Affirmations:
When in doubt, I stop and listen within.
When upset, I step away and return to my Center.
When I choose Love, I trust in the journey and allow the process.
When I teach, I learn as I go and practice, practice, practice.
Stop
Feeding the Problem
Don’t give an addict
more of the same.
Don’t give the
alcoholic a bottle.
Don’t give the spender
more money.
Don’t give a
workaholic more work to do.
Don’t give a worrier
something more to worry about.
Don’t give a
hypochondriac a new illness.
Don’t feed a
diabetic more sugar.
Don’t give an obese
person a 3000 calorie meal.
Don’t give a violent
person a weapon.
Don’t give a crazy
person more fear.
Don’t give an angry
person more anger.
Don’t add fuel to
the fire.
Don’t
encourage or support the behavior that is clearly a problem.
In our desire to
make the problem go away, many will give in to make the problem go away.
Hurting ourselves
does not stop just because we medicate the hurting.
Soothing is a
temporary or momentary fix to what is the real problem.
Co-dependents
are defined many ways.
I would say we
soothe one another’s addictions.
We collude in the
errant or sick behavior.
We pretend like if
we stop the pain right now, wisdom will come.
If
I cannot handle another’s unhappiness, I will try to make them happy.
If I cannot stand
pain, I may take away others’ self–inflicted pain.
When I cannot stand
guilt, I may create multiple ways to blame.
When I take the
blame for others’ pain, I may unconsciously take responsibility for taking away
the pain.
My choice for healing with full
respect for the differences:
Observe
and expose the problem.
Forgive
my judgments.
Stop
trying to fix others.
Teach
others.
Stop
making anyone wrong.
Forgive
attachments and dependencies.
Stop
covering my errors.
Clean
up myself as I go.
Stop
adding to problems, by adding complication.
Keep
love simple.
Stop
judging and worrying.
Learn
to trust and set others free.
Stop
being codependent.
Give
others full responsibility.
Stop
supporting and reinforcing the difficulties.
Focus on strengths
and encourage responsible behavior.
Stop
focusing on the problem.
Start
focusing on the solution.
I
must listen within to know what to do and not to do.
I must respect and
honor each individual’s path.
I must be aware of
when I am handling another’s pain, because of my own issues.
I must trust that we
are all doing the work together because we all have the same work.
Loving
myself as I do the best I know with each one all the time.
Love your intention
and do not depend on controlling the outcome.
Betty Lue