Thursday, September 18, 2014

We Learn by Copying

Blessed by rain last night and this morning!
BE grateful and more will come.

I forgive myself for teaching falsely.
I choose to express and model helpful, happy living.
I appreciate creating relationships which are respectful.
I teach what I want by how I think, speak, act, live and love.

Children learn how to be adult by copying adults.
Adults learn by copying what they see and hear.
We all learn from one another.
What we perceive in others we strengthen in ourselves.

When we watch people fight, we learn how to fight.
When we watch people love, we learn how to love.
When we hear people swear, we learn to swear.
When we hear people be quiet, we learn to be quiet.

What we see and hear, we copy to become like others.
All children copy their parents and caregivers.
Our natural instinct is to learn from those around us.
We learn all our coping skills by watching others cope.

Crying, laughing, singing, cooking, helping are all conditioned.
How we learn is from what we see, hear, feel, and intuit.
Yes, even infants pick up on energy, thoughts and words.
How we relate is learned from observing adult relationships.

When we want our children to be more respectful, we must be respectful.
When we want harmony in our home, we must be harmonious at home.
When we want good manners, we need to display good manners.
When we want more quiet, we must be more quiet.

Our spouse, friends, elders, teachers are all role models for kids.
TV shows, movie stars and sports stars, video games all teach.
Children who are exposed to violence will display violence.
Children who are exposed to peace-making will display peacemaking.

Who adults associate with also has an influence.
Subconsciously we are always learning from one another.
When we are strong in our values we will be influenced less.
When we see approval and to belong, we copy others more.

In the presence of someone we admire, we tend to act, look and talk like them.
In the presence of someone we fear, we tend to be what they want to stay out of trouble.
In the presence of someone who is changeable, we tend to be confused about what to be and do.
In the presence of someone who is not present, we may learn to be absent to ourselves and others.

 Begin to observe what you are teaching.
Watch your words, your tone,  your facial expressions, your behavior.
Notice how often others who admire you try to live up to your preferences and values.
Take responsibility for leading  and teaching those around by what you do, not what you say.

Watch what you are teaching.
Blessing us all for becoming more aware.
Betty Lue

If Children (and Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy,

They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. 

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.