Affirmations:
I take full responsibility for my life with no blame or guilt.
I acknowledge my mistakes and change what I can change.
I treat others in a respectful and responsible way.
I demonstrate by the quality of my life how to be an adult.
See Below some
helpful aids!
Be
A Mature Adult!
If
you are not responsible for your own words and behavior, you are immature.
To grow up really
means to take full responsibility for your actions and behavior.
To behave in a
mature manner is to speak and act in ways that do no harm to yourself or
others.
When we are aware
and self disciplined, we do not behave in ways that hurt others.
We
seem to be living in an age of immaturity, where people do whatever they want.
This sounds selfish
and unaware of the consequences of our actions.
When we behave like
a child, we need to be treated like a child with discipline and time outs.
When we behave like
an adult, we are able to have the freedoms of being fully responsible.
What will it take to raise a generation of adults who can take care of
themselves and their families?
First
we all need to take full responsibility for our lives.
We need to handle
ourselves, our relationships and finances in a respectful and responsible way.
We need to speak and
behave in ways that are sensitive and respectful of others.
We need to learn how
to do what we do not do well for ourselves.
We need to teach the
next generations to grow up and be responsible for themselves.
We need to
demonstrate how to manage our affairs, including our health, living situation
and workplace.
We need to remember
the ethics, morals, values and etiquette of our culture.
We need to manage
our lives in an exemplary way.
We need to learn
from and with others who are learning.
We need to remember
everyone is different in what they know and how they were raised.
Bottom
line, we need to treat others as we seek to be treated by others.
This must include
elders and children, educated and ignorant, healthy and ill.
All people must be
treated with respect and taught with respect.
Learning to be
responsible requires quality role models, encouragement and wisdom.
Always
begin with yourself.
We can make no
correction of others when we are functioning in an immature manner.
We must stop yelling
and using foul language.
We must stop
drunken, stupid behavior and behave like an adult.
We must apologize
for all disrespectful behavior immediately.
We must change our
ways, before expecting another to change.
We must talk like an
adult to receive an adult response.
We must trust others
to learn at their own level of development or awareness.
We must use language
that is adult and respectful to be heard.
We must encourage
rather than punish.
We must show
appreciation for every improvement.
We must give
ourselves rewards, praise and encouragement for our own changes.
Life for adults
is fun, safe and easy when we live at our best in all circumstances.
We can be the change
we want to see.
We can learn to
discipline ourselves.
We can unlearn
negative and limiting habits.
When
we are the adult, we can choose to show by example how to learn, live and love
well.
Loving us all as we
remind one another,
Betty Lue
Responsibilities
for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child (see below)
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?
Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive
everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be
courteous and helpful.
Give
your best, no matter what others do.
Make
no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep
your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take
turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be
fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate
all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.
Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop
judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop
negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive
and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.
Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use “please”
and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk
in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop
demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t
pretend you know, when you don’t know.
Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate
addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean
up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow
through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean
your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat
the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop
excessive spending and Save your money.
Be
respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No
drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No
swearing or name-calling.
Never
abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop
expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live
with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean home.