(Two processes below for your healing use!)
Whatever is left over, unfinished and undone, comes with us into the New Year.
Whatever is not healed and complete, is carried on into the next relationship.
Whatever is waiting continues to wait, until we stop procrastinating.
Unforgiven stuff waits for our forgiveness and blessing to be done.
This is a fail-safe learning laboratory.
We cannot fail to finish what we started.
We cannot sweep ancient material under the rug forever.
So we might as well do our work right now.
Running away might work for a little while, until it all catches up with us.
Avoiding the inevitable is like waiting for the next big wave to come in.
Seeking solace in addiction, busyness or trying quick fixes is temporary.
The real healing work that needs to be done waits for our willingness.
There is no time like the present to begin.
Everything must be forgiven, especially ourselves.
We need to purify our thoughts and intention, sanctify our words and our deed.
There is a call to clear all unconscious guilt, resentment and hurt.
How do we begin?
Whatever makes you unhappy, afraid, worried or envious is a call for healing.
Whatever you avoid, resist, depresses or disappoints is calling for forgiveness.
Whatever you demand, expect, complain about or criticize is a call for clearing.
When we are in the judging habit, what we see and hear and feel is distorted with our lack of neutrality.
When we have truly forgiven, we see and feel differently and are will to be truly helpful.
When we have undone our previous unhealed and misperceived experiences, we can choose again.
When we relinquish all attack on ourselves and others, we begin to understand how to heal.
Honorable closure is a gift to ourselves.
It sets us free to choose again with wisdom and love.
It blesses our lives with healthy and conscious choices.
It fills us with gratitude and grace in our affairs.
True forgiveness is a gift to ourselves.
It sets us free from repeating the same mistakes.
It allows us to choose from the highest and best possibilities.
It releases us from the negative feelings that imprison us in fear and anger.
When we are complete, we feel peaceful and open.
When we have forgiven, we feel blessed and grateful.
When we are loving and happy, we choose wisely.
When we are living in integrity with our values, we trust ourselves and feel free.
Life is an opportunity to learn how to finish what we start,.
We can learn from everything and everyone.
We know we are blessed by every experience when seen with right perception.
We trust the process and free ourselves to be fully alive.
Loving you in all you are and do,
Betty Lue
Honorable Closure
How do you complete a relationship, a marriage, a teaching-learning experience, a job, a friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
Often people walk away without really finishing the spiritual work, because it is easier emotionally.
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is really “God be with You.”
When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.
Honorable closure acknowledges:
1) the learning and growth received,
2) challenges and difficulties experienced,
3) appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4) forgiveness and amends made.
Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission. Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together. This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.
And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.
Honorable closure always includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.
Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.
To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure. Begin now.
Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace.
Betty Lue
30 Days to Enlightenment and Waking Up
30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.
Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.
Daily Practice:
Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.
Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.
Make the sound “AAAH” for 1-2 minutes.
Imagine that you are opening your mind.
Now write and say 30 Choices.
I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….
In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes
I appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.
Make the sound “OM” the Universal sound for Love and God for 1-2 minutes.
PS Even a few of each is better than none.
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Loving You always,
Betty Lue