Tuesday, July 14, 2020

Be Who You Are

Be Smart!
Be Respectful!
Be Safe!

Affirmations:
You are the One you seek.
Unclutter your judgments and enjoy your life.
Be present and recognize the Gift.
Show up and pay attention.

Affirm Who You Are.

You are whole.
You are Essence.
You are energy.
You are Love.

You are creative.
You are inspiration.
You are Being.
You are True.

Know Your Self.
Be true to your Self.
Be at home in your life.
Enjoy what is yours.

Your life is your creation. 
You are living what you came to be.
You are learning what you came to learn.
You are giving what you are here to give.

Be aware of what are your thoughts. 
Recognize your feelings about your Self.
Realize what you are living, loving and learning.
Let go and allow the Goodness to flow through You.

Enjoy your creation.
Be happy with your Self.
Appreciate what you do.
Live well as you do well.

The essence of you is showing through you.
The spirit of you is inspiring your creations.
The love within you is shining as You.
You cannot be what is not yours to be.

Do what inspires you.
Be the One who lives through you.
Have the Joy that comes with you.
For this is your life.

See the bigger picture.
Enrich yourself with Loving it all.
Clarify what you are learning.
Appreciate what you need to share.

Caring is your way of daring to fully live.
Sharing is your way to inspire your world.
And enjoying shows you how to fully express your Self.
You are the One you seek to be and do and have.

Loving you all the way.
Betty Lue

Monday, July 13, 2020

Healing is Remembering Love

Affirmations:
I remember to Love everyone everyday.
I forgive myself for forgetting to Love.
As I release fear, I naturally return to Love.
I remember I am Whole, when I reconnect with Love.

Remember Love

Reunion: Remember to Love and Return to Wholeness.
Healing is returning to Wholeness.
Lack of wholeness is a sign we have forgotten to Love.
Loving One Self mind, body and Spirit is the first step to healing.

Holistic health is recognizing that everything is a part of everything.
Every piece of the whole affects every other piece.
Life is a connection of an infinite number of pieces.
It is essential that we recognize ourselves as a piece of a greater whole.

What have you left out?
What is missing in your life?
Do you realize every place of hatred, fear, judgment and avoidance is a block to Love?
Are you aware that your healing depends on releasing the blocks to the awareness of Love?

Have you forsaken, denied or betrayed anyone including yourself?
Do you take the time to listen to what is needed to heal all of you?
Are you aware that what you see in others represents a part of you?
Is it time to do the real thorough work for healing?

Bodies heal naturally when we love them and let go of fear.
Minds heal when we are at peace and let go of conflict.
Relationships heal when we erase the past and live with love in the present.
Lives heal when we trust in Good and allow the Goodness to flow within, around and through us.

Love is letting go of fear.
Life is letting go of resistance.
You are Love incarnate when you forgive all that is not Love.
Change your fearful, defensive and resistant thinking and reveal your wholeness, trusting and freeing Self within.

You are healed, whole and holy when you allow the Good within to be fully expressed,
With every thought word and deed, you can set yourself free.
When you trust in the good within you, you find yourself living in loving, kind and healthy ways.
As you Love the Self-Realized You, there is a realization of your own natural wholeness.

Release the obstacles to Loving thoughts, words and deeds.
Open your mind to being true to your natural creative Self.
Allow your choices to be for your Highest and Best.
Enjoy the fruits of your labor when you live, love and give in Love.

You can return to wholeness by remembering always to Love one and All.
This means more than being nice.
It means being honest with kindness, serving with joy, learning what you teach, giving your Best to all.
You can because you are created by Love for the purpose of Loving.

So Be the Love You are.
I am willing to be Love too!
Betty Lue

The only mistake we ever make is when we forget to Love.
Betty Lue

Sunday, July 12, 2020

Feel Better

Affirmations:
I choose to give my best by being my best.
I respond to my needs and my self with love and appreciation.
I give myself what is best for me.
I encourage everyone to do what is best for them.

You Will Feel Better!

You will feel better when you feel better!
You can will yourself to feel better.
You can choose to imagine feeling better.
You can use your power of choice to feel better. 

Practice feeling bad and then practice feeling good.
Notice how you breathe and hold your body when feeling good and feeling bad.
Envision how you look when feeling good or bad.
Watch yourself in the mirror when you feel inspired, energized and happy.

When you can feel the difference quickly, you are able to change your emotional and physical state.
Pause and deliberately change your state inside, (how you feel) and outside (how you look to other).
Begin to recognize you are the one choosing to alter your state of mind, body and spirit.
Your interaction with your whole self makes a difference to your whole being.

Be kind to your body, mind and Self.
Be respectful of your physical experience, your thoughts and your current state of Well Being.
Listen to your thoughts, feelings and energy.
Respond always with caring and daring to give yourself what is asked.

So often people deny what they need.
Often people betray themselves.
Many people disrespect themselves.
Are you listening and responding to your needs with love.

Do you eat what your body wants for nutritional energy?
Do you sleep peacefully in a quiet and wholesome environment?
Are you open to listening to what is healthy for you to hear and see?
Do you associate with people who are positive, peaceful and happy with their lives.?
  
You can feel better when you do what is better for you.
You will do what is better for you when know you deserve better. 
When you put yourself first, you will inspire others to do better for themselves.

Your own well-being will encourage others well-being.
You teach by example.
Your self-improvement changes your attitude, health and happiness.
What is best for you will inspire others to do better for themselves.

When you have not known what is better, you may not realize how to do better.
Watch others whom you admire and learn what they do.
Listen to others who teach well-being and inspire yourself.
Make a simple list and begin today to do what is good for you in every way.

Every positive change will impact every part of your life to be more healthy, happy and fulfilled.
Begin today.
Appreciating your open-mindedness and willingness.
Betty Lue

Saturday, July 11, 2020

Emotions

Affirmations:
I honor emotions as a need to listen with great sensitivity and respect.
I allow the need to move or change something within all emotions.
I accept feelings as communicating energy that needs to be heard.
I trust that everyone is always communicating the best they know.

Emotions Are Communication.

Are You Listening?
Crying is trying to tell you something.
Temper Tantrums are communication.
Is Anyone really listening?

Can you interpret your own feelings?
Are you paying attention or merely suppressing?
Do you ask what your emotions mean?
Emotions are energy expressing itself for you to hear.

When you learn to respond with Love, you will come to peace.
When you learn to listen to others with caring, they will feel heard.
When you can interpret the language of emotion, you will understand.
When you are open and willing to respond to all things with Love, you will find inner Peace.
  
Become aware of your own language of emotion.
Emotions are energy in motion.
When we judge or block the movement, we are stuck.
When we are willing to listen and share, we can do something.

When we flow with what is being expressed with respect, we are released.
Listen to the language of emotion.
Respond with love and hear the words and will and choices and requests.
Be open to showing the way to not block what is felt, but open the flow to healthy action.

Infants cry to tell you their need.
WE must listen and respond with kindness.
Toddlers tantrum or act out because they need to be heard.
We must pay attention and hear what is being expressed.

When we attend to the basic need, the emotional expression will become a rational request.
When we hear the request, we can share what we hear with active listening and learn how to respond.
When we learn how to respond with Love, we can demonstrate how each can manage their own need.
All humans develop dependence on another or independence to manage their life choices.

When you feel guilty about another’s emotional upset, you may not hear or interpret well.
When emotions are abundant, much is distorted or exaggerated.
It is important to calm and clear ourselves before responding appropriately.
It is essential that we seek to be truly helpful in order to satisfy what is needed.

Consider listening first and then attempting to respond by asking what may be preferred.
Consider responding first with kindness and empathy with: “I am sorry. What can I do?’
Consider waiting until the storm of emotions as calmed before attempting to be rational.
Consider caring enough to be fully present without guilt, anger or blame.

Emotional expression is always an attempt to meet an unmet need.
So, listen for what is really needed.

Blessings in this sensitive and essential area of needed Loving response.
Betty Lue

We can become more responsible by choosing our emotional state or vibration. 
Victim state or “at effect” is below the line and responsible or conscious state above the line.
Most people live in fear and allow themselves to feel victim to their emotions.
When you become at choice, you are responsible for your thoughts and feelings. 

 SCALE OF EMOTIONAL STATES 

              SERENITY OF BEINGNESS
              EXHILARATION
              CHEERFULNESS
              STRONG INTEREST                             
              CONSERVATISM
              CONTENTED - MILD INTEREST
              BOREDOM - DISINTEREST
PLUS

___________________________________________________
MINUS
              HOSTILITY - ANTAGONISM
              PAIN
              RESENTMENT - HATE - ANGER
              COVERT HOSTILITY - UNEXPRESSED RESENTMENT
              FEAR – ANXIETY
              NO RESPONSIBILITY
              MAKING AMENDS - GRIEF - SYMPATHY
              HELPLESSNESS - USELESSNESS
              APATHY - VICTIM
              PITY - FAILURE
              SHAME - BLAME – REGRET
*************************************************************


30 Days to Healing and Seeing things Differently!
This exercise has a profound impact on how we see and live our lives.
This daily practice will heal and transform your life
With continued practice, there will be a spiritual awakening.

Forgiveness heals our perception and gives us Response-Ability.
Choice empowers us to Create our Experience Consciously.
Gratitude expands what we Choose and increases our Joy.


Daily Practice:
Begin each morning with a pad of lined paper and a pen.

Write and say 30 forgivenesses as they come to mind.
Simply write “I forgive”…and let the rest just come from within.
(No need to understand or feel anything.)
I forgive you for being mean.
I forgive myself for letting anyone hurt me.
I forgive my body’s limitation.
I forgive myself for being late.
I forgive everything.


Now write and say 30 Choices. 
I choose to be happy.
I choose to be free.
I choose to do what I love.
I choose to forgive….



In the Evening (before bed)
Write and say 30 Gratitudes
I appreciate the energy I have.
I love being happy.
I am grateful I have you in my life.
I thank God.

PS Even a few of each is better than none. 
Do what you can and trust it is working.
Even when you are driving to work, you can do this process aloud.
The key is your willingness to 
DO THE WORK!

Friday, July 10, 2020

Choose!

Affirmations:
I choose wisely and well.
We either succeed or we learn.
I learn from mistakes and choose again.
I am responsible for my choices.

You and I Can Choose.

When I am conscious, I can choose wisely.
When I feel safe, I can choose kindness.
When I remember Love, I can choose to express Love.
When I prefer a good outcome, I can and will choose Goodness.

If you are predicting drama, you will choose drama.
If you are criticizing and blaming, you will choose to make others wrong.
If you don't care, you will choose resentment and regret and separation.
If you are feeling sorry for yourself, you will choose self pity and neediness.

You can choose differently.
No matter what the circumstances, you can choose better for yourself.
Your attitude determines the experience you have.
With positive thoughts and feelings, you have chosen positive outcomes.

No one is a victim.
We all are volunteers.
When we victimize ourselves, we believe that externals determine our experience.
When we pre-judge what will be, we will experience our assigned outcome.

Volunteer for what you want to be.
Volunteer for learning and growth.
Volunteer for healing and health.
Volunteer for happiness and enjoyment.

You can always have more of what you want.
You can always be what you want to be.
You can always experience fulfillment.
Life is your canvas and learning laboratory.

Begin to practice with a better attitude.
Notice what happy people do to be happy.
Determine what you want from life and choose it daily.
Ask how you can change your mind to enjoy life more.

You are the chooser.
You are not a loser (unless you affirm you are!)
You are meant to rise up with inspiration and motivation.
You are here to give your best in order to experience the best in you.

Every dream can come true when you allow yourself to believe you can.
Every joy can be yours when you change your picture of what will be.
Every possibility will make itself known to you when you trust you can choose.
You are just now waking up into the reality you choose to have and hold with Love.

I am trusting and believing in you and me to set ourselves free to be All We Can Be.
Betty Lue

Thursday, July 09, 2020

Relationship Healing

Affirmations:
I am here to love and heal what is needs love.
I am responsible for the quality of my relationships.
I begin with treating myself with respect, trust, appreciation and love.
I want all my relationships to be treated well and so I treat them all with respect.

Heal Your Relationships! 

You will heal your relationships by healing yourself.
All upset is a wakeup call.
Everything that is not right for you is calling you to look at your past for healing.
When you are at peace with yourself, you know that others who are not OK are asking you for help.

When I am not at peace with myself, it will show with others.
When I am unhappy, I will project it on others.
When I am disrespectful with me, I will disrespect others.
What is upsetting in me, I tend to project and perceive in others.

We project our healing needs onto others.
We give advice to others that we need to hear.
We blame others for what we have guilt about.
We seem to look for outside cause, rather than heal what is hurting within us.

When you complain, see what you can do within yourself to stop complaining.
When you are angry, consider what you can do to stop trying to hurt and blame others. 
When you are needy, ask yourself how you can fill your own needs.
When we depend on others to take care of us always, we will have intermittent results.

When people love us, they can and will do it well when they are loving themselves well.
When people are feeling hurt, scared, upset, lonely, angry, they will have difficulty in loving anyone well.
It is essential that we learn to take responsibility for our needs and ask for help from those who are able.
We must learn to discern who is able and willing to be truly helpful for themselves and others.

We may find that unconditionally loving and giving people are rare in our experience.
We may see that we need to become unconditionally loving for others who are in need.
We may even feel drained by hurting and needy others, especially when we have denied ourselves.
It is essential that we forgive ourselves for not appreciating, loving and caring well for ourselves.

What will it take for you to be responsible for our own needs?
What do you need to do to create partnerships, families and friendships that are healing and healthy?
What can you do to start everyday tuning into what you need and fulfilling that need first?
How do you love yourself every day in every way you are aware?

When you awaken, ask yourself: “What do I need to do to fulfill myself today?”
“What will make me feel happy and valuable today?”
“How can I give myself what is good for me?”
At the end of the day, give yourself a list of “gratitudes” and own them as your loving responsibility.

You have created your life as it is.
You can change your relationships, communication, thinking and emotions.
You can stop judging, blaming and feeling guilty.
You can let go of past errors and begin again today in the healthy and positive way.

You can, because you want to heal your relationships with yourself and with others.
I trust you and me to always look for the best ways to heal ourselves and others.
I give my best because you deserve it and so do I.
Betty Lue

Forgive the past.
Learn from any mistakes.
Heal your disappointments and hurts.
Grow with your goals.
Live with gratitude.

You make the difference you want to see.
No one else can do it for you.

FOUR AGREEMENTS by don Miguel RuizTake nothing personally.
Make no assumptions.
Keep your agreements.
Always give your best.

RECOMMENDATIONS FOR ALL RELATIONSHIPS With mates, partners, friends, children, co-workers, etc.

Keep your agreements faithfully.
(Communicate changes honestly and immediately.)

Give more than you expect to receive. Do more than your “fair” share.

Receive everything with open appreciation.Express your thanks sincerely and take nothing for granted.

Live your own life in integrity and on purpose.Clarify, communicate and live your mission, your path, your principles and values.

Be responsible for yourself, your work and live your life impeccably. Don’t expect others to pick up after you or take care of you.

Stop using, blame, criticism or guilt to control or manipulate.
Stop making demands, threats or using neediness to get your way.

Communicate effectively and respectfully.Request a time and place and tone of voice that works for both parties.

Be your best self in all circumstances.Focus always on teaching by example. (and apologize immediately when you forget or neglect.)

Use your time together wisely.Focus on meaningful, positive and inspiring conversation and activities.

Spend time, money, energy and resources only on what you value and want to increase.Waste nothing in your relationship.  No arguing, pettiness, emotional dumping or negativity.
 

As circumstances change, there is a need to re-commit to what works for all participants.Families need to meet to look at the specific needs of each individual to be at their best.
Couples need to ensure that the relationship is “serving all parties.
Business partners need to return to their original agreement and consider changing roles as needed.

Life requires that we be in relationship.With respect for ourselves and each other there is open communication.
With responsibility for the quality of our relationships, there is a willingness to seek what works for all.
With cooperation there is encouragement to listen for ways to serve the needs of everyone.
When everyone WINS, the relationships are harmonious, peaceful and enjoyable.

Wednesday, July 08, 2020

Interdependence

Affirmations:
Love is Freedom.
I free you to be you.
Love is Trust.
I trust you to freely be who you are.

Dependence – Independence – Interdependence

Our basic human needs are survival, safety, love/belonging, esteem and self actualization.

Dependence
We are a species born to be dependent on our parents, elders and teachers.
To survive we learn from observing, listening and as well as receiving sustenance and guidance
We listen and follow instruction and learn through trial and error.
We learn to adapt to a variety of people who may teach us differently.

We seek approval and learn to please to get what we need and want.
When we discern what is valued by each adult/teacher/leader we can accommodate.
We are valued for our obedience and our dependence, as we grow in self sufficiency.
In the beginning of our lives dependence can be fostered, ignored or discouraged by care givers.

Independence
When our ego is fed, we grow strong in confidence, assertiveness and decision-making.
Usually in the stage of adolescence or emancipation, we begin to assert our independence.
We choose alternative facts, experiences and creative competition to succeed in being best or right.
Our independence fosters creative problem-solving, innovation, and making decisions independently.

Independence is where we learn to take responsibility for successes and failures.
We learn to persist even when there are challenges, resistance and difficulties.
In the independent phase we learn to benefit rather than blame and to grow in courage.
The desire of independent adults is to “do it ourselves” without interference from authorities.

Interdependence
When we have mastered the basic human needs (above), we may return to seek interdependence.
In families, businesses, organizations, we seek to interact with others in a respectful and responsible way.
Our desire to cooperate encourages mutual benefit to all parties for win= win outcomes.
With an attitude based on the principles of being fair, caring and sharing, everyone benefits.

When everyone helps everyone succeed with no winners and losers, all persons become more conscious.
With mindfulness and consciousness following universal principles, everyone grows in understanding.
“Two become more than two” and ”One for All and All for One” is understood and actualized.
The experience of interdependence in unavailable until individual independence is achieved.

Consider where you are on your path to fulfillment and creative consciousness.
Consider what steps you need to take to be fully and freely independent.
Consider what individual basic needs you are called to fulfill first.
Understand where others are around you as you allow their personal journey.

There is freedom and trust, as we learn to accept ourselves in our own journey.
There is respect and allowance for others, as we let go of judgment and comparison.
There is creativity and diverse opportunities, as we allow ourselves to dream and vision.
There is enthusiasm and gratitude, as we step out in faith with daring and certainty.

Life is Good wherever we are in our own journey.
Loving, Trusting and Freeing us All.
Betty Lue