Affirmations:
I quickly stop doing whatever is not for the best of all.
I easily forgive and release whatever is not loving and kind.
I quit thinking, saying and doing what is not helpful and
well-intentioned.
I stop and center myself with the best I know in mind.
If you life
isn’t working, STOP!
If your
relationships aren’t working, STOP!
If your money
isn’t working, STOP!
If your health
isn’t working, STOP!
Stop doing the
same things you have always done, expecting a different result.
Stop thinking,
speaking and behaving as you always have, believing this time it will be
different.
Stop making up
that somehow someone out there will show you a better way.
Stop judging,
blaming, criticizing someone else for what isn’t working for you.
We keep going,
because our ego want to be right.
We keep doing
the same thing, because we don’t want to be the problem.,
We keep
choosing what is familiar believing that this time it will work.
We keep trying
over and over falsely hoping for a change externally.
The purpose of
stopping is take a time out to clear our thinking.
The purpose of
stopping is not quitting, but stopping the ineffective methods.
The purpose of
stopping is to break the cycle of insanity.
The purpose of
stopping is to undo the dysfunctional reactive patterns.
Time outs are
for parents to give themselves and the kids a chance to calm down and find our
center.
Stepping away
from an upset is time to reconnect with what is best for everyone.
Taking deep
breaths clears the fear, drama, anger and emotional distortions.
Pausing for a
walk, meditation, writing in a journal, forgiving and doing affirmations is to
think clearly.
I recommend
not talking when upset.
I recommend
not express our hurtful feelings.
I recomment
dumping toxic material in private.
I recommend
clarifying your goal or intention.
When re reacti
emotionally, we are seeking either to get others to help us or to give others
our upset.
When others
are calm, reasonable and able to be helpful, it works.
When others
are upset, fearful, irrational or unable to helpful, nothing we do will work.
Often we
simply spread the pain, fear, drama, unhappiness and lack of love to another.
Consider
taking full responsibility.
Consider being
the conscious one.
Consider
making amends with I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you and Thank you.
Consider
forgiving your self for making up the upsetting thoughts and feelings.
Life is the
practice grounds for clearing the pain and fear, guilt and blame fro yourself
and others.
Life is the
place in which we can make ourselves safe to work our our own issues without
hurting others.
Life is the
experimental laboratory to stop ineffective means to solve a problem.
Life is the
learning ground in which we openly discover what works and does not work.
Bless us each
and all for observing, exploring and learning better ways.