Tuesday, August 21, 2018

A Good Life!


Affirmations:
I am Good. I do Good.  I have Goodness in my life.
I happily work everyday to create and enjoy the life I have.
Life works for me, because I work for only good for me and all.
I trust the choices I make and appreciate all I am learning and remembering.


Do You Really Want to Have a Good Life?

If not, do not read this reminder.
If so, read and practice everyday what resonates with you.
If it works, keep doing it until it stops working.
If it doesn’t work, find what does!

Yes, I am clear and concise, tough and trusting.
Yes, I know you can have the good life you want.
Yes, you need to want it and work continuously for it.
Yes, you need to stop now everything that is not good for you.

Stop wasting time.
Stop making excuses.
Stop playing ”poor me.”
Stop defending, justifying and making excuses.

Now is your time.
You are the only one who can do it for you.
This is your life.
You must devote your time, attention and resources to make it Good!

Being responsible for your life is adult behavior.
Being responsible for your relationships is mature.
Being responsible for your finances is adult.
Being responsible for what you see, feel, and believe about yourself is key.

Begin by getting a clear picture of what a Good Life is for you.
Notice the qualities of a “good Life” you have assigned.
Seek out other examples of those who are living a Good Life.
Become aware of the steps it takes to create and maintain a good life.

Few sustain their ideal life, because there is continuous responsibility and work to live well.
Some get an inheritance or win the lottery, but very few experience the “good life” without work.
Some live off others hard work, but few can maintain what they want to have without good work.
Some acquire and then lose what they acquire, because they fall into lazy, greedy patterns.

A Good life can be simple, living off the land in an environmentally sustainable way.
A Good life can be service-oriented, using what you have to improve the lives of others.
A Good life can be exploring, research, education, acquiring more and doing more.
A Good life can be fully appreciating what you have and knowing always you have plenty.

We can settle or seek.
We can create and enjoy.
We can have and share.
We can complain and deplete.

Life is a blank canvas, an open field of possibility, an endless flow of unlimited creativity.
If you don’t like the picture you draw or the tower of blocks you build, let it go and choose again.

You choose your own Good Life.
Make it yours and do the work.
Be responsible for your creations.
Clean up immediately after yourself.

Life is infinite.  There is no end to creation.
There are unlimited canvases on which to design your good life.
Have fun and it will be faster and easier to start over.
I enjoy the process, since there is no destination that will satisfy you.

Loving us in creating and enjoying.
Betty Lue

RULES OF REMEMBERING
No complaining.
No stories of past pain, problems or mistakes.
No criticizing, aloud or silently.
No need to justify, explain or seek approval.
Stop every harmful thought, word or deed.
Focus on giving your best right now.
Clean up after yourself and keep life in order.
Hurt no one with your thoughts, words or deeds.
Forgive yourself and apologize immediately.
If you see something that is needed, simply do it.
Respect your body and mind with only good.
Appreciate everything you have and do and are.
Choose to be happy, content and grateful.
Speak with clarity and intention to give only Love.
Let go of what no longer works for you.
Live every moment, as if Love in all Life matters….because it does.
Betty Lue, 2013

Monday, August 20, 2018

Give With Gratitude


Affirmations:
I no longer dare to compare, evaluate and expect more.
I give my best with Joy.
I receive the Good I give with gratitude.
I appreciate unconditional giving and receiving.
I now give simply to enjoy freely giving.


Sacrifice Does Not Work! – Give With Joy!

Take care of yourself first.
Be able to respond and give with love.
Never give at the expense of your own well being.
When you give expecting to get, you may be disappointed.

Giving is not martyring yourself.
Bargaining or exchange is “giving to get” something in return.
Real Love does not give to get.
Loving with condition is not really loving, it is exchange.

Learn to give with gratitude and Joy.
Joyful giving occurs when we are full of joy and gratitude.
When I have, I give with joy and gratitude.
When I give freely, I am sharing what I have.

Giving with expectations of return is not a gift.
Giving freely is giving and receiving from the gift being given.
When we take impeccable care of ourselves, we are full of love to share.
When we are loving ourselves, our love is shared easily, naturally and freely.

The “set up” in relationships is to measure and evaluate who gives what and how much.
The expectation to have others give what you want to get, is fraught with potential resentment.
The sacrifice or martyring of one’s time, money and energy leads to guilt and resentment.
When the recipient feels they are not giving their “fair share”, they feel inadequate and less than.

When people feel guilty about not giving what you want, they withdraw or blame.
Guilt rarely creates healthy apology and change in behavior.
Guilt usually generates avoidance, withdrawal, withholding or blame, resentment and rejection.
Making another feel guilty is a form of attack.

Be clear and concise when you want something from someone else.
When you want to give and get, negotiate what is fair for both.
When you want an exchange of time, money and energy, explicit with your request.
“I want….. and I am willing to…………”
“What do you want and what are you willing to……?”

When you give from pure joy of giving, be clear it is a gift from your heart.
When you give, because you want something in exchange, be honest in your sharing.
Let there be no deception in your or the other if you are giving with expectation of a return gift.
Be willing to share specifically and exactly what you want in return, so neither party is disappointed.

Life can be fair-care-share by being fair with yourself and others as you share how you care.
Loving you,
Betty Lue

Sunday, August 19, 2018

Open for Love


Affirmations:
Today I affirm my whole Self in every way.
Today I demonstrate real authentic Love and respect for myself.
Today I teach others how to be responsible and respectful.
Today I live a life I am truly pleased by and proud of.
Today I genuinely Love me.


Love Waits on Welcome
The quickest way to become Adult is to truly Love Your Whole Self well.

Are you ready to love you?
Are you willing to love you?
Are you open to love you?
Do you know how to love you?

Is it possible we have been nurturing our inner child to stay a child?
Do we even know how to love ourselves into being an adult?
Is it possible we have been coddling the weak part of ourselves?
Could it be our society does not know what it means to be responsible?

You have two selves essentially.
An adult rational capable responsible confident Self.
And a childlike emotional dependent  insecure little self.
You may have learned to pay attention to the weak and needy one.

Are we taught to give attention help, encouragement to the whining, complaining, unhappy one?
Are we stuck in feeling sorry for and feeding those who seem to be unable or unwilling?
Have we been confused by the beliefs in how good it feels to carry, serve and baby others?
Do we believe love is baby talk, pampering, advising and smothering others with attention
?

Therapists, doctors, caregivers, nurses, mothers often are taught to create dependence.
Our helping profession often fosters dependence on them for help, guidance and direction.
Non profit agencies, the government welfare and unemployment agencies may not know a better way.
When our society is economically based on caring for those who are sick and needy, it weakens.

We need to care about others needs for education, right livelihood, health care to strengthen society.
We can begin to foster independence, being rational, responsible, respectful and confident.
We can teach, model and inspire people of all ages and abilities to do for themselves.
We can demonstrate and provide safe quality whole life education with practical and effective methods.

We can offer people work opportunities where they receive benefits.
We can give people clear choices to thrive rather than survive day to day.
We already provide food, shelter, water, health care and education to most folks.
But we often fail to teach how to use what we have with respect and responsibility.

When people receive or gifts from parents, government, non profits, are they taught to give back?
When people receive an education, are they expected to get a job?
When people get a License, are they taught to drive carefully?
When people reach 18-21, are they expected to live on their own as adults?

We don’t need governmental rules or handouts to accomplish creating responsible adults.
We need responsible parents, teachers, caregivers and people to teach by example.
We need all of us to step up and correct our fear-based nurturing.
We need to do everything we can do for ourselves, our families, our community and world.

When we think in terms of what we cannot do, we will not believe we can do for ourselves.
When each one of us changes how we think, speak and treat ourselves and others, things will change.
When we encourage, strengthen, affirm, and create positive opportunities, everyone will benefit.
When we ourselves become self sufficient, confident and capable, others will learn from us.

I
t is time to grow up, to become all we believe we can be and more.
It is time to take responsibility for ourselves and our lives and empower ourselves.
It is time to think, speak and act in positive and beneficial ways to build a better world.
It is time to start today to practice what we know will work for one and all.

One day at a time.
You are unlimited and totally capable of giving and doing your best to you everyday.
Affirming “You Can”, when you think and say and behave like “You Can!”
Betty Lue

Saturday, August 18, 2018

Be Responsible


Affirmations:
I am willing to respond with Love.
I am willing to care for my whole Self so I am able to respond with Love.
I choose to be responsible for my self, my life and my relationships.
I forgive all mistakes and choose better ways to live.


Are You Responsible?

Are you willing to be responsible for your life?
Are you ready to learn how to have a life that works?
Are you willing to stop expecting someone else to do it?
Are you open to stop complaining about others?

When we focus on ourselves, we clean up after our selves.
When we pay attention, we learn from our mistakes.
When we are honest, we know when we could do better.
When we make excuses, we simply stay stuck in the old ways.

When we are willing to learn from life, we see what is not working.
When we are willing to make changes, we stop doing the same thing.
When we are open to finding a better way, we explore alternatives.
When we are open to being responsible, we seek only to do our best.

Are you up for the challenge?
No complaining or whining for 21 days?
I have purple (complaint-free world bracelets to give you to use.
When we want to change the habit of blaming someone else, we need practice.

The habit of blaming parents, government, economy, spouse or others weakens us.
When we complain, we drain our energy and gain nothing.
When we try to get others to fix our problems or feel sorry for us, we lose our power.
When we whine, justify, make excuses, we try to make our choice right.

Who is willing to be responsible?
Who is willing to take full responsibility for our lives, finances, relationships, and situations?
There is freedom and power in being responsible.
There is stuckness and weakness in blaming others.

Imagine that there is an external parent, partner, Government, or God to take care of you.
How dependent would we be on making up we need do nothing but expect their help.
How childlike would be our neediness and how dependent would we stay on another?
Perhaps we have thought that depending on someone else will make us strong??

In nature people stay together to be stronger.
In nature it is survival of the strongest and smartest.
In nature it is take care of others and they will take care of you.
In natural societies, people stay in tribes, clans and families to make sure all needs are met.

We have created an unnatural society, by not expecting and showing how to be responsible.
When everyone is responsible, every part will be filled.
When everyone does their fair share, all needs are met.
When we all seek what is best for all, everyone has enough.

What can you do now to play your part responsibly?
·     Do what you see needs to be done.
·     Take care of everything you have agreed to do.
·     Always give your best and keep your agreements.
·     Pay for your own expenses by doing what you can.
·     Live within your means and save for times you may not have work.
·     Be responsible with your spending…. (Less is More!)
·     Have fun with no money.
·     Be kind to everyone, including kids and elders and animals and the Earth.

It is time to grow up and show up with respect, responsibility and cooperation.
Trusting we are able and we will do what we can do.
Betty Lue