“Yes, reminders often are in response to questions or concerns that are emailed to me or come up in my therapy and coaching practice. They reflect my own request for guidance around current issues in our culture or the present energy of the time. They are written without editing or pre thinking. I simply sit at the keyboard and listen for what comes. It is written as I receive it. I appreciate the opportunity to learn and teach, learn and share, learn and trust, learn and let go. And so it is, I share with you freely and joyfully.
May whatever is of benefit be used for good. May whatever has no value be released easily and quickly.” Betty Lue
Let Go and Let God
Let Go and Let Good
Let others live and learn from their own experiences.
Allow others the right to explore and experiment to find their own way.
Stop correcting and resisting anyone’s choices.
Focus on where you are going and your own life lessons.
There is value in caring and sharing your own learning, if you are asked.
There is value in stopping others from doing what is potentially harmful to themselves or to others.
There is value in giving opinions, advice, resources and discussion, when the other is open.
There is value in minding your own business, when you are interfering and dumping your own fear.
When we are requested to guide others, we need not spend time going over the pain of the past.
We need not criticize or emphasize the mistakes and wrongs done.
We need not take credit for our wisdom or helpfulness.
We need not follow-up to see whether we were “right”.
Guiding others to think for themselves is key.
Facilitating others in learning to trust their intuition and inner listening is important.
Encouraging others to forgive and forget the past and appreciate the present is valuable.
Coaching others to set their own goals consciously and make decisions wisely is helpful.
Helpful Questions: (to be asked when others come asking guidance from you.)
What do you really want?
What is the outcome you seek?
How can you most easily achieve your goals?
What does your heart tell you to do?
What seems to interfering or blocking the way?
How can you clear the blocks to experiencing what you want?
Can you respond to this situation in a better or more effective way?
People all have some area in their life where they are successful.
When they take their skills and apply them to the relationships or situations that are challenging, it works.
Assisting others in being successful benefits everyone.
Interfering with your own emotions, judgments and fears distracts, distorts and delays positive learning.
Trust in the good in yourself and others.
Relinquish your own limited thinking.
Set aside your assumptions and prejudices.
Step away from people and situations that are destructive or hurt you.
Love yourself well, so you can love others well as well!
Betty Lue
Ten Commandments of Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
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There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.
As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.
Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.
Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,
Betty Lue