Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Mature Behavior

I take full responsibility for my life with no blame or guilt.
I acknowledge my mistakes and change what I can change.
I treat others in a respectful and responsible way.
I demonstrate by the quality of my life how to be an adult.

See Below some helpful aids!

Be A Mature Adult!

If you are not responsible for your own words and behavior, you are immature.
To grow up really means to take full responsibility for your actions and behavior.
To behave in a mature manner is to speak and act in ways that do no harm to yourself or others.
When we are aware and self disciplined, we do not behave in ways that hurt others.

We seem to be living in an age of immaturity, where people do whatever they want.
This sounds selfish and unaware of the consequences of our actions.
When we behave like a child, we need to be treated like a child with discipline and time outs.
When we behave like an adult, we are able to have the freedoms of being fully responsible.

What will it take to raise a generation of adults who can take care of themselves and their families?

First we all need to take full responsibility for our lives.
We need to handle ourselves, our relationships and finances in a respectful and responsible way.
We need to speak and behave in ways that are sensitive and respectful of others.
We need to learn how to do what we do not do well for ourselves.
We need to teach the next generations to grow up and be responsible for themselves.
We need to demonstrate how to manage our affairs, including our health, living situation and workplace.
We need to remember the ethics, morals, values and etiquette of our culture.
We need to manage our lives in an exemplary way.
We need to learn from and with others who are learning.
We need to remember everyone is different in what they know and how they were raised.

Bottom line, we need to treat others as we seek to be treated by others.
This must include elders and children, educated and ignorant, healthy and ill.
All people must be treated with respect and taught with respect.
Learning to be responsible requires quality role models, encouragement and wisdom.

Always begin with yourself.
We can make no correction of others when we are functioning in an immature manner.
We must stop yelling and using foul language.
We must stop drunken, stupid behavior and behave like an adult.
We must apologize for all disrespectful behavior immediately.
We must change our ways, before expecting another to change.
We must talk like an adult to receive an adult response.
We must trust others to learn at their own level of development or awareness.
We must use language that is adult and respectful to be heard.
We must encourage rather than punish.
We must show appreciation for every improvement.
We must give ourselves rewards, praise and encouragement for our own changes.

Life for adults is fun, safe and easy when we live at our best in all circumstances.
We can be the change we want to see.
We can learn to discipline ourselves.
We can unlearn negative and limiting habits.

When we are the adult, we can choose to show by example how to learn, live and love well.
Loving us all as we remind one another, 
Betty Lue

Responsibilities for Adults (From Betty Lue)
Suggestion: Always begin with Being as Responsible as a Child (see below)
Do you know how to think, speak and behave consciously?
Do you know how to treat others with respect and kindness?
Are you willing to learn to be responsible in all relationships?
Do you know the difference between right and wrong?

Treat others as you want to be treated.
Forgive everyone and everything, for all time, including yourself.
Be courteous and helpful.
Give your best, no matter what others do.
Make no assumptions, and recognize you do not know.
Keep your agreements and your promise to yourself and others.
Take turns in your interactions and following procedures.
Be fair in your decisions and choose what is good for all concerned.
Eliminate all cruelty or destructive thoughts, words or behaviors.

Think of others as you want to be thought of.
Stop judging, complaining and gossiping.
Stop negatively thinking about yourself and others.
Forgive and erase all thoughts and behaviors that are hurtful.

Speak to others as you want to be spoken to.
Use “please” and “thank you”, even with children.
Talk in a pleasant tone of voice to everyone.
Stop demanding and expecting: respectfully request.
Don’t pretend you know, when you don’t know.

Responsible Behaviors
Eradicate addictive behavior and create healthy choices.
Clean up after yourself, in your relationships and your home.
Follow through on your plans, projects and promises.
Clean your house and car, your mind and messages.
Treat the environment and earth with conscious respect.
Stop excessive spending and Save your money.
Be respectful of the people and possessions in your life.
No drunkenness or disorderly behavior.
No swearing or name-calling.
Never abuse unhealthy food, drink or drugs.
Stop expecting others to do for you what you don’t do.
Live with respectful words, kind thoughts and positive behavior in clean home.