What Is Important?

How do you waste your time and energy on situations that don’t really matter?

Do you gossip on the phone which your child or spouse wait to talk to you?
Do you watch a TV program rather than help you child with homework?
Do you spend time on Facebook or twitter when you need to converse with your family?
Do you fall asleep on the couch when you could be playing a game or taking a walk?

Do you worry about what others think of you, when you need to do your own spiritual work?
Do you shop and buy what you don’t need, when your bank account is withdrawn and you are in debt?
Do you eat dessert and snack when you complain about how heavy you are
Do you judge others behavior and looks, and avoid taking care of your body and behavior?

Do you talk endlessly about friends and family, stars and politicians but fail to deal with your own life?
Do you distract yourself from handling your bills, your relationships and your inner work?
Do you avoid balancing your checkbook, sticking with a budget, preparing and eating healthy?
Do you complain and whine, but forget to appreciate and encourage yourself and others?

Do you say thank you to yourself and others for all the ways you are served?
Do you truly appreciate the life you have created?
Do you remember to tell those around you everyday you love them?
Do you spend time at the gym focused on your body, but forget about your connection with others?

Do you know what you really want for your life and create it  for the benefit of yourself and others/
Do you remember to prioritize your values, your goals and live your ideal daily?
Do you manage your time and money like it was worth something?
Do you give generously to those that give to you?

Do you speak words that are sincere, generous, positive and encouraging to all?
Do you treat your family with the same courtesy that you would an admired person or honored guest?
Do you give everyone the best you have and step away when you cannot give to fill yourself up?
Do you know how to stop yourself from doing harm with your words, your thoughts and actions?

Do you really believe that criticism, yelling and getting angry is helpful to change others behavior?
Do you honestly think you can cover your errors with blame and playing nice?
Do you know how to apologize sincerely and make amends for your ignorance and self indulgence?
Do you respect other’s time, money, energy, preferences and space and stop interfering?

Do you understand each one of us has our own unique life journey and we learn from our experiences?
Do you step back and live your life the best way you know and cease telling others what to do?
Do you know the meaning of support and being truly helpful by honoring anothers’ request?
Do you spend time listening within to yourself first, before moving forward on impulse?

What is important to you may be totally petty to me and vice versa.
We cannot understand anyone else except to accept their choices and love them.
To Love is to trust their learning process.  To allow and free others, frees us to be.
Clarify what matters to you and respect it by living in integrity.

Loving you, 
Betty Lue
 

¤      I love you      ¤
and I know you love me too.
LOVE IS FREEDOMThe freedom for you and I to be who we are.
The freedom to live life as we do.
The freedom to make mistakes and learn from them.
The freedom to express our own truth as we see it.
 LOVE IS TRUSTThe trust that there is a constant flow of love,
no matter what.
The trust that, in spite of life’s problems,
we believe in and support each other’s right
to live as we choose.
The trust that in adversity,
there is healing and learning and gifts of love.
The trust that under conflict and emotional expression,
there is love

I love you and I trust you.
I free you to be all you are.

Betty Lue 1978