Are you loving you?
What you give to yourself is what you teach the world to give to you!
When you expect nothing, you get nothing.
When you expect to be hurt, you get hurt.
When we are not loving ourselves well, we become vulnerable and sensitive.
When we are not treating ourselves with respect, we are take others disrespect personally.
When we are not giving ourselves the best we know, we hope someone else will.
When we are not trusting, respecting and loving ourselves, we attract others who are not as well.
What you believe, you will see and experience.
Yes, we learn from our relationship with our parent and others as infants how to treat ourselves.
We often learn from them by how they treat us, but also by how they treat themselves.
Often our learning is more from thoughts held in mind more than words or behavior.
When we realize we have constructed our lives based on others ideas, words and behaviors, we can change it.
When we are willing to enjoy the process of discovery rather than judge it, we can erase it all easily.
When we clear the fear, hurt, anger and sadness quickly, we use forgiveness to let go and learn.
When we base our choices on what is highest and best for all concerned, we choose wisely.
To love you well, you need to let go of your past history and the stories you tell to yourself.
To love you well, you need to release negative or toxic people who say limiting things about you.
To love you well, you need to have a picture of the life your desire with confident gratitude included.
To love you well, you need to give up on negative thinking, destructive habits and self pity and complaining.
To love you well, you need to stop scaring yourself .
To love you well, you need to stop feeling guilty.
To love you well, you need to stop blaming anyone.
To love you well, you need to stop quitting on yourself.
A new life begins inside you.
A new life begins with self forgiveness.
A new life begins with affirmation.
A new life begins with realizing your power.
A new life begins with discovering your greatness.
A new life begins with a willingness to give your best.
A new life begins with loving yourself unconditionally.
A new life begins with saying YES to your heart’s desires.
A new life begins with expressing gratitude for all Good.
A new life begins with trusting in the best in You.
A new life begins with you truly loving and trusting you.
A new life begins with you giving yourself the freedom to be.
Listen to your heart and write what you hear.
Begin to treat yourself like the precious child you are.
Learn to honor yourself first.
Giving yourself the best is the key to giving your best to others and others giving their best to you.
Love begins inside ourselves.
Loving you with the best I know,
Betty Lue
From Louise Hay ©1988
How To Love Yourself
1. STOP ALL CRITICISM
Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive.
2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF
Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought.
3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved.
4. PRAISE YOURSELF
Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing.
5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND
Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts.
6. SUPPORT YOURSELF
Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it.
7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES
Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY
Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in.
9. MIRROR WORK
Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!”
10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW
Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.