Affirmations:
I
respond with patience and peace to pain.
I
take care of my own needs first to be able to respond to others.
I
am aware my relationships show me my own needs for love.
I
listen, learn, let go and love easily.
All
Relationships Matter
Relationships
are for healing.
Relationships reveal
our needs.
Relationships show
us where we are stuck.
Relationships invite
us to forgive and love again.
When
we are not happy with ourselves, it shows in our relationships.
When we are off
purpose in our lives, we project it onto those around us.
When we neglect our
own self care, we do not have good energy to share.
When we feel guilty,
upset, angry, hurt or fearful, we must care for ourselves first.
Relationships
are a mirror for our own mistakes.
We project onto
others what is in need within ourselves.
When we give
impeccable care to ourselves, we can give our best to others.
When we truly love,
trust and respect ourselves, we easily love, trust and respect others.
When
we put others first, we expct others to put us first.
When we give love to
get love, we expect others to repay us.
When we bargain for
what we want, we believe others will do the same with us.
The real work is to
count on ourselves to fulfill our own needs and depend on our inner resources.
Relationships
vary depending on where others are in the moment.
When others are
upset, they need time and space to restore their own energy.
Whether child
or adult, emotional reactions are an indication of their need for love.
When anyone is
lacking inner peace and self love, their reaction is calling for compassion.
Do
not take emotional reactions personally.
Do not allow others
to harm you.
Do not make
assumptions that it is about you.
Learn to stay calm,
rational and ask or observe.
Be
patient and peaceful.
Be aware and
allowing.
Be helpful and
healing.
Be loving and let
go.
Emotional
reactions come from the need to heal.
Upsets are a wake up
call to respond with love.
Blaming and shaming
are a result of helplessness.
Stay quiet and calm
until you know how to respond effectively.
Sometimes
we must stay away until the emotional storm has passed.
Sometimes we ask how
to be helpful.
Sometimes we listen
with respect.
Sometimes we
suggest, distract or move on.
Everyone
wants to love and be loved.
Everyone wants to be
welcomed and valued.
Everyone wants to be
heard and respected.
Everyone simply
wants to be secure and OK.
When
I am OK, I can respond with “You are OK”.
Be present, patient
and peaceful to show your love.
Loving you,
Betty
Lue
Recommendations for All
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationship.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.