Affirmations:
I trust myself to listen with an open-mind.
I take nothing personally and allow myself to learn.
I freely express the truths I know only when invited.
I know I see only a small piece of every picture through my own filters.
Can You Handle the Truth?
When we get defensive, a button of truth was pushed.
When we react with anger, a piece of truth was exposed.
When we are hurt by another’s words, a past wound was touched.
When we are offended by someone, we forgot to respond with love.
The truth sometimes hurts, but then it sets us free.
When we don’t want to hear what others see of feel, perhaps we believe there is something real.
Always look inside to see if you can learn anything about them or about you.
When we are hiding or deceiving ourselves, we do not like to be exposed.
When we have no secrets, we are not afraid.
When we are at peace with ourselves, others' judgments are not upsetting.
When we are in love, we respond to others with Love and understanding.
When we are happy with ourselves, we easily say ‘Thank You for sharing.”
When we have opposing opinions, we can ask ourselves if it helps to object.
When we believe our own truths, we can easily agree to disagree.
When we know what is right for us, we can allow others to be right for them.
When we trust differences are healthy, we can let go of a need for conflict.
Truth is in the eye and mind and heart of the beholder.
Everyone sees what they want to see.
Each person perceives through their own filters.
What others think of us is really none of our business.
If we are real with ourselves, we invite others to be real as well.
If we are honest with ourselves, we welcome others to be honest with themselves.
The truths we hear reflect the beliefs, perceptions, opinions and misperceptions of the speaker.
When we hear their ideas without judgments, we help the healing and self revelation process.
Resisting others’ truths simply creates more resistance.
Resenting others' truths, hurts the one who is resentful.
Fearing others' truths shows there is hiding and secrecy.
Judging others' judgments simply creates judging in us.
It is safe, fun and easy to listen without fear, guilt, anger or blame.
Listening with awareness and peace is healing to all parties.
Listening with gratitude for the full expression of others is a sign of trust.
Listening with love and kindness gives us a greater capacity for compassion and caring.
It is truly helpful for us take nothing personally.
It is truly helpful to allow others to speak their minds.
It is truly helpful to express kindness for others' hurtful thoughts.
It is truly helpful to hear the diverse and divergent truths with no judgment at all.
Loving us all for learning to be open, willing to listen and appreciative.
Betty Lue
Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
Life requires that we be in relationship with ourselves and others.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.