time, including myself.
I easily release fear, guilt, blame and resentment and free myself to love again.
Letting go is fun, safe and easy.
The past is gone; It cannot harm me.
  
Forgiveness is not forgiving a wrong done to you.
Forgiveness is not allowing people to do harm to others.
Forgiveness is not giving up and being victimized by others.
True Forgiveness is not allowing anyone or anything to hurt you.

Forgiveness is an eraser filled with Love.
Forgiveness recognizes that no one can harm you.
Forgiveness is letting go of all thoughts you hold that continue to hurt you.
Forgiveness is surrendering the thoughts and feelings to a higher power and returning to Love.

I see forgiveness as an opportunity to see all things with love.
Forgiveness is our choice to not allow others to teach us to withhold love.
Forgiveness is a tool to erase from minds those limiting beliefs that keep us feeling unsafe.
Forgiveness can be used to wipe the past clean and never allowing it to hurt us.

We can forgive our body, our finances, the weather, our friends and ourselves.
But the most important forgiveness is to forgive ourselves for resisting, criticizing and correcting.
When we judge, we condemn and block the flow of energy.
When we forgive, we allow and open the flow of energy for change and healing.

Life is forgiving and for giving Goodness and Mercy and Love.
When we allow life to flow easily and gently to its highest place of being, we are the gift.
When we let go of our resistance, condemnation and resentment, we open our heart/mind to all Good.
When we release, delete and undo our mental damning of the energy, we see things differently.

Forgiveness is meant to see no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil.
Forgiveness allows good to work through all things.
When even one of us chooses peace instead of conflict, we allow good to flow.
When each one of us forgives ourselves for learned limitations and false beliefs, we allow the Highest Good.

A dear friend reminded me of what works for her.

Forgive, Surrender and Love Again.
She received disturbing phone calls from her family members and made a choice to quiet her mind and open her heart, so she could sleep.
When I got off the phone, I still needed to go back to sleep.  I stood at the foot of my bed thinking that wasn't going to happen with the surge of negative feelings I had at that moment.  I thought “What do I do with this'?
You said to me "Forgive, surrender and love again".  Standing there I said out loud "I forgive you, Jane.  I surrender this situation totally, completely and unconditionally.....I love you Jane".  I repeated the same for Alissa, climbed back into bed and slept like a baby!  It felt good too!
Thank you B'lue, loving you too!

Forgiveness is the willingness to let go.
Forgiveness is opening one’s heart to love and peace.
Forgiveness is to stop blocking our own loving kindness.
Forgiveness is allowing the flow of awareness and grace for all.

Willing to love, no matter what.
Betty Lue


Do It Anyway

People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.  
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.  
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.  Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.  
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building, someone could destroy it all overnight.  
Build anyway.  

If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.  
Be happy anyway.  

The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.  
Do good anyway.  

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.  
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.  

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.  
It was never between you and them anyway.

The Paradoxical Commandments—original version by Kent M. Keith

1.   People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
      Love them anyway.

2.   If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
      Do good anyway.

3.   If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
      Succeed anyway.

4.   The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
      Do good anyway.

5.   Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
      Be honest and frank anyway.

6.   The biggest men with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men with the smallest minds.
      Think big anyway.

7.   People favor underdogs, but follow only top dogs.
      Fight for a few underdogs anyway.

8.   What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
      Build anyway.

9.   People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
      Help people anyway.

10. Give the world the best you have and you'll get kicked in the teeth.

      Give the world the best you have anyway.