Affirmations:
I no longer allow myself to lose emotional control.
I choose to treat everyone with dignity and respect.
The more I respect myself, the more I respect others.
I prefer to be happy, and let go of the need to be right.
Perhaps the
best advice I received about human relationships was:
State you
opinion once when asked.
Then drop the
subject with or without agreement.
When someone
disagrees, state your opinion once and then let go and listen to theirs.
It only
make matters worse to fight.
It never
creates happy and peaceful resolution.
If you need to
be right, get a bunch of friends who simply agree with you.
If you are
confident in what is “right” for you, let others be “right” for them.
Take time
to listen when you have the patience to listen with trust.
Take time to
listen when you want to learn about others.
Take time to
listen when you need to know what they believe.
Take time to
listen when you recognize that everyone is free to believe as they wish.
When you
are in disagreement, you can say to yourself it is OK to see things
differently.
When you
differ in your opinion, belief, viewpoint, simply acknowledge you respect the
difference.
When you need
them to agree, know you are needing approval or their alliance to feel
confident.
When you need
another to support and trust you, begin with your need for their support.
Often
fights are about petty or inconsequential issues.
Often fights
are about the competitive need to win.
Often fights
are simply a habitual reaction.
Often fights are
because we don’t know how to get attention.
When we
know how to assert ourselves, we respect others who assert themselves.
When we
understand that differences are healthy and good, we respect the differences we
hear.
When we regard
those who differ with freedom and trust, we feel loving and safe in our
relationships.
When we stop
the fighting, we realize it was all immature and a waste of time and energy for
nothing.
Wars come
from fighting over mostly petty details.
Divorces come
from mostly fighting habits.
Firing often
happens from the futility of fighting for what we want.
Fighting seems
to be the way we posture to be righteously right for what we believe.
The most
effective way to life in relationship is to stop fighting.
The best way
to stop fighting is to step away and respect yourself.
The happiest
way to live is to stop needing to prove yourself.
The sanest way
to find peace and harmony is to let go and simply love, respect yourself.
Stop being
needy.
Stop saying
hurtful words.
Stop trying to
be right.
Stop being
antagonistic.
Let us all
love and mind our own behavior.
Forgive
yourself for hurting yourself and others.
Trust yourself
to know what is right and good to say and do.
Allow yourself
to change how you think and speak and behave.
Loving
you as you change your reactions and stop fighting with anyone.
Betty Lue
Nothing
good comes from acting when angry or upset.
When upset or angry about
anything.
Calm
yourself before you act or speak.
• STOP
• Breathe deeply, fully and
freely.
• Step away.
• Leave the situation until
you are calm.
Nothing
good comes from acting when angry or upset.
This
is a life lesson in learning to wait until your inner emotional storm has
passed.
Only
when you are calm and clear can you make effective decisions.