Wednesday, April 06, 2016

Does Absence Make the Heart Grow Fonder?

I choose to live in Love with Love no matter what.
I let go of fear and judgment and return to Love.
I give myself the very best I know and stay in Love.
I undo emotional reactivity and respond with love.

“I cannot live with him and cannot live without him?”

Why Is It Often Easier to Be Alone?
Why is there resentment with some and forgiveness with others?
Why are we repulsed by certain people and attracted to others?
What makes us appreciate some people more when they are away?

What we think when we are with people is a direct reflection on ourselves.
How we judge others comes from our own self judgment and lack of forgiveness.
When we behave in ways we judge, we prefer not to be with people who are similar.
Our guilt, shame and embarrassment cause us to want to stay away or be alone.

If we could erase judgment, hatred and fear, we would feel safe in other’s presence.
It is our unforgiving behavior, thoughts, feelings and words that sets us up to want to be alone.
Our upset is created by our guilt for ways in which we are unwilling to be compassionate and loving.
Our guilt and lack of forgiveness create a barrier in which we withhold our Love.

Always take stock of your own behavior, thoughts and words before condemning anyone.
Take time to ask: The real reason for my upset ( anger or fear) is:
Write down all thoughts that come to mind.
You will find pages of stuff which is archived in our minds and interferes with loving response.

Emotional reactions distort our perception.
Attack thoughts  and judgments create fear of being attacked and judged.
When we create enough distance, we can find a way to return to love.
Always choose to distance yourself until you can think, talk and behave with respect and kindness.

Some corrected misperceptions:
What we see in another is also in ourselves. (or we couldn’t see it?)
All criticism ( ie resentment) is always about the critic.
We can only heal or correct the problem at the source of our false belief or misperception.
What we fear is the feeling of our attack coming back on us.

Healing Our Projections => Seeing Only Wholeness

1.  We perceive what we believe.
2.  We believe what we think we are.
3.   If I believe I am my past, then I believe you are your past.
4.   Believing in my past is to see and live it over again in all I see and do and am.
5.   Believing in your past is to remember it and continue to blame you for it.
6.  The more I feel guilty about my past, the more I place blame on you.
7.  All anger is my guilt projected onto others.
8.  To forgive my past is to release it.
9.  To release is to see it no more.
10.As I release my past, I release others from my projected guilt and self-judgment.
11. As I see myself whole, I see wholeness in others.
12 .As I heal my guilt about past mistakes, I heal my fear of the future.
13. To be in the present is to heal (erase) the past.
14. As I live in the present and love myself as I am now, I like you in the present and see you as you are now.
15. In this present moment, there is only Love for ourselves, each other and all that is.

Every relationship is the opportunity to correct our misperceptions and unforgivness of ourselves.

Use every upset as an opportunity to clear the fear and return to Love.
Anger is not justified in any form when  you realize, your anger is your wakeup call!

Loving us all as we wake up in Love.
Betty Lue

Relationship Perceptions

·      Perception is a mirror, not a fact.
·      What we see in another is a projection of our history and our internal judgments.
·      Therefore, we see what we want to see in the moment, what fits with our current ideas, beliefs, and attitudes.
·      Relationships are an opportunity to become a spotless mirror.
·      Relationships show us where we are stuck in our opinions and self-judgment.
·      Healing our perceptions, clearing our relationships, loving everyone equally, and cleaning our mirror is the purpose of the world and physical experience.
·      Present moment experiences reflect past similars. We recreate past patterns until we come to peace and clear our misperceptions.
·      The major portion of all relationships with lovers, spouses, children, employers and friends is to clear the past.
·      Awareness with no judgment is healing. Simply notice.
·      We are responsible for our experience and receive what we have asked for exactly as we have asked.
·      Everything works together for good.
·      To consciously give ourselves and our relationships to Spirit is to allow the undoing to occur in an easy, natural way with trust in the outcome.
·      To the degree we respect ourselves, we are respected by others.
·      To the degree we abandon ourselves, we are abandoned by others.
·      To the degree we listen to and honor ourselves, we are listened to and honored by others.
·      Also, to the degree we love and trust ourselves, we can love and trust others.
·      So, it behooves all of us to clean up our own relationship with ourselves—to let go of everything that blocks us from respecting, being with, listening to and honoring, loving and trusting         ourselves. Indeed, this is the cure-all for relationships.

·     The simple truth is that the outer reality is but a reflection of our inner kingdom.