Tuesday, June 06, 2017

Telling Your Truth

I tell the highest truth I know.
I create a safe place for everyone to share what they believe is true.
I trust when everyone is free to see what is true, we all have more insight and wisdom.
Telling the truth sets us free to see things differently.

Telling Your Truth!

What is the “truth”?
Do you like to hear the truth?
Why does it feel like everyone has a different “truth”?
Do you ask others for their opinions, judgment, beliefs?

Sometimes when people tell the truth, they just dump whatever they think.
Sometimes people want to hurt or blame with their “truth”.
Some people think they know something we don’t know.

What is your truth?
You see from your perspective.
You see through your filters of belief, attitude and judgment.
You will probably believe that your truth is the only and real truth.

What you child says will be true from his perspective.
What your friend says will be through his filter of what is evident to him.
Your partner, therapist, teacher and coaches truth will come from what they see obvious and important.
So what is your truth?

The truth we tell usually has an intention.
What we say often is filtered by what will get agreement.
What we want the other to hear is usually our choice of emphasis.
What courts, judges and the law believe as “truth” is often what is considered as “facts’.

The reason for a judge, negotiator or mediator is because of the inconsistencies in “facts”.
We often have different pictures being presented depending on the desired outcome.
If we want to win, we blame the other and show our best.
If we want a positive perspective, we tell what is good and beneficial.
If we want to deny or negate, we present what will yield the desired result.

Consider what facts or truth different media outlet shares.
How different they are depending on supporting or undermining.

Consider the facts or truth different siblings share in an disagreement.
They each share what will get the most positive attention from the listening parent.

Consider what each marital partner shares as their truth.
They want to get their point across for agreement from the other in an argument.

Consider your own prejudice in what you believe is fair and just for you.
We all have an underlying prejudice or belief in the “right” outcome.

It is important to be honest with ourselves about what is the “truth” we actually want to be “true”. 
Appreciating our values may differ, and we each have the right to choose what we believe to be our truth.
Betty Lue