Saturday, June 06, 2015

Truth or Lies?

Question from a reader:
I am currently dealing with someone in whom I am catching in lies...
Lies about his life, misleading me with his words, his thoughts and now patterns of habitual lying.
I honestly never expected him to say one thing and do another
I desire truth and transparency.   What would you suggest?

I choose to see the truth of Love and the call for Love.
I choose to respond with listening and respect to those calling for Love.
I think, speak and behave with and for the Highest Good I know.
I make no assumptions and trust in Love.

What is Truth?

Everyone has their own version of the “truth”.
Everyone has their own perception of what they see.
No two people see or feel the same about any experience.
When we judge, compare and evaluate what seems to be, we will see it is all illusion.

Everyone see colors differently.
Everyone see “facts” differently.
Everyone diagnoses differently.
Everyone smells and sees and feels differently.

Perception is unique to each one of us.
Information is bombarding us with millions of bits of information.
Most minds filter out more than 99.9% of that information.
Therefore, what you perceive is totally different than what others perceive.

How can we judge another’s “truth”?
We can identify what we want to see.
We can relate to what we fear to see.
We can understand what we prefer to see.

Some don’t want to see what hurts.
Some deny what feels wrong or bad.
Some avoid what may get them in trouble.
Some actually choose only to see “Good.”

Some perceive only what is positive.
Some perceive only what is fearful and negative.
Some perceive only what is helpful to them.
Some perceive only what makes things better.

When we realize “truth” is in the eyes of the perceiver, we let go of judgment and comparison.
When we are safe to hear what others believe, we recognize a more expanded version of “truth:”.
When we stop judging, blaming, criticizing others for their perceptions, we begin to see the reality.
What Is is what others believe and perceive to be true.

Some want to see what they believe and make it so.
Some want to deceive in order to achieve what they want and make it so.
Some innocently pretend to perceive (imagine) in order to make it so.
Some simply deny seeing what they don’t want to be and make it so.
We can call this lying, and make others wrong and unworthy of our love and trust.
We can call this fibbing, and make it what others wish were true for others.
We can call it pretending and be practicing how to create what we want to be.
We can call this creating through imagining what we want to be true in our world.

Calling someone a “liar” is a harsh way of judging others’ chosen reality.
Consider first to see what is true for you than may not be true for others.
Be honest with your own perceptions and own them as your own.
Relinquish judging others and be a safe place in which others beliefs and perceptions may be different.

When we accept what appears to be as others preferred  “reality”, we may cease to be hurt.
When we can accept that we see things differently, perhaps we can come to understand.
We can allow freedom to be and trust others’ chosen reality.
Love is trusting and freeing ourselves and others to experience our own unique reality.

Honoring this is difficult for those who are taught to condemn any “truth” that is not our “truth”.
Telling the highest and best that I know,
With freedom and trust, 
Betty Lue

Coming to Know

To “know” is to “love”.
 For when we fully know, we have an experience of acceptance, understanding, trust and love.
 In working with this list of levels of consciousness, we can easily substitute “love” for “know”.
Perhaps, for some, this will simplify and clarify where you are in your own unfoldment process.

*  I don’t know and don’t know I don’t know.
*  I don’t know and don’t care.
*  I don’t know and don’t want to know.
*  I don’t know and wish I did.
*  I don’t know and seek to know.
*  I am coming to know.
*  I know and am afraid of what I know.
*  I know and am afraid I don’t.
*  I know and hold back what I know.
*  I know and share what I know in order to know.
*  I know and know I know quietly.
*  I am what I know.

With a little substitution:
*  I don’t love and don’t know I don’t love.
*  I don’t love and don’t care.
*  I don’t love and don’t want to love.
*  I don’t love and wish I did.
*  I don’t love and seek to love.
*  I am coming to Love.
*  I Love and am afraid of Love.
*  I Love and am afraid I don’t.
*  I Love and hold back my Love.
*  I Love and share Love to realize my Love.
*  I Love and share Love quietly.
*  I am Love.