Friday, June 18, 2004

Helping Others Succeed

They should know what I want.
They should know how to make me happy.
They should know what I like.
They should know how to be loving and kind.

When people succeed at meeting our needs and satisfying our wants, they are more likely to try again.
When students know how to pass the tests, they are more likely to study and do well again.
When spouses know exactly what we want for dinner and can prepare it, they are encouraged to do more.
When our children accomplish the chores we ask and receive our appreciation, they want to do more.

Likewise, when people fail at meeting the requirements, they are less likely to try again.
When students fail their exams, they are less likely to enjoy studying to pass.
When spouses try and fail to please us, they are more likely to stop trying.
When children are criticized for what they do, they are less likely to do more chores without pressure.

Our work is to give people as much responsibility as they can successfully handle.
We need to ascertain how much each individual can do and they make sure they experience a success.
We need to treat people as they want to be treated to succeed.
Often men need very specific directions for activities that women take for granted.
Often our partners need to know exactly what we want for our birthday and the store in which to shop.
Often children need us to be clear and specific, even writing out our rules and agreements until we are clear they understand and can succeed.

When we ask someone to do something for us and they fail, it is our responsibility.
Forgive and choose again. Forgive and look within. Forgive and ask them how to help them succeed. Forgive and seek spiritual direction. Forgive and remember how you prefer to be treated when you fail.
We must ensure success with out employees, our children and our partners by offering the best we know.

It may be difficult to know what to do in a world which is failing.

Success breeds success.
Betty Lue