Guilt is often taught and used as a motivation.
Guilt is often used to keep people dependent.
Guilt is a learned response to making a mistake.
Guilt often leads us to more of the same behavior.
Guilt may motivate us to keep trying harder.
When people feel guilty, they usually try to get rid of the person or situation that caused the guilt.
People who feel guilty try to avoid the relationship or get rid of the person with whom they feel guilt.
Or when they see no way to avoid the person, they create justification for casting the blame on them.
The perpetrator blames the victim.
The persecutor annihilates their victim.
Guilt may be the cause of violence, death and war.
When treated unfairly, have we first been unfair?
Have we expected someone else to change, to fix us, to make us happy?
Have we given responsibility for our lives, our finances, our oil, our peace of mind to someone else?
Have we believed that we are dependent on another for our shoes, our meals, our paycheck?
If they come through for us, we are happy and they feel good.
If they fail us, we are unhappy and they feel bad.
To make another responsible for our happiness and wellbeing is to create guilt-ridden relationships.
To be responsible for our own happiness and well-being is to be free of guilt and blame.
Where there is no guilt or blame, there is no fear.
Where there is no guilt or blame, there is love and peace.
Where there is no guilt or blame, there is kindness and understanding.
Where there is no guilt or blame, there is compassion and gratitude.
To expect another to be our savior is to set them up for guilt and blame.
To expect another to always be what we want, is to create pressure for their performance.
To expect another to be take care of us is to make them dependent on our judgments of their care.
When they do it right, We are content and they are happy.
When they do it wrong, we are upset and they are guilt-ridden.
Relationships based on dependence are filled with fear.
Because we are all inter-connected, my happiness and well-being effects others.
It is my intention to be free of guilt and blame, to clear all judgment, so that I can fully Love.
I am responsible for my life. I am responsible for what I experience. I am responsible.
No “makes” me feel or think or behave in any way.
I choose consciously and unconsciously.
I am responsible for my thoughts, my words and my actions.
I am responsible for forgiving my guilt.
I am responsible for forgiving my judgments.
I am responsible.
With responsibility and freedom,
Betty Lue