My question: Is there a way to share with one who has no desire to hear ?
Who is the one who has “no” desire to hear?
If your communication is loving and affirming, the other will receive it whether said, written, or thought.
All beneficent thoughts are received heart to heart.
If your communication is criticizing and negating, they will not be open to hear or will feel offended, attacked or hurt. If this is your intention, I recommend you forgive yourself for wanting to hurt, criticize or attack another. All criticisms are really about the critic.
It is by our example that others can tell if we are safe, forgiving and loving beings.
It is by our words that others can hear if we are unsafe, judgmental and critical beings.
Only we can choose how we show up in our world.
If we remember to forgive all lack of love and love those who lack, we will be teaching only Love.
Loving ourselves is essential to all communication.
Is there a way to stop letting someone hurt me?
· Stop taking it personally.
· Forgive any guilt or blame you may have in your mind.
· Ask them to start communicating in a positive way.
· Do not engage in conversation when they are drinking or using or angry.
· Give yourself a “timeout” and step away until there is a calm time.
· Ask for communication in writing only.
· Leave the relationship and forgive yourself for allowing anyone to hurt you.
· Ask for a neutral third party to negotiate any further communication.
· Let anything that is said go “in one ear and out the other”.
· Do not tolerate abusive language or hurtful emotional or physical interaction.
· Stop hoping for something different.
Tolerating abusive language or behavior will only create more of the same.
Treating the abusive person in an abusive way will generate more of the same.
Being nice, condescending and appeasing the abusive behavior will like incur more of the same.
Standing up for ourselves and doing what is effective to protect ourselves is natural and healthy.
Our work in human relationships is really about doing what is natural.
· When our communication yields arguing and hurt, stop.
· When communication feels like each person needs to be right, stop.
· When communication is really not helpful and hurtful, stop.
Humans often use communication to try to win.
Human need to listen and understand before seeking to be understood.
Reading the real meaning under the words is essential to responding with understanding.
The word “Communication” means “coming together as One”.
When we behave in a truly “human” or “humane” way, we are compassionate, forgiving and respond with Love, Peace, Understanding and Intention to heal the pain, the problem, the separation.
Loving us all as we erase what disconnects us to ourselves, our Source and one another.
Loving us as we remember to reconnect,
Betty Lue