Affirmations:
I treat myself and others with respect, kindness and gratitude.
I give myself my best, so I remember to always give everyone my best.
I forgive my mistakes and others’ easily and quickly.
I trust myself to keep my agreements and make no assumptions.
Did you ever
wonder why people seem to give their worst to those they claim to “love”?
Do you ever see how
people often ignore their children to speak with their friends?
Did you ever ask
yourself why no one seems to give special care and gratitude for elders?
Do you ever ask
yourself: What happened to respectful, responsible and cooperative families?
If your
relationships are filled with positive attention and intention, I salute you.
If your marriage is
a shining example of respectful communication and helpfulness, I honor you.
If your parents feel
loved, respected, appreciated and supported by you, I appreciate you.
If you teach your
children and all children respect, responsibility and cooperation, I bless you.
It is time for
all of us to step up, forgive the past ignorance and neglect and choose again.
It is ours to make a
difference in every relationship we have.
We can bring our
best caring, listening, acceptance and response to every relationship.
Now is the time to
transform the old habits into new means for inspiring respectful Love.
Do you know how
to make and keep promises and agreements?
Do you understand
the value of your word and your integrity?
Are you aware of how
others observe you and learn what they can expect from you?
Do you watch others
behavior to get an idea of who they are and what you can expect with them?
Are your
relationships based on first impressions?
Do you believe “What
you see is what you get.”?
Are you willing to
clean up your dress, words and behavior?
Do you want to give
the impression of being trustworthy and respectful?
You are making
the difference you want to see and live with.
You are attracting
relationships which mirror what others see in you.
You are teaching
others how you want to be treated and talked to.
You are setting the
tone of energy and ways to relate.
First: Be,
demonstrate and model in all your relationships what you prefer.
Remember to use your
words, appearance and interactions to teach others.
Live consistently at
home and work, in public and in private what you value.
Take time daily to
improve yourself and your relationships.
How we relate to
one another determines how others relate to us.
When we are
respectful, others learn to respect themselves and us.
When we are
argumentative or defensive, others prepare to argue.
When we are
forgiving and move on easily, others learn to let go.
We are teaching
our world with every thought, word and deed.
It is essential that
we be clear about what we are teaching.
I would rather be
happy that be right.
I prefer and
choose to never fight.
Trusting
you choose well, for the sake of Goodness and Love,
Betty Lue
Relationship Reminders: (See my Reminders books on Amazon.com)
Forgive
the past.
Learn
from any mistakes.
Heal
your disappointments and hurts.
Grow
with your goals.
Live
with gratitude.
You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.
Four Agreements by don Miguel
Ruiz
Take
nothing personally.
Make
no assumptions.
Keep
your agreements.
Always
give your best.
Recommendations for All
Relationships
With
mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep
your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate
changes honestly and immediately.)
Give
more than you expect to receive.
Do
more than your “fair” share.
Receive
everything with open appreciation.
Express
your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live
your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify,
communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be
responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t
expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop
using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop
making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate
effectively and respectfully.
Request
a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be
your best self in all circumstances.
Focus
always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or
neglect.)
Use
your time together wisely.
Focus
on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend
time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste
nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or
negativity.
As
circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all
participants.
Families
need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their
best.
Couples
need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business
partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles
as needed.
Life
requires that we be in relationship.
With
respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With
responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to
seek what works for all.
With
cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of
everyone.
When
everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.