Monday, October 16, 2017

Just Say “NO”!

I say “No” quickly and easily to all that is hurtful.
I stop all practices that are hurtful to anyone.
I trust myself to protect myself from all harm.
The more I care for myself with respect, the more I care for others respectfully.

Say “NO”!

Are you willing to say “No”?
Do you protect yourself?
Do you speak up for you?
Do you allow yourself to be victimized, bullied and intimidated?

It is time to say “No”
It is time to stop all violent words and behaviors.
It is your responsibility to never allow yourself to be hurt.
It is wrong to let yourself be threatened or abused.

Just say “NO”!
Learn to say “No” to the ways you abuse yourself.
Listen to your words and your thoughts.
Never allow your choices to be hurtful to you.

We must learn to depend on our own courage and wisdom.
We must stop making excuses or justifications.
We must undo the passivity that allows harm.
We must give up our “nice” ways of coping.

We need not abuse another to stop abuse.
We need to learn how to say “no” before anyone gets hurt.
We need to realize it is harmful to allow harm.
We can be the change we want to see.

Stop yourself and others from using abusive language.
Stop yourself from watching violence and abuse.
Stop making excuses for children doing harm.
Stop allowing those around you to do harm to themselves.

There is fear because we allow war, threat, attack and abuse.
Humanity is using threat and attack to stop threat and attack.
When we encourage what we don’t want, we increase what we don’t want.
Our strategy is to increase rather than to stop what we don’t want.

It is essential that we find a better way in our own personal lives.
It is key to eradicate harm by stepping away and saying “NO”!
In our homes we must learn to stop hurting one another with words.
In our work place we must not allow abusive practices.

Individually we can make the change we want to see.
We must end discrimination.
We must not allow excuses.
We must change the culture.

This is our time to end what is hurtful or harmful to anyone or anything.
End what is wrong today.
Say “NO”. 
Trusting you.
Betty Lue

5 Signs of Emotional Abuse or Unhealthy Relationships

1.    They are Hyper-Critical or Judgmental Towards You
It is human nature to critique or judge, but in emotionally abusive situations, someone takes it to the next level. This can look like someone is:
    Putting you down in front of others
    Humiliating or embarrassing you
    Using sarcasm or “teasing” or “jokes” to make you feel badly about yourself
    Having an opinion about a lot of what you say, do, or think
    Upset if/when you don’t agree (e.g., how you dress, how you spend your money, who you spend time with, what you are interested in)

2.    They Ignore Boundaries or Invade Your Privacy
We all have the right to our own space. Sometimes it can be tricky to distinguish between the rush and thrill of any new relationship or connection and a violation of     your space because you may feel that you want to spend all of your time with this awesome person. This can look like your partner:
    Wants to move a relationship faster than you are comfortable with either emotionally or physically (e.g. saying “I love you” very quickly and pressuring you to do the same, pushing you to engage in sexual activities, pushing you to move in together)
    Checks your texts messages, email or social media accounts without your permission

3.    They are Possessive and/or Controlling
The abuser may try to restrict your behavior through unreasonable jealousy such as:
    Monitoring your actions
    Constantly calling or texting when you are not around
    Getting upset when you want to spend time by yourself or with family or friends alone
    Isolating you from other people in your life and/or activities you enjoy or work
    Demanding access to your phone, email, or social media accounts

4.    They are Manipulative
An emotionally abusive person may try many things to get you to do what they want or feel badly, such as:
    Withdrawing affection when you’ve done something “wrong”
    Ignoring or excluding you
    Guilt trips
    Making you doubt yourself
    Denying something you know is true

5.    They Often Dismiss You and Your Feelings
The abuser might try to play down your emotions or feelings by:
    Saying you are too sensitive or calling you crazy
    Making fun of your achievements or hopes and dreams
     Refusing to talk about or take responsibility for their actions
     Blaming you or someone else for their actions (it’s never their fault)
     Being indifferent to your feelings