Tuesday, October 28, 2008

In a Mess or Distressed?

Too embarrassed to ask for help?
Too guilty to forgive yourself?
Too private to let anyone know?
To ashamed to be open to change?

So often in life we learn to keep our problems to ourselves.
We can’t handle it, so how could anyone else know how.
Or we don’t want to do the work to make the needed changes.
Or we just think it is none of anyone else’s business.

What will it take for you to realize that you deserve something better?
What do you need to know before you are willing to let go of your mistakes?
What is the right time and place to make a real and lasting difference in your life?
How much can you handle before your just want to quit on everything?

Problems, errors, tragedies, and distress are all opportunities for learning.
Every time we bypass the opportunity for healing and growth, we miss the mark.
Every time we wait to ask for help, we delay the learning.
Every time we cover up, defend and keep it all a secret, we create it over again.

Let’s be transparent.
Let’s learn and heal quickly.
Let’s practice instant forgiveness of ourselves and others.
Let’s move into constant appreciation of whatever is…trusting it all is for our Good.

Ask for help.
Look for someone who knows what you don’t know and lives what they teach.
Listen inside to your intuition for guidance about what to do to find your way.
Take time to reflect on the question: “What can I learn from this?” And “What can I do?”

Stop wallowing in self pity….It leads only to more self hatred , sorrow and impotence.
Stop blaming anyone, including yourself.....Life happens to show us how to improve our choices.
Stop waiting for someone to save you.....You are the one you seek, the one who can change it all.
Stop thinking you deserve bad things to happen……You only deserve happiness and fulfillment.

First give yourself a pep talk.
You got into this mess, so you can get out of it as well.
Being angry, afraid or hurt shuts down your creativity, so let it go.
Talk with yourself, with God or with someone whom you trust to help you move on.
The most important thing is to take action. Get clear about what you can do and begin.
Forgive your fears, judgments and self criticism and choose again for the Good.
Remember that with Goodness and Love in you, you have the power to change anything.

Also, I am here, so call on me. Email me. Or ask for an appointment.
Most of you know, I will be direct and affirmative in my coaching approach.
You can do what you need to do to clean up the mess and end the distress.
Start now and you feel better immediately.

Loving you,
Betty Lue