BE RESPECTFUL.
BE KIND.
BE HELPFUL.
Affirmations:
I teach by example.
Others learn from what I do.
I choose to give my best and forgive the rest.
I live my life with respect and take responsibility for my words and actions.
Are You Emotionally Mature?
Do you act responsibly?
Do you take care of your home and bills?
Do you care for your body and health?
Do you treat your loved ones with respect?
Using inappropriate language is not mature.
Taking advantage of others is not mature.
Blaming, shaming and denigrating others is not mature.
Doing harm to yourself and others is not mature.
Neglecting to apologize for mistakes is not mature.
Forgetting please and thank you is not mature.
Fighting and arguing to win is not mature.
Taking advantage of others is not mature.
Lying, cheating and stealing is not mature.
Neglecting your home, your health, your responsibilities is immature.
Whining, demanding and threatening is immature.
Talking to others like a willful child is not mature.
So what is mature?
Do you want to be responsible?
Do you trust, love and respect yourself?
Do you live, love and give freedom and trust?
Are you able to manage your bills effectively?
Do you clean and maintain your home with appreciation?
Do you take time to actively appreciate your loved ones?
Do you manage your emotions privately without dumping on others?
Do you still depend on your parents or friends for advice?
Do you still seek others approval and agreement?
Are you confident about how you look and behave?
Are you content with your relationships and lifestyle?
Immature people are often lazy and irresponsible.
Immature people assume others will take care of them.
Immature people may want to stay dependent on others.
Immature people may ignore their moral and ethical code.
If you are willing, it is time to grow up.
If you are supporting an immature person, it is time for a wakeup call.
People tend to stay dependent and immature because they are comfortable.
Codependent people may keep others dependent to get someone to need them.
Consider setting yourself free from all dependency, except on the Highest Good.
Loving us all, as we mature in wisdom, caring and responsibility.
Betty Lue
Whatever you need to learn, ask for guidance from the best teacher.
Whoever you admire, learn from their successes and failures.
Whenever you behave immaturely, apologize and learn to be better.
Everyone is here to learn!
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10 Signs of Emotional Maturity
1. Being Flexible- It’s all too easy to assume things will go according to plan, or that a situation or event will go smoothly because it has each time in the past. When it doesn’t (and that is often a “when” than an “if”), an emotionally mature person is able to think things out and come up with a viable Plan B or even C as needed so that a situation can be dealt with, and still move forward not letting the bump in the road ruin the entire plan.
2. Taking Ownership & Responsibility- An emotionally mature person is able to own up to their own mistakes and not immediately look to blame others. This takes a level of self-honesty and acceptance. If things keep on going wrong, an emotionally mature person will look inwards for answers as to what thoughts or actions may be contributing to the situation and works towards a better understanding and course of action moving forward.
3. Knowing That They Don’t Know Everything- An emotionally mature person knows what they don’t know, and also knows that their own way of doing things may not be the only way or even the best way. They don’t argue “just to be right” or to show dominance to be in charge. They keep an open mind and have open ears and eyes to look for situations where they may be able to learn something, as well as know when they may have something positive to contribute to a situation that can help others.
4. They Look for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity- An emotionally mature person is on the lookout for what can be learned from any situation or opportunity, and searches for the growth opportunity within it, asking “How can I learn and grow from this?”
5. They Actively Seek Out Multiple Points of View To Help Inform Their Own- Emotionally mature people actively seek to inform their own opinions by actively seeking out the points of view of others. They don’t feel threatened by disagreement, but look to be informed by people, and aren’t afraid to question both their own convictions, knowing that they don’t exist in a vacuum. It’s not about an argument to prove who is right; it’s about wanting to be informed by different points of view to further clarify their own points of view or recognizing that perhaps their point of view may even be wrong.
6. They Stay Resilient- In the face of upset, setbacks, or disappointments, an emotionally mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done, and then decide what steps to take to move on.
7. They Have a Calm Disposition- Emotionally mature people do get mad but do not let the emotion dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively deal a situation and also see all of the available options to come to a successful resolution. They know that when emotions override rationality, clearness of thought gets blurred and can limit the options for dealing effectively.
8. They Believe in Themselves- Emotionally mature people don’t have a false sense of self that is ego-based and deluded. But they do have optimism in their own ability to use effort and patience as a way to establish the belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life may through their way.
9. Approachability- Emotionally mature people are able to and prefer to talk WITH people, not AT them. They have genuine empathy for others, an open mind, and work towards not being judgmental of others, knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can impede their ability to know someone and their truth.
10. A Good Sense of Humor– Emotionally mature people realize that all of life can’t be taken seriously. They do realize the importance of getting done what needs to get done, but they realize the importance of having fun and laughter in life as a great coping mechanism and pressure release from stress.