Relationships are for healing ourselves.
We are all learning how to love.
MAKE NO ASSUMPTIONS.
TAKE NOTHING PERSONALLY.
Affirmations:
I choose to never quit on love.
I learn from every relationship.
I let go of judgments that block my compassion and peace.
Forgiveness is the key to happiness and seeing things differently.
Understanding Relationships
We are all here to learn from our relationships.
There are as many beliefs about relationships, as there are relationships.
Our learning is really always about what works for us and those we relate to.
Learning the language, attitudes and attachments is key to discerning what works.
We all have purpose and intention to our relationships, even if seemingly unconscious.
We each want something different to be experienced.
Most learn accidentally by what hurts and what feels good.
We usually develop our beliefs about right and wrong from the experiences we have.
Most relationship interactions are habitual or based on past learning.
When we experience what is extraordinary or unusual, it is because it is unfamiliar.
If we all knew what feels good is right, we would agree on a universal paradigm.
If we all believed our relationship goal is to feel good and make others feel good, we would be content.
When we do not come from similar functional or dysfunctional family systems, we disagree.
With disagreement about what is right, there is arguing and trying to change one another.
Often people base lifetime relationships on making each wrong and trying to fix the other.
Arguing and criticism is to often build a case for our own position.
All criticism is really about the critic.
What people say when they accuse and blame is really about themselves.
Within all blame are the beliefs, thoughts and feelings the critic has about themselves.
Take a deeper look and you will see the projection of your own feelings onto the other.
We can only see what comes from our own experience.
We learn from all relationships by what we react to and what upsets us.
Our touchy spots and upsets come from our own life experience and what we “make up” is right.
We can identify our attachments, fears and judgments by what hurts or upsets us.
In most cases, we are upset by leftover wounds from our early childhood.
We all learned from our experiences what would work and was “right” and what was “wrong”.
In some cases, we are upset by the values we learned being neglected or punished.
At other times, we are hurt because we feel dismissed, ignored, lied to or betrayed.
When we are hurt or upset by anyone, it means we have some self-healing to do.
With all relationships we are meant to learn, help and heal ourselves.
Our responsibility is to become aware of how to find happiness and inner peace.
We are here to take impeccable care of our selves and what we value.
Relationships show us what we need to learn and heal.
Relationships show us where we need to become more aware.
Relationships demonstrate what we need to forgive within ourselves.
Relationships are a barometer of our willingness to forgive and respect others.
I honor all relationships for they show me how to Love.
Loving You,
Betty Lue
ANYWAY
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, People may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends
and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, there may be jealousy;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Mother Theresa
Adapted from Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith