Affirmations:
I choose to love everyone no matter what.
I give with Love and experience miracles of Love.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more I love, trust and
respect others.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and
respect me.
The more I love, trust and respect myself, the more others love, trust and
respect themselves.
It all begins with me.
1.
Joining: Purpose,
Mission or Goals.
2.
Honesty: No secrets
or withholds.
3.
Equality: Each
person gives their best.
4.
Commitment: What is
best for both parties.
5.
Responsibility: Be
able and willing to contribute 100% with no guilt or blame.
Relationships
can be functional or dysfunctional.
People can blame,
shame, quit, demand, threaten, lie, cheat and steal on themselves and others.
Dysfunctional
relationships do not meet the Needs for Success. ( See above)
Some say over 90
percent of all families and relationships are dysfunctional.
When
everyone does what they want, the needs for Successful Relationships are not
met.
When people neglect
to communicate their heart, vision, gratitude and choices, no one benefits.
When people use the
relationship for their own good and neglect to support the other, both lose.
When families depend
on one person to meet their own needs, they build guilt and resentment.
It
is important for all parties to clarify what they truly need.
It is important for
each person to be honest and authentic.
It is important for
each person to GIVE their best.
It is important for
each to commit to what is good for each and all.
It is important for
each to function responsibly with conscious intention.
Successful
Relationships require consciousness to succeed.
When people take
what they have for granted, they lose theit way.
When people forget
to be respectful and grateful, they take advantage.
When people become
dependent, they make assumptions.
Successful
Relationships require full participation.
Schedule meetings
for quality time.
Make agreements for
best communication.
Forgive mistakes to
create renewed focus.
Honor
one another for what is given.
Let go of negative
or painful history.
Relinquish all
attack, blame, shame and criticism.
Maintain respectful
language and behavior.
Treat
partners and family with respect.
Use courteous
language and behavior.
Please and thank you
maintains awareness.
Practice the habit
of apologizing for errors.
Every
relationship can be positive and helpful.
Every relationship
deserves our consciousness.
Every relationship
can benefit both parties.
Every relationship
can be healing and growthful.
Observe
and clean up your own behavior first.
Your example will
make all the difference.
Openly appreciate
and reward behavior you value.
Forgive and let go
of behavior you wish to undo.
Be true to your
highest values.
Betty Lue
Healthy Relationship Workshop this Saturday 10-12 in Middletown.
You
can ask to receive the handouts and the audio via internet!
Recommendations for Successful
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
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There
are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write
together.
I
encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on
a regular basis.
As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationship.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.
Blessings
to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of
relating,
Betty
Lue