Affirmations:
I trust myself to do my very best.
The more I trust myself, the more I trust others.
The more I trust myself, the more others trust me.
The more I trust myself, the more others trust themselves and trust others.
Rebuilding
Trust
Without
trust there is fear.
Without trust there
is insecurity.
Without trust, we
don’t feel safe.
Without trust, we
feel separate and alone.
When
partners don’t trust one another, they feel anxious.
When children don’t
trust their parents, they feel confused and afraid.
When people don’t
trust, they feel vigilant, suspicious and on guard.
When nations don’t
trust, they feel defensive, protective and threatened.
Treating
others with the same feelings of distrust creates more distrust.
When we act
defensive and demanding, others feel more distrusting.
When parents and
partners are constantly on guard and angry, others feel distrusted.
When we question,
withdraw, avoid, behave in unloving ways, distrust is reinforces and increases.
We
must learn to trust ourselves by being consistent.
We must live in
integrity by keeping our word.
We must do what we
say and say what we are going to do.
And when we change
our mind, our plans, our lives, we must be upfront and communicate clearly.
Children
learn to be distrust when parents are volitle, addicted, inconsistent with
words and actions.
Children have a
reason to be distrusting when parents are absent, negligent and inconsistent
emotionally.
Children fear
trusting their parents when they have been confused, abused and used .
Children long for a
safe place which they can count on for the long haul.
Parents
who behave in emotional, erratic and immature ways cannot be trusted.
Children learn to
trust they cannot count on parents for anything, which creates great anxiety
and depression.
One of the more
pro-active ways to deal with untrustworthy adults is to be angry and act out
their fears.
When we can use our
energy to effect change and get others to listen, we begin to gain feelings of
power.
To
trust our world, trust authority figures, trust there is something to trust, we
must have consistency.
To rebuild trust in
families, there must be routing and regular schedules.
What is promised
must be given and done on a regular basis.
Anxiety is most
easily calmed with consistent meals, bedtime, activities and togetherness.
Uncertainty
causes anxiety.
Inconsistency
creates uncertainty.
Fear
causes both acting out and withdrawal.
Constant
change creates either a need to control or give up.
Parents,
employers, leaders and authority figures must be reliable and accountable to be
trusted.
When authority
figures are principle centered, others experience consistent communication and
learn to trust.
When our world feels
stable, secure and save, children and adults feel peaceful, calm and trusting.
When our environment
feels unstable, insecure and unsafe, people may feel anxious, angry or
depressed.
It
is time to create a safe world for ourselves and others.
It is our choice to
build trust for ourselves and others.
We can make better
choices of principles, people, places and priorities.
Each one of us is
responsible for the safety, security and sanity in our own domain.
Let
us rebuild trust one day at a time.
Loving and trusting
we can just do it!
Betty Lue