Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Stop Hurting Your Self!

Affirmations:
I love myself the way I Am.
I live my authentic life with gratitude and grace.
I treat myself with gentle, respect thoughts, feelings and activities.
I forgive myself immediately for hurting myself in any way.
  
Do you understand the harm you do yourself when you are angry?
Do you know the physiology and psychology of anger?
Are you aware of how it effects your thinking, feelings, actions when you are mad?
Have you observed how everything gets “Sick”, when you have lack of peace?

People get habituated or addicted to negative feelings.
People have a hormonal or physiological addiction to adrenalin, cortisol and more.
People become comfortable with talking, thinking and acting in negative ways.
People use more drugs, nicotine, coffee, Rx drugs and street drugs when upset.

Thinking becomes distorted.
Energy is off balance with extremes.
Ideas and opportunities are limited.
Vision and viewpoints are self absorbed.

The karma of negativity is the what you project onto others is what you get for yourself.
The feedback of anger is that you become more afraid of others’s anger.
The cycle of violent thoughts, words and actions it they repeat themselves.
The worldly misperceptions become so distorted, you cannot find reality.

Anger is how many people cover their vulnerability.
When hurt or afraid, show anger.
When confused or weak, show anger.
Anger appears strong, powerful and pushes people away.

The need to recover from fear is essential.
The need to center when off balance is necessary.
The need to calm oneself for clarity is helpful
The need to step away and find inner peace is healing.

When angry, stop the attack thoughts, words and actions.
When upset, step away to a safe place and calm yourself.
When frightened, center yourself with deep belly breathing.
When hurting, learn new and healing self soothing techniques.

The world and your environment may not feel safe for you.
The people and their words may not be helpful and healing to you.
The ideas and what you ingest may not be best or soothing for you.
Find your own self soothing tools in songs and words, activities and process, people and places.

Eliminate all negativity and criticism of yourself.
Stop ingesting negative talk, media, food and drugs.
Seek for neutrality, safety and quiet, laughter and love.
Surround yourself with what brings light, learning and letting go.

This is your life to love, serve and remember the Good in You.
Loving you is loving me.
Loving me is loving you.
Loving us all as we are sets me free to Love even more.
Betty Lue


From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.

2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.

3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.

4. PRAISE YOURSELF
 Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.

5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
 Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.

6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
 Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.

7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
 Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.

8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
 Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.

9. MIRROR WORK
 Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”

10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
 Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.