The world is calling for us to Love All the Children Now!
See Prayer for a Loved One and How Children Learn below)
How To Love Children (And everyone you love!)
How do we best love and support our children?
Love is freedom and trust.
Fear is limitation and doubt.
When parents “fear” for their children, they are neglecting the opportunity to truly LOVE.
Love is freedom, the freedom to express and experience all of life.
Love is the trust that each one has their own unique life path, guided by God.
Love is the courage to set limits only as needed so we won’t hurt anyone.
Love is the wisdom to let go and allow the natural inner guidance and our conscience lead us.
Love is the willingness to forgive ourselves for fear and bless our children with Love as they grow.
We learn how to parent from our parents, until we forgive them and ourselves.
We either follow their model or we choose the opposite, never free to listen to what is ours to do.
As we become adulterated by media, books we read and others’ admonitions, we forget to listen to our heart.
Parents think they know what is best for their children, when they rarely know what is best for themselves.
When I counsel and coach young people, I often find those who know themselves and their families the best with most pure insight and wisdom are the children and the adolescents. When given a safe and non-judgmental opportunity to share what they see and feel and know, they are wise and honest. Children want to be truly helpful. Adults often lack respect for their children’s ideas and neglect to confer with them about what they want and how they feel and what they see as solutions for family problems. When asked in a safe environment, they know the kind of parenting they want and need. (They don’t want to offend their parents.)
How do parents best guide them?
Give them space to listen to their own conscience and inner guidance.
Give them room to explore and learn by experience.
Listen to their concerns, their joys and their achievements without judgment or advice.
Trust in their innocent and simple wisdom rather than confuse with worldly concerns and complexities.
How do we show them we care?
Give up using guilt and blame.
Be willing to be “wrong” and apologize.
Listen without distraction when they want to share.
Teach them by your happy and peaceful example.
Stop meddling in their business.
Treat them as you want to be treated.
Let them teach you and enjoy what you are learning.
Showing we care is celebrating, appreciating, enjoying, affirming and trusting others to live their own lives.
Guiding others is best done by our example in guiding our own lives with no secrecy and enjoying it all.
Telling and questioning often interfere with true equal communication with our children.
Listening and allowing gives a message of “We trust you and believe in you.”
There is no more important message than “I love you. I trust you. I believe in you.”
This message is relayed best in your actions, far more than your words.
I love you in learning to Love.
I trust you in finding your way.
I believe in you and your ability to live your life the highest and best way you know.
Betty Lue
If Children Live With……….
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,
They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves,
feel shy and feel envy.
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If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.
“Prayer For A Loved One”
Dear Heart,
I will not worry, fret or be unhappy over you.
I will not be anxious concerning you.
I will not be afraid for you.
I will not give up on you.
I will not blame, criticize or condemn you.
I will remember first, last and always that you are God’s child, that you have His Spirit in you.
I will trust this Spirit to take care of you, to be a light to your path, to provide for your needs.
I will think of you as always being surrounded by God’s loving Presence, enfolded in His protecting care, as kept safe and secure in Him.
I will be patient with you.
I will have confidence in you.
I will stand by you in faith, and bless you in my prayers, knowing that you are growing, knowing that you are finding the help you need, the love you need, the healing you need, the financial freedom you need.
I have only good feelings in my heart about you.
I am willing to let you live your life as you see fit.
Your way may not be my way, but I will trust the Spirit of God in you to show you the way of your highest Good.
God loves you and I love you!
I have confidence in you and I believe in you!!
(author unknown)