Affirmations:
I love the ways I love one and all.
I release my need to criticize, change or correct anyone,
including myself.
I forgive those who do not know how best to love.
I am awake and aware to how love works for those I love.
How Did Your Parents Show You Love?
How you receive Love is how you learned to receive Love.
If you
never felt Loved, it will be difficult to let love in.
If you
received love thru criticism and discipline, you may attract criticism.
Our
tendency is to believe in the ways we were loved, taught and appreciated.
It helps to be aware of your early experiences to better
understand what we currently experience.
Our
awareness allows us to better change what is not longer good for us.
What we are
fully aware of without judgment, we can choose to change.
What we
judge as good or bad, we tend to get stuck with believing and seeking.
We learn to love, teach, criticize and appreciate others
the ways we were parented.
When we
realize our parents also follow what their parents did for them, we can
forgive.
When we
understand we are the generation who can affect positive change, we choose
again.
When
willing to relinquish our habitual behavior and past programming, we can change
our future.
Our most early experiences program us to feel and relate
with others in familiar ways.
We expect
what we are accustomed to.
Even with
what seems limiting or negative, our expectation becomes what we do or attract
others to do.
We may try
to create something different but unconsciously attract the same.
Parents what to give their best and improve on their
parents.
However,
when tired, hungry, impatient or negative, we often fall into old familiar
patterns.
To change
what was growing up requires staying awake and aware.
To give our
children and partners our best calls us to use our conscious to heal the past.
You may have noticed that you tend to dump your worst
stuff on your family.
You may
have realized that you are talking and behaving like one or both parents.
You may
have recognized the more you try to be different, the more you find repeating
behavior.
It is
essential to forgive, delete, undo and change your bad habits and unconscious
reactions.
We are right now in Portland with our youngest Grandson
Guy ( 4 yrs old).
I am always
observing what parents seems to need and how they raise their kids.
I see the
ways we program kids and how they talk and behave by how we treat and speak to
them.
Without
neutral observation, we may not even notice the script we write and perpetuate
within families.
Ask yourself what you believe the job of parenting really
is.
Notice what
you want as a child and now as an adult from people who “love” you.
Pay
attention to what you would change or delete from your childhood.
Choose to
delete these experiences from what you give to those in your family now.
Yes, more conscious and respectful interaction is
beneficial to all.
Yes, remove
yourself from upsetting or negative experiences until you are calm and clear.
Yes, give
yourself the opportunity to forgive yourself for limiting or hurting those you
love.
Yes, love
yourself by affirming, giving, supporting and encouraging you always to
believe in you.
You can change your loving relationships with yourself
and others every day in every way.
Betty Lue