Monday, July 06, 2015


I prefer one-on-one conversations with no interruptions.
I choose face-to-face sharing with one speaking at a time.
I love to listen and be still enough to really hear what is being shared.
A quiet mind allows me to truly hear another on all levels.

Is Anyone Listening?

When you want to know why someone is unhappy, listen.
When you want to understand your partner, listen.
When you want to know your children better, listen.
When you want to be a good friend, listen.

And most important, listen to yourself.
Write down your thoughts and feelings.
Respect and value what you think and feel.
Respond with love and kindness to yourself.

When you listen and respect what you think, feel and say, you will listen to others with respect.
When you love yourself well, you will love others well.
When you trust your differences, you will trust others.
This is the way you learn to listen to others with compassion.

What you give to yourself is your training for what you can choose to do for others.
When you give to others well wit listening and respect, they will learn to listen to you.
When you do for yourself and others is your teaching for others as well.
What goes around comes around is true.

Do for others what you want others to do for you.
Do for others what you want others to do for themselves.
Do for others what you want others to do for others.
It is important to remember you are the role model and the example.

Listening is the key to learning.
Listening means not talking in your head.
Listening means allow the other to finish what they are saying.
Listening means encouraging even more sharing.

We have noise from constant talking.
We have noise from music and tv.
We have noise from the business in life.
We have inner noise from our incessant need to have noise.

There is distraction from outside noise.
There is distortion of what is heard from outside.
There is detoured focus with noise.
There is difficulty in really hearing what is being shared.

When you want to really listen, create a quiet and undisturbed environment.
When you really want to hear another, let them know with eye contact silencing your phone.
When you want to be with someone, let them know this is their time for communication.
When you want to be present, clear you schedule and your mind.

Children especially need quiet time to share their ideas and feelings.
Parents and teachers need to learn not to interrupt or disagree.
Men usually need a confidential and safe nonjudgmental place to share.
Women can learn to be quiet and not judge, criticize, suggest or disagree.

Love to Listen,
Betty Lue

Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.  

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.