Sunday, February 19, 2017


I respond with patience and peace to pain.
I take care of my own needs first to be able to respond to others.
I am aware my relationships show me my own needs for love.
I listen, learn, let go and love easily.

All Relationships Matter

Relationships are for healing.
Relationships reveal our needs.
Relationships show us where we are stuck.
Relationships invite us to forgive and love again.

When we are not happy with ourselves, it shows in our relationships.
When we are off purpose in our lives, we project it onto those around us.
When we neglect our own self care, we do not have good energy to share.
When we feel guilty, upset, angry, hurt or fearful, we must care for ourselves first.

Relationships are a mirror for our own mistakes.
We project onto others what is in need within ourselves.
When we give impeccable care to ourselves, we can give our best to others.
When we truly love, trust and respect ourselves, we easily love, trust and respect others.

When we put others first, we expct others to put us first.
When we give love to get love, we expect others to repay us.
When we bargain for what we want, we believe others will do the same with us.
The real work is to count on ourselves to fulfill our own needs and depend on our inner resources.

Relationships vary depending on where others are in the moment.
When others are upset, they need time and space to restore their own energy.
Whether  child or adult, emotional reactions are an indication of their need for love.
When anyone is lacking inner peace and self love, their reaction is calling for compassion.

Do not take emotional reactions personally.
Do not allow others to harm you.
Do not make assumptions that it is about you.
Learn to stay calm, rational and ask or observe.

Be patient and peaceful.
Be aware and allowing.
Be helpful and healing.
Be loving and let go.

Emotional reactions come from the need to heal.
Upsets are a wake up call to respond with love.
Blaming and shaming are a result of helplessness.
Stay quiet and calm until you know how to respond effectively.

Sometimes we must stay away until the emotional storm has passed.
Sometimes we ask how to be helpful.
Sometimes we listen with respect.
Sometimes we suggest, distract or move on.

Everyone wants to love and be loved.
Everyone wants to be welcomed and valued.

Everyone wants to be heard and respected.
Everyone simply wants to be secure and OK.

When I am OK, I can respond with “You are OK”.
Be present, patient and peaceful to show your love.
Loving you, 
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.