Do you want support?
Do you want respect?
Do you want honesty?
Do you want commitment?
Do you want someone to support you no matter what their circumstance or need?
Do you want someone to respect you no matter how you treat or talk to them?
Do you want someone to be tell you everything or only what you want to hear?
Do you want someone to be committed to what you want or what is best for them?
Are you willing to give as much or more than you receive?
Are you open for the same degree of commitment you are asking?
Are you willing to have a partner who is as demanding as you are?
Are you willing to love them no matter how they talk, behave or spend their time?
Most people in relationship have never bothered to examine what they are contributing?
Most forget to look at how much support they are willing to give?
Most are not honest with themselves about the conditions they place on their relationships.
Most people do not face their own thoughts, words and deeds of disrespect and lack of honesty and commitment?
Support
Are you willing to offer encouragement, appreciation and gratitude in difficult situations?
Are you open to be the one to provide financial support, emotional support and physical support?
Are you willing to stand by partner, friend and family through physical, mental and financial illness?
Respect
Are you willing to never speak with disrespect to your partner?
Are you open to keep your relationship interaction, opinions and feelings just between the two of you?
Do you promise to never speak a negative word again your partner, friend and family?
Honesty
Are you honest with your thoughts, feelings and behaviors regarding your relationship?
Do you commit yourself to delete (forgive) all disloyal thoughts as soon as you feel them?
Are you willing to look inside and declare that you have not thought about hurting the relationship?
Commitment
Are you committed to stay in the relationship as long as it is best for both of you?
Are you committed to be there for the other in sickness, in bankruptcy, in infidelity, in tragedy?
Are you committed to do what is best for your partner, either staying or letting go in their best interest?
Enough Love
Do you love enough to be there on stormy days as well as sunny?
Do you love enough to let go if the other is happier moving on?
Do you love enough to step away from toxic or destructive relationships?
Do you love enough to trust that the other is always doing their best (even if not what you want)?
Sometimes truth hurts and then it sets us free.
Sometimes love hides the wakeup calls and prevents healing and growth.
Sometimes we fear what we already know to be true.
Sometimes we must forgive it all and choose anew.
Loving us al as we learn to love,
Betty Lue
Recommendations for Successful Relationships
With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.
Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)
Give more than you expect to receive.
Do more than your “fair” share.
Receive everything with open appreciation.
Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.
Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.
Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.
Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably.
Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.
Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.
Communicate effectively and respectfully.
Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.
Be your best self in all circumstances.
Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)
Use your time together wisely.
Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.
Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.
Waste nothing in your relationship. No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
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There are many more agreements which I encourage you and your partner to write together.
I encourage all parties to take time to re-evaluate your agreements monthly or on a regular basis.
As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.
Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.
Life requires that we be in relationship.
With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.
Blessings to us all in our willingness to continue to explore and find better ways of relating,
Betty Lue