Friday, February 06, 2015

Have you said “Good Bye”?

I let go with honorable closure. (See below how!!)
I release pettiness and let Love lead my life.
I say “good-bye” ( “God be withYe”) as I move on.
I free myself and others to trust ourselves to choose.

Have you hung on too long?
Have you been willing to let go?
Are you ready to surrender  and give up?
Are you willing to allow the end to come?

Some stay too long.
Hanging on hurts and builds resentment.
Clinging to what was, limits what is to be.
Set yourself free to see what really can be yours.

The flow of life and health and happiness changes naturally.
When we long for feelings that we had, we may feel mad.
Wishing for what was may make us crazy and desperate.
Stay with what is right now and see if it still fits for you.

Be honest with yourself.
What is best for you is best for others.
You cannot turn the tide.
But you can take precaution when the tide turns.

Be awake and aware.
Be real and see what is true.
Do not pretend and close your eyes,
Be willing to take positive action.

Some leave too soon.
Leaving early may cause regret and sorrow.
All things change form.
Nothing stays the same.

Look again at what you have committed to.
Some relationships are forever.
Some are temporary .
Relationships help us discern what we really want.

We each deserve what is right and true for us.
When we have paid a debt, we can move on.
When we have healed our wounds, we cam let go.
When we have taught and learned, we graduate.

Listen within to see what is true.
Clean up after yourself to the finish.
Leave no one hurting or lost in your leaving.
Make honorable closure in all relationships.

Life calls us to be respectful and responsible in all things.
Loving us all to allow the flow of trust and freedom in all things.
Betty Lue

Honorable Closure       
How do you complete a relationship, marriage, teaching-learning experience, job or friendship?
How do you know you are really complete?
People may walk away without really finishing the healing work, because it is easier emotionally.   
People don’t know how to come to a truly peaceful place, where “good-bye” is “God be with You”.

When we are complete, we are at peace and in love.  
We have no regrets, no resentments, no unhappy memories.

Honorable closure acknowledges:
1)   the learning and growth received,
2)   challenges and difficulties experienced,
3)   appreciation of gifts and blessings,
4)   forgiveness and amends made.

**Acknowledge within your self and with the other person all that you have learned and how you have grown and benefited from the experience.
**Honor and express the challenges and difficulties that occurred and perhaps were endured during the time together.
**Offer your gratitude and appreciation to the other for the benefits you received.
**Share your forgiveness and/or make amends for those places of unconscious or conscious errors of omission or commission.  Often neither party is aware of what went unexpressed until the two have an opportunity to talk together.  This is very valuable when done with the conscious intention for a peaceful conclusion.  
**And lastly, give your full appreciation and blessings to those whom you are leaving.   

Honorable closure includes a face to face or heart to heart connection so that all parties have a full opportunity to express their piece of the whole. Incompletion is never one sided. If one party loses and is in grief neither person is at peace.   If you cannot complete in person, write out your thoughts and feeling respectfully and with gratitude. 
I am grateful I have learned… 
I am grateful I was challenged……
I am grateful to have regrets which I can apologize for and learn from.
I am grateful to see how much I have received and appreciate……..

Do your part when you part.
When we complete a relationship, job, living situation with honor for all, we are free to choose again without being haunted by the past or unconsciously repeating the same patterns.

To move on, to create anew, to be fully inspired requires honorable closure.  Begin now!

Saying good-bye can be done with love, respect and profound gratitude and inner peace. Do it Now!

 Betty Lue  1983