Affirmations:
I prefer one-on-one conversations with no interruptions.
I choose face-to-face sharing with one speaking at a time.
I love to listen and be still enough to really hear what is
being shared.
A quiet mind allows me to truly hear another on all levels.
Is Anyone Listening?
When you want to know why someone is unhappy, listen.
When
you want to understand your partner, listen.
When
you want to know your children better, listen.
When
you want to be a good friend, listen.
And most important, listen to yourself.
Write
down your thoughts and feelings.
Respect
and value what you think and feel.
Respond
with love and kindness to yourself.
When you listen and respect what you think, feel and say, you
will listen to others with respect.
When
you love yourself well, you will love others well.
When
you trust your differences, you will trust others.
This
is the way you learn to listen to others with compassion.
What you give to yourself is your training for what you can
choose to do for others.
When
you give to others well wit listening and respect, they will learn to listen to
you.
When
you do for yourself and others is your teaching for others as well.
What
goes around comes around is true.
Do for others what you want others to do for you.
Do
for others what you want others to do for themselves.
Do
for others what you want others to do for others.
It is
important to remember you are the role model and the example.
Listening is the key to learning.
Listening
means not talking in your head.
Listening
means allow the other to finish what they are saying.
Listening
means encouraging even more sharing.
We have noise from constant talking.
We
have noise from music and tv.
We
have noise from the business in life.
We
have inner noise from our incessant need to have noise.
There is distraction from outside noise.
There
is distortion of what is heard from outside.
There
is detoured focus with noise.
There
is difficulty in really hearing what is being shared.
When you want to really listen, create a quiet and undisturbed
environment.
When
you really want to hear another, let them know with eye contact silencing your
phone.
When
you want to be with someone, let them know this is their time for
communication.
When
you want to be present, clear you schedule and your mind.
Children especially need quiet time to share their ideas and
feelings.
Parents
and teachers need to learn not to interrupt or disagree.
Men
usually need a confidential and safe nonjudgmental place to share.
Women
can learn to be quiet and not judge, criticize, suggest or disagree.
Love to Listen,
Betty
Lue
Recommendations for All Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your
principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life
impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or
manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both
parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately
when you forget or neglect.)
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and
activities.
Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value
and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness,
emotional dumping or negativity.