Relationships

Affirmations:

I love, trust and respect myself.

I love, trust and respect others.

I choose to clear the forgive and respond with love.

I forgive and let go of what doesn’t work easily and quickly.

(See Tips for Quality Relationships below!)

Relationships Deserve Our Best

Our primary relationship is with ourselves.

When we treat ourselves with love. trust and respect, we treat others with love and respect.

When we love, trust and respect ourselves, we teach others to love and respect us.

When we love, trust and respect ourselves, others learn to love, trust and respect themselves.

The key to healthy, happy fulfilling relationships is within us.

We can be the change we want to see in our family and our world.

We can demonstrate the way to harmony and peace.

We can live our lives with self respect, self trust, self discipline, and self Love.

To clear the programming we remember both consciously and unconsciously, we must be aware.

To undo what is no longer true or valuable for us, we must be willing to forgive and change.

To no longer repeat what is harmful, hurtful and unkind, we must literally change our mind.

To release what is not healthy or good for ourselves and others, we must choose again.

Relationships are the way we find out what needs to be healed.

Relationship upset or difficulties are showing us what doesn’t work.

Relationships invite us to let go of the dysfunctional behaviors.

All our complaining, criticizing, demanding and negativity must go.

We may have falsely learned to keep repeating ineffective and inflammatory behaviors.

The violence and volatility of our words and actions only create more guilt and fear.

When others become guilty and afraid, they cannot think clearly or act in conscientious ways.

We must learn to be respectful and clear, listen and understand, to choose wise interaction.

Watch the best mediators teachers and healers.

Learn from those with high quality relationships.

Step away from violence and anger.

Choose for those who communicate effectively.

Give us the unconscious and ignorant ways.

Model after those who know how to take impeccable care of themselves.

Be the best role model you can be.

Assume you do not know and learn from those who do.

Relationships all matter.

Relationships build our family and community.

Relationships show us what needs to be healed.

Relationships are our way to safety, sanctuary and love.

Relating to you with only a desire to love, trust and respect you and all.

Betty Lue

Keys to Successful Relationships (Constructive choices)

Join with Love and Respect-Create a common vision or shared goal.

Honesty with compassion and kindness- Communicate your highest intention.

Equality in Realizing the Good in All-Each give the best they know in each moment.

Commitment to Healing and Wholeness- Agree to what is highest and best for both.

Response Ability- Respond to everything with forgiveness and peace.

Listen without guilt or blame. Be willing to let go and choose again for Love.

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Forgive the past.

Learn from any mistakes.

Heal your disappointments and hurts.

Grow with your goals.

Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.

No one else can do it for you.

Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

Take nothing personally.

Make no assumptions.

Keep your agreements.

Always give your best.

Recommendations for All Relationships

With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.

(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.

Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.

Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.

Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.

Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.

Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.

Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.

Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.

Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.

Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.

Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.

Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.

Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.

With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.

With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.

With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.

When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.