Monday, December 31, 2018

2018 Complete

I value all I have learned and will continue to learn.
I forgive any mistakes and learn from everything.
I trust in the highest outcome for my choices.
I appreciate my learning and bless each day with gratitude and joy

Honorable Closure for 2018

It is appropriate to end with honor.
It is healthy to finish with gratitude.
It is good to learn from challenges.
It is valuable to celebrate accomplishments.

Life is a cycle of choices changes and commitments.
When we are engaged with our lives, we fully appreciate it all.
When we are judging or neglecting life, we may dismiss or deny.
Taking the time to truly see and receive our lives, enriches us.

Consider what you have learned from this year.
Write down your top five areas of learning and growth.
Realize all you have learned and how you have grown.
Be willing to fully receive the benefit.

Consider the challenges of this year.
Where do you have more to do?
What have been your regrets?
Where is there still work to be done?

Consider the blessings and gifts of the year.
Where have the challenges become blessings?
What do you consider to be the best of 2018?
Where are you truly happy with what you have received?

Consider what you would like to remember and appreciate.
When you can fully experience gratitude for your life, you are prosperous.
When you totally value what you have created, you will be joyful.
When you appreciate the good, the good will naturally increase.

Love is Letting go of fear.
Love is letting go of judgment.
Love is letting go of regret.
Love is letting go of resentment.

Consider writing down leftover fears and judgments, regrets and resentments.
Offload what you no longer want to carry in your heart or your mind.
Release and relinquish all forms of negativity and attack.
With your blessings, dig a whole and burn it, releasing what no longer has value.
(Or tear up the paper and throw it in the garbage.)

Only you can know what remains valuable.
Choose to remember what is substantial and beneficial.
Choose to release and undo what is unnecessary and hurtful.
You can build a beautiful 2019 on the very best learning, blessings and appreciation.

Loving you now and always,
Betty Lue
HONORABLE CLOSURE  (A Healthy Way to Complete 2018)     
How do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
People may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier emotionally.  
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be with You”. 

When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.

Honorable closure acknowledges:
1)   the learning and growth received,
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced,
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4)   forgiveness and amends made.

**Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
**Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
**And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.  

Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.   If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude. 
I am grateful I have learned… 
I am grateful I was challenged……
I am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..

Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  
Begin now!
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace. 
Do it Now!

Betty Lue  1983